Dealing with it

[The Joker]

OK, so no one knows I'm gay. Everytime someone says "That's so gay" or "He's a fag", I get really uncomfortable. Especially when it's a good friend, I wonder what they would think of me if they knew. Some random girl told me I looked like a fag, it was just a random insult, the type that I just brush off, but that one made me pretty upset.

How do I deal with this?

[daveywavey]

matt, people are very cruel like this i know how it is man, i feel for you and im always here if you want to talk about it or something , i go through the same thing with my friends, everytime i hear them say that i get a weird feeling in my stomach, like i was just kind of insulsted, i wish i could come out to my friends but i dont thinkt hey would understand either, its tough for us sometimes matt, if you want to talk just message me or something on here


just keep your chin high matt, your a good guy dont ever think anything less then that :D

[HelloWorld123456]

ehh ... this world is a bitch ...


Well ... if you wanna get all the doubts off your friends' mind ... well you can get a gf and then break up with her nicely ... (Dont use ppl but if you want to keep up the str8 person image ... get a girl make out with her once infront of you friends then break up NICELY) tell her you are not meant for each other and that she could find way better than you ...


this will keep ppl from calling you fag or gay ...

And besides there is nothing wrong to be gay ... I am str8 myself ... but i accept everbody for whoever he is ... and these are really narrow minded bastards who think being gay is abnormal ...

=.=


Becool ... and be yourself

[Hyper]

You toughen up mentally or rather grow up a little in the sense that you realize their just stupid and the phrase is just that - a negative stereotype comment - one of many hundreds that 99% of teenagers use.

OFC that wont make it be less uncomfortable but its necessary to realize so you could become ''tough'' enough to not let it affect you in any way

There use to be a time when I was hurt by words and all especially those specifically directed at me but either with growing up or just being abused verbally&physically for years and choosing not to let it affect me I've grown fairly immune to verbality at least x.x

[thepieman]

You'd be surprised how many people just use the word gay without even thinking about it. Even some of my mates who know I'm bi use it, and then they feel bad afterwards - I just get on with it.

[RenamedUser]

ehh ... this world is a bitch ...


Well ... if you wanna get all the doubts off your friends' mind ... well you can get a gf and then break up with her nicely ... (Dont use ppl but if you want to keep up the str8 person image ... get a girl make out with her once infront of you friends then break up NICELY) tell her you are not meant for each other and that she could find way better than you ...


this will keep ppl from calling you fag or gay ...

And besides there is nothing wrong to be gay ... I am str8 myself ... but i accept everbody for whoever he is ... and these are really narrow minded bastards who think being gay is abnormal ...

=.=


Becool ... and be yourself

Err? No, don't get a girlfriend just to temporarily prove a point.

[daveywavey]

<--- agrees with jules

[Maverick]

OK, so no one knows I'm gay. Everytime someone says "That's so gay" or "He's a fag", I get really uncomfortable. Especially when it's a good friend, I wonder what they would think of me if they knew. Some random girl told me I looked like a fag, it was just a random insult, the type that I just brush off, but that one made me pretty upset.

How do I deal with this?
It takes time to become comfortable with your sexuality and dealing with the negativity that associates with it. Insults can hurt and be upsetting, but the best way of dealing with them is to just try and not let them bother you. It takes practice and getting used to but you can do it.

You're a cool guy Matt and you'll always have that, despite what someone may think of your sexuality.

[Shalom]

You can't let that get you down! I'm sure they wouldn't say it if they knew. Keep a positive attitude.

[Fourth Dimension]

i get the same i get called gay and all that all the time i ignore it but it really pisses me off but my friends know so they watch what they say but i really feel insulted toand its just fucked up for lack of better words but hang in there and remember when you decide to tell your friends start with your female friends they are general more understanding and then go for your closest guy friend and remember if the are true friends they will accecpt you