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Florion
September 20th, 2009, 02:20 PM
Last week, I started going out with a really sweet, really cute boy. Unfortunately, he's not very bright, not my type, and completely in love with me for reasons that elude me (he's liked me for a year or two now; I only noticed him a couple weeks ago, when school started). When I'm with him, I honestly like him very much, but when I'm not, I get nervous and don't want to see him again; I feel like I'd be lying if I said I could love him at those times.

So far, we had planned to see a movie on Friday.

Should I break up with him before then, or give him a chance (because I do like him when I'm with him and it may just be my social phobia that makes me scared of making plans with him)? And if I do have to break up with him, how would I do it? I'm not even sure if I'm breaking up with him because I think I'm too smart for him and can't see him as an equal (as bitchy as this sounds, if you can't respect your partner, how can you be in a relationship with them?) or if it's because I'm socially anxious (if it's that, then I can't even talk this over with my shrink until Thursday).

I've never had a boyfriend before; I have no clue what is going on, what I should be considering.

Rainstorm
September 20th, 2009, 02:56 PM
Hmm...tough question.

I would give him a chance, simply because it may be because this is your first boyfriend. Go out with him, chat, and have a good time. Try and see why he likes you. Ask him , "What do you like about me?"

If you don't think it will work, simply tell him. If he's a good person, he'll understand