How do I talk to my cousin?

[Confused123]

Ok, Me and my cousin are very good friends. he tells me that he was supposed to be born as a female but he posted a survey on his myspace that talked about him being gay,getting surgery,and other stuff you don't need to know XD. I know I shouldn't talk to him about it but he's like a real good friend of mine and I think for me to get used to the fact (I don't care if that's what he digs) so, What should I do?
1.Ignore it
2.Talk to him about it?
I know you might say its none of my business but he's like my best/very great friend. Thanks! :)

[Shalom]

You have to be okay with his life, accepting everyone is best. It could be just a phase if he is young, odds are he will grow out of it you never know. I say just accept it as is.

[RaeNose]

I think you should talk to him about it.
A survey is nothing llike talking to your cousin in person.
Plus, it will open up lines in communication, so that he knows he can come talk to you about anything.
You should respect his decisions, even if you don't agree with them.
However, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't talk to him about it.

[Fourth Dimension]

if thats what he wants to do just support him through it if thats what he wants to do be there for him continue to be close with him dont let ur friendship die over something like this but if you do talk to him let hm know you are always there for him

[hammertime3675309]

You could talk to him. I know I'd never be able to do it.

[Confused123]

Of course I respect his idea and all I just wanted to know If I should talk to him or not.I guess I will I'm visiting his house lol.

[nick]

I think you should talk about it. The fact that he's posted on myspace suggests that he wants people to know about it and probably needs to feel your acceptance. You can use that as a starting point, just say something like "I've read your stuff on myspace" or whatever.

[trouble]

You have to be ok with it and respect what he wants to do, and his sexual preference. Its his buisness. Just be with him like you usually are.

[anime Freak]

i personaly do not support that kind of behavior, but since he is you family and ytou probabl care about him, i would just support him, and if he is convinced this is whats best for him, let him do it

[pontiacdriver]

Ok, Me and my cousin are very good friends. he tells me that he was supposed to be born as a female but he posted a survey on his myspace that talked about him being gay,getting surgery,and other stuff you don't need to know XD. I know I shouldn't talk to him about it but he's like a real good friend of mine and I think for me to get used to the fact (I don't care if that's what he digs) so, What should I do?
1.Ignore it
2.Talk to him about it?
I know you might say its none of my business but he's like my best/very great friend. Thanks! :)

What I have noticed about folks who are like your cousin is that they are usually very sure about their feelings and that there is really nothing you can do to talk them out of performing such a surgery. At this point all you can do is just to be his friend and accept his female alter ego if that is what he prefer you to see. At the same time your cousin has to know that you are friends with him as a boy and that he has to accommodate your needs, too, in that he cannot deny the fact that he was born a male and has had male experiences. While you have to get used to the fact that your cousin is evolving differently than you in a literal way that such an evolution should not come between your caring for him and accepting him in whatever form he takes. Your cousin has to understand that no matter what form he takes that he still has obligations to his family in the sense that he has to know that his male self will always be a part of him as I seriously doubt he is going to be having surgery anytime soon especially if he is a teen.

In short, what you can discuss with your cousin is that he has to ensure that he keeps into account that even when he makes a change in the distant future that you want your underlying friendship to stay the same no matter who he is or what sex he is. If Charlie should happen to become Charlice, then Charlice should still respect and care for you the same way Charlie did and possibly do a lot of the same things you did together. You can also discuss with him to be careful where he posts his feelings and with whom he hangs out so that folks don't hurt him or take advantage of him. You can also say that while his sexuality is his business how he treats his family is everyone's business and that as he makes a change he has to be mindful of the family as a whole as he cannot operate in a vacuum and make such a change without most folks being on board with it. The most important thing you must not do is discuss the merits of sex change or whether he is being rational as you cannot influence him there. All you can do now is to ensure that when a change happens, if it does happen, he does it gradually and not radically.

[Ortizitthisone]

Supporting him is best, and trying to understand his reasons is important.

Mods might want to move this to Teen Sexuality?