Help Me

[tyler27846]

I am at a loss of what I should do. I am bi and I really wish I could have someone close to home to talk about this with. The problem is, is that my family doesn't support gay, lesbian, and bisexual people. My sister recently has been questioning me about what's going on because she has read some of my myspace comments. I tried telling her it was nothing and that it wasn't anything concerning her. I'm scared of her finding out I'm bi. She just told me something very hurtful... She said that if I was bi that she would be disgusted. I have no idea what I should do because my family would not accept me being bi. It really hurts not being accepted for who you really are. I wish I could tell someone close to me. Why do we have to live a lie? Why can't they just accept me being bi and be happy if I'm happy? Isn't that what family is supposed to do...be there for you no matter what and love you unconditionally? Why do we live in a place where gay, bi, and lesbian people are considered "wrong"? Were normal people just like everybody else. I just wish I had someone close to home to talk to.

[daveywavey]

you know im worried about the same thing right now tyler, i would love to talk to you more about it, i added you on aim , i am in the exact similiar boat you are in right now

[Jacobim Mugatu]

Just be more careful around your sister. people just accuse you of something even if they barely believe it just to see if you admit it. If she says she knows, just deny it.

[Jagador]

Becauseful where you put your stuff.... Myspace isn't a good place to put info that you don't want family or friends to know... in this situation, you sister. Not to mention im in your shoes. except im gay, not bi. My immediate family members practically know im gay, (except me dad) but it seems they are forgetting because they are still tryin to lodge in my brain that im not which is a worthless effort. When they first found out, they practically freaked. And if my dad found out, i'd be absolutely disowned, and left to survive on my own. So yeaaa.. i keep to myself now a days. I act as straight as possible, but i may slip every now and then...=T

Just becareful of what you do from now on if you don' want your sister or family to know.

[daveywavey]

I am sorry to hear that jag :(. I too would be disowned by my dad. He's abig military guy. I would be scared to find out what would happen. As for my mom I think she would be more understanding. Guess I will continue to live my lie for now..

[HelloWorld123456]

ok thats very disgusiting of your sister tell you that ... sorry but thats how i see it ...

I am str8 and sexual orientation for me has no importance ... for me everybody is NORMAL as society says ... and btw ... Whats "normal" ?

well you are lucky confronting yourself to gay ppl ... you can hide that you like boys ... get a gf and mess around with her (like makingout and stuff) at home infront of your sis so she would get any doubts off her mind ...

My question is ... why we (Str8 ppl) most of us dont get to accept gay/bi ppl ...? For me some of us are really assholes to say something like that

[daveywavey]

i personally have had a GF and a BF, and i like boys alot better, but i still might be interested in girls, i dont know, i guess im BI

[Watakanata]

Yeah I don't see why straight people have this pressure on them to NOT defend any gay/bi's that they know. They get disowned as often as gays by their parents...

I don't know why people have this pressure on them to not love their kids no matter what orientation they are. I am lucky enough to have a family that would still accept me if I told them. I don't know how I got so lucky, but even so I'm afraid to tell them...

I Don't think playing around with girls is the best answer for any mainly gay person... It's unfair to the girl in my opinion and would be cruel to them if they got seriously in love with you or anything like that.

I think everyone just has to wait for the right time. If you have family that won't support you? Then don't tell them until you don't need their support anymore. Grow up and become self sufficient and maybe even move out. Or you may never even tell them. I wouldn't consider it living a lie, I'd rather think of it as "Living with an undisclosed truth."

If you need any help or anything from me my email is on my profile. I use pretty much any chat service existing so pm me if you need my other addy. I can try my very best to answer any questions you have.

[Shalom]

You have to do whats good for you, and not care what they think. Yes they are family, but if they can't accept it then they are in the wrong position not you. As long as you are happy, everything will work out in the end for itself!

[Fourth Dimension]

its hard out there for us sometimes my dads family would totally disown me i hate liveing the lie

[tyler27846]

its hard out there for us sometimes my dads family would totally disown me i hate liveing the lie

i know hpw u feel

[MichaelAdams1993]

I would say that you should find a way to talkk to someone on here. I know how you feel. My dad and step-dad would freak and probably my step-mom. I think my mom kinda suspects and my grandma might too. We are close. Sorry to hear about the disown thing but what I have done is come out to a friend of mine that is openly gay and it is just between us right now.

[tyler27846]

I would say that you should find a way to talkk to someone on here. I know how you feel. My dad and step-dad would freak and probably my step-mom. I think my mom kinda suspects and my grandma might too. We are close. Sorry to hear about the disown thing but what I have done is come out to a friend of mine that is openly gay and it is just between us right now.

cool i do talk to a few ppl on here i mite tell my bestfriend but idk how she will take it idk her stand on that issue but i could tell my friend allison beacuse she accepting of bi people but im scared to say anything cuz im not sure how they would take it