Attempted rape? Or just messing around?

[StrawberryCyanide]

I'm not sure if i can really call this "abuse" but this is the section i thought most appropriate to post this, sorry if it's wrong :S

Ok so i'm 16 years old now, 17 in december.
When i was 12 i lived near to a boy who was 14, and we were friends. we would go to the park together and play together. Let's call him boy A.

He came round my house one day, and we were sitting on my bed playing a board game. His brother who was 15 at the time (also my friend) came into the room and joined the game. Lets call him boy B.
boy B started throwing the game pieces at me, then boy A joined in. I thought it was all good fun, until boy A pushed me onto my back and climbed on top of me. boy B held my arms down as boy A moved around on top of me, asking if i would have sex with him. I didnt understand what they were doing, or what sex even was.

I didn't answer, and after a few minutes they left.

A few days after that, i went round their house.
boy b was not there, nor were their parents.
boy A asked me for sex again, pushing me onto his bead and trying to take my clothes off.
I struggled and panicked as he was hurting me, managed to push him off and ran home.

Later i went to the park, where i came accross both of the brothers.
they took both of my hands and lead me to a pretty well hidden place behind some trees.

Boy B pushed me against the tree and boy A started trying to kiss me and touch me. They were both pushing me into the tree and touching my breasts and crotch, i tried to cry for help but they covered my mouth.

They let me go and i ran home again.

A couple of years later, when i was 14, i saw boy A again. i was walking home from school alone. I tried to avoid him but once again he grabbed my arms, him being a lot older and stronger now, and started kissing me, and touching me, not letting me go. i punched and kicked him but he kept doing it, he kept trying to undress me too.
I kicked him in the nuts and got away, i havn't seen either of them since.

Should i tell someone?
I've been self injuring since the age of 11, so i can't imagine they are the reason it started, but could they have somehting to do with it?
I also have BPD and Anorexia Nervousa.

Sorry for the essay >.<
Thanks <3

[HelloWorld123456]

Ok ... Yours is a lame question

THAT IS NOT MESSING AROUND ! THATS ABUSE ... YOU MESS AROUND IF YOU TOO WANTED TO MESS AROUND !

For me this is definately ABUSE ... And yes you should talk this with someone profession !

Perhaps they werent the reason for self-injuring but they might have been the cause of getting it more frequently and now they are all ok ... and you have had this is you mind for all of this time

Go talk with someone !

And great hit in the nuts :P

STOP TO ABUSE !

[Jagador]

Thats actually sexual abuse i believe.. you should tell someone, and fast before they get away with it. People generally believe the female more than the male. So yea... The scenes you described, secene 1 and 2, could be attempted rape, but the first time they backed off. 2nd time.. was leading to rape, and 3rd, was abuse.....

Tell someone

[mrmcdonaldduck]

that is rape. tell the cops and tell a trusted adult as well.

[theOperaGhost]

that is rape. tell the cops and tell a trusted adult as well.

That is NOT rape, it is gross sexual imposition. There is a difference. Something can only be called rape if there is penetration, which in this case there isn't. Since they used physical force, it could be considered a felony (however since they are juveniles, they would be tried as such, not as adults) depending on state laws. What they did is illegal and although the punishment wouldn't be as much as it would be for rape, you should tell someone about it.

[Darkness]

I'd get some pepper spray if I were you...

[alex95]

attempted rape if i was your brother ide personally beat them for you beat them as in break body parts filled with hate ive already have these thoughts what if someone did that to my sister i would murder them if they hurt my sister.... but anyway... thats abuse and you should have told someone....

[artex]

1st off i am sorry you were taken advatage of like that, its terrible to go thru it 1 time let alone all you did...Yes it was attempted rape and it was sexual abuse. since both were under 16 at the time i am not sure if anything can or would be done. My Q is this (because i have been thru a similiar thing) what do you want to come of this? Do you want them to have to answer to this or what?
in my situation i happened from the time i was 10 1/2 to 13 and then i moreless moved on for a few years and then it really bothered me to the point i was ready to take my life. about 2 years ago while i was out on fall break and with my mom on a birthday thing she does for us (she takes us out for the day we do w/e we want) i begged her to let me see some1 ( a dr) at this point they didnt know and i wouldnt tell them for about a year... i see a dr 1 time a week now and it helps and we are going thru a legal battle with the person that raped me.
sorry this is long
if i can be of help to any one i am here for you
1 thing to remember... it wasnt your fault i still have some issues with that at times

[Monoxide]

ya um.. you might need to talk to someone about this o.O

Sounds like attempted rape to me.

