How does everyone cope

[daveywavey]

How does everyone cope with having to keep up a straight persona when you are gay or bi? I wish it was as easy as just telling everyone and it being okay. I am bi myself and I'd love to be proud if that publicly but I can't work up the courage. Are we born like this you think?

[Zero Beat]

I was born gay, and im happy with it. But tho to the kinds of people here, i have to keep straight at all times. I HATE IT! its so much work for me tho. Once im home im like "Yes!" XD

[daveywavey]

i know what you mean jack, one of your friends tell you wow shes hot huh? and im just like oo ya super hot, even though im not attracted to her at all in anyway shape or form lol

[yorkie]

I used to be in the same situation but i eventually found new people who cared for me and didnt care if i was gay straight or fish... It made being openly gay all the more easy

Mu advice is to honestly come out when you think uou can handle it and so can the people around you

[Appleton]

I live in a very conservative farming community and it's a small town. My family and a FEW really close friends know I'm out. With all the ideals here there is no way that I can come out fully and either be safe or be treated the same way as I'm being treated now. I'm very straight acting so keeping my true sexuality is really just a matter of me making sure I don't slip up, like looking at a cute guy too much or saying something to my friends that know that could be overheard .

I'm OK with that for rite now because my family and the ones that care about me know who I am and treat me just like they did before.

[nick]

Thats good to know Chris, it sounds like you have a good family there.

[Sanctuary94]

What I did was slowly start making comments about hot guys with my friends. Luckily my friends (mostly girls) really don't give a crap.

[artex]

good thread!!
i find it hard to be like 2 people, it for me is that i just have to remember who i am with, i think tho since i believe i am Bi i see both sides (not that gay ppl cant) but that i do have this attraction to both sexes.
sometimes i will say or do something and think OMG! i said something that they could think i am not str8! i think we all do that some, and as others said i think IF you do come out then it is easier there but in my mind i am just not ready, i am still worried what the people i care about will say and react..

[Rainstorm]

I do find it hard, because all of my friends do have Girlfriends and bug me about getting one. I can't do that to a girl, so I have to keep making up excuses, which is starting to get hard.

[daveywavey]

thanks alot for the great responses guys it really helps, PM me on this forum if you wanna talk more about it on aim or something

[daveywavey]

also since were talking about copeing, you know what helps me alot MUSIC, i love blues guitar and stuff like that, it cleanses the soul!!

[thepieman]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm bi but only a few people know it. It is hard and sometimes you just want to scream out that your bi, but I can't afford to do that where I live.

[Fourth Dimension]

omg i hate have to keep up the appearance that im hetero but its getting harder to do the way i deal is at night i type my thoughts and feelings on the computer and it makes me feel better like its a way to bare my heart and soul

[ackmedsgirl666]

it was really hard for me
i just fully came out recently
i told ppl i was bi for mths but trully there was alot more to me. but its never easy for anyone. so basically you can set a date time etc on when ur gonna tell someone. the first person i came out to was desi cuz she was my bestfriend so it was alittle bit easier(until everyone at my school found out)

[polarbear]

its a 24/7 job whenever hot girls go by i just act like i cant help but to look, and never let myself look at guys, its REALLY HARD and i tell a lot of sex jokes and gay jokes so know one thinks im even remotely gay. but i feel bad for saying gay joke. i wish i could just tell every one

[sildavin]

For me, its relatively easy. Granted I DO act straight more so then I do gay. I am bi. When Im with my friends, it doesn't matter to what people think I am, But I wish I could tell my family, that's my only problem, and quite frankly, the hardest part about the whole thing. Everyone in my family is against what they call "cock fags".. So the hardest thing is keeping Straight persona when Im with them, but other then that, most people Know im Bi, and I have no problem pointing out a hot guy from time to time ;)

Ive been told by a lot of people, that my gay jokes are the best around, and its because of them, I have have a gay reputation in my school, but hey. Watever :D

[MichaelAdams1993]

I just change the subject or try to make them feel like it was a dumb question with out actually answering because I don't want lie about it. I just recently told a gay friend that I am gay and with us knowing it has taken some of the stress off. We are keeping it between us though.

[atlf2856]

same prob here. I can't tell my parents of my thoughts nd stuff cuz they're some of the most religioous EVER andd my friends r almost all homophobs....... i told one girll i was bi but she is one of my closest and shes keepn it a secret. im not telln anyone i dont trust some ppl i did tell but they told others and almost got to my parents so i convinced em im not and still am tryn on some XD but anyways up to u, here its hard

[Tiberius]

Year old bump :locked: