has this happened to any of you guys?

[daveywavey]

last sunday my mom and me were alone watching tv, ( parents are divorced and i live with my mom) and she just flat out asked me, she says are you gay? and totally embarressed and caught off guard i of course denied it, she tells me she would accept me for who i am and she just wants to know, i still said no, but i wanted to say yes so bad, and now i am losing sleep because of it, anyone with any help at calming down? :rolleyes:

[artex]

no but my mom does that sort of things....like we are cvs or walgreens and shes in an aisle and i am looking at some magazines and shes looking at condoms and shes like 'hey do you need more condoms' or something like that and i am like shhh and shes like what 1s do you want?? GRRRR
really tho since she asked you and her response was posistive you should have said.. what id do if i were you..
id talk with her and say... mom when you asked me that the other night i was shocked but since you did ask and are ok with it, would you be ok if i were gay? (just to make sure) and then when she says yes (hopelfully) id say well i am, when you have talked it over then id be curious to ask her HOW she knew? because id want to know myself (for me i feel i cant hide ne thing from my mom, she knows for the most part all about me)
good luck and remember its good she said it like she did!!

[lilhellboii]

wow dude at that time that he ask you... u should take the chance and say YES MOM I AM! and she would tottaly understand it!!! i wish my was like you... coming out of the closet was hard! anyways sleep like you always sleep! dont think about it and just tell her she would understand!!! hey any more question! just MESSAGE ME!!!
love to help!!!
brian

[daveywavey]

thanks alot brian that means alot, iw ould love to talk more thank you as well jason, that helps me out being able to talk to people about whats going on with me, i have been feeling so isolated with it

[daveywavey]

yes jason, im kinda wondering what i slipped up on to get noticed like that, i generally dont show that side of myself like that

[Modus Operandi]

If she asked you, she probably wants an honest answer. If she asks again, just be open with her about it. She'll probably understand.

[daveywavey]

i would love to corey, but i feel like i dont have the courage, i want nothing more then to not live something im not, but i dont know if i see that happening any time soon :( and i LOVE house corey, its coming on next week the new season

[MisterMonster]

say yes

[nick]

David if she's asked it might be best to be honest about it. Have you considered writing a letter and leaving it somewhere if you're too embarassed to speak about it first?

[daveywavey]

you know nick, a letter might not be to bad, cause this is making me lose sleep, i totally dont act gay or anything around her or anywhere remotly near her, the only thing i can think of is that maybe i left a website open on my computer and she saw it or something

blah :(

[nycbestkid]

when i have had went through something i was thinking that i was gay but it was just my mind telling that i was but i wasnt and i was so scared becasue my mom always talk bad about gay people. but someone told me this no matter what parents might not have to like what you say but they have to understand. shes probably saying that so she think that you wont turn gay but just say it to her its the only way mabye all the times when you did wrong things she was mad but yet she kept you in the house and even through the divorce she kept you just tell her she will love you no matter what trust me

[daveywavey]

when i have had went through something i was thinking that i was gay but it was just my mind telling that i was but i wasnt and i was so scared becasue my mom always talk bad about gay people. but someone told me this no matter what parents might not have to like what you say but they have to understand. shes probably saying that so she think that you wont turn gay but just say it to her its the only way mabye all the times when you did wrong things she was mad but yet she kept you in the house and even through the divorce she kept you just tell her she will love you no matter what trust me



hey that means alot, thank you very much

[MoveAlong]

Haha this is actually how my mom found out I was gay. I said yes.
Honestly if she's that open I think you should just say yes.

[tyler27846]

if she said she would accept you i would tell her

[Watakanata]

If you're gay, what's the shame in it? You may not feel courageous, and I bet your mom notices that. Mom's seem to know this stuff. I feel both my parents know even though I haven't told them because recently they've been saying stuff like "That boy is nice" even though I feel that I don't act openly gay around them, let alone anyone. I'm not the gayest man alive. Haha.

Have you ever thought she's trying to help you out by asking you instead of you having to come clean about it on your own? She sounds like a nice enough person... You don't HAVE to tell her, but I think it's a sign that even if you don't tell her yet, she'll understand anyways. She's just trying to tell you that she loves you. I don't think she expects you to tell her necessarily, but she's just trying to make you feel less "closed" about this.

Anyone has any questions feel free to ask me in PM.

Aaron.

[mrmcdonaldduck]

yes and i did the excact same thing.

[Shalom]

Thats always hard to deal with, I say just wait until you're ready and stop thinking about it, move on. Tell her when you're old enough and ready.

[Justwondering]

when i have had went through something i was thinking that i was gay but it was just my mind telling that i was but i wasnt and i was so scared becasue my mom always talk bad about gay people. but someone told me this no matter what parents might not have to like what you say but they have to understand. shes probably saying that so she think that you wont turn gay...

Ugh... You can't turn gay. You're either born gay or not.

Anyways Davey.. I'm still in the closet, and if this opportunity came up for me, I wouldn't have told her to be honest. Everyone is ready at certain times. There are certain things that change when you're gay. The best thing is that you can be yourself. You could also potentially find people dealing with the same thing as you and be able to talk about it. Maybe even find a partner? But remember, there are some negative aspects of coming out. Would you still be aloud to have guys sleep over? Possibly bullying? Dissapointment from your family?... There are too many negatives to type out lol. But, if you're ready, your mom seems really understanding and nice, so you shouldn't worry (:

Carpe Diem. We don't live forever.

If you want to talk or anything, just drop me a PM (:

[Fourth Dimension]

well be carefull about the letter i tried that and its like idk it ended up being a 28 page letter and i never had the courage to send it to my mom my mom ik would be ok with it but still im scarred thats where you and i are alike david lol but idk try makeing a video cuz i have tried also just flat out saying it but when i try i cant speak and i too am sick of living a lie and not being myself with everyone thats why i like this site i can be completely open so good luck maybe i will too

[anthonysayhi]

i would just tell her

[miranda_cutie15]

dont act gay around her, lol

[Gumleaf]

i would just tell her

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locking.