[alex95]

i had this case when i was younger with 2 girls and it was scary...

[Shalom]

Sexual harassment, obviously it still affects you and you need to talk to someone about it. Parents, therapy something. Stuff like this can really last a life time until you fully get it out of your system and move on.

[RuneArchiac]

That is definite Abuse him forcing you to have *** with hm at that age and I didn't understand why the 15 year old brother helped his brother do this to you I'm surprised to hear this story.

[Removed]

May not be counted as a rape but as an attempt of one yes it is....and it can be called abuse, correction it IS abuse... Take the members above me's advice :)

[sarah newman]

TELL SOMEONE QUIKLY BEFORE THEY GET AWAY WITH IT! That is attempted rape, i believe. Ask someone

[nick]

I'd get some pepper spray if I were you...

IT ws definitely abuse and probably attempted rape although that could be hard to prove. Feren's advice above is good, if you might run into the guy again you should carry a personal alarm or a pepper spray like he says.

[Aηdy]

Pepper spray is certainly a good idea.

It's probably a good idea to tell someone. There's a good chance that you're not the only girl they do it to.

[clone]

sadly it will be hard to prove they did that to you i would defenitly carry pepper spray or (if legal at your age) a tazer it may be more effective

[Aless1225]

That's really bad and I think you should have told ur parents because that is abuse no matter what and they did hurt u emotionally in an unconcious way talk to ur parents

I'm not sure if i can really call this "abuse" but this is the section i thought most appropriate to post this, sorry if it's wrong :S

Ok so i'm 16 years old now, 17 in december.
When i was 12 i lived near to a boy who was 14, and we were friends. we would go to the park together and play together. Let's call him boy A.

He came round my house one day, and we were sitting on my bed playing a board game. His brother who was 15 at the time (also my friend) came into the room and joined the game. Lets call him boy B.
boy B started throwing the game pieces at me, then boy A joined in. I thought it was all good fun, until boy A pushed me onto my back and climbed on top of me. boy B held my arms down as boy A moved around on top of me, asking if i would have sex with him. I didnt understand what they were doing, or what sex even was.

I didn't answer, and after a few minutes they left.

A few days after that, i went round their house.
boy b was not there, nor were their parents.
boy A asked me for sex again, pushing me onto his bead and trying to take my clothes off.
I struggled and panicked as he was hurting me, managed to push him off and ran home.

Later i went to the park, where i came accross both of the brothers.
they took both of my hands and lead me to a pretty well hidden place behind some trees.

Boy B pushed me against the tree and boy A started trying to kiss me and touch me. They were both pushing me into the tree and touching my breasts and crotch, i tried to cry for help but they covered my mouth.

They let me go and i ran home again.

A couple of years later, when i was 14, i saw boy A again. i was walking home from school alone. I tried to avoid him but once again he grabbed my arms, him being a lot older and stronger now, and started kissing me, and touching me, not letting me go. i punched and kicked him but he kept doing it, he kept trying to undress me too.
I kicked him in the nuts and got away, i havn't seen either of them since.

Should i tell someone?
I've been self injuring since the age of 11, so i can't imagine they are the reason it started, but could they have somehting to do with it?
I also have BPD and Anorexia Nervousa.

Sorry for the essay >.<
Thanks <3

[Eagle1]

you need to tell someone either a parent or counselor soon

[BlackBetty]

I'm not sure if i can really call this "abuse" but this is the section i thought most appropriate to post this, sorry if it's wrong :S

Ok so i'm 16 years old now, 17 in december.
When i was 12 i lived near to a boy who was 14, and we were friends. we would go to the park together and play together. Let's call him boy A.

He came round my house one day, and we were sitting on my bed playing a board game. His brother who was 15 at the time (also my friend) came into the room and joined the game. Lets call him boy B.
boy B started throwing the game pieces at me, then boy A joined in. I thought it was all good fun, until boy A pushed me onto my back and climbed on top of me. boy B held my arms down as boy A moved around on top of me, asking if i would have sex with him. I didnt understand what they were doing, or what sex even was.

I didn't answer, and after a few minutes they left.

A few days after that, i went round their house.
boy b was not there, nor were their parents.
boy A asked me for sex again, pushing me onto his bead and trying to take my clothes off.
I struggled and panicked as he was hurting me, managed to push him off and ran home.

Later i went to the park, where i came accross both of the brothers.
they took both of my hands and lead me to a pretty well hidden place behind some trees.

Boy B pushed me against the tree and boy A started trying to kiss me and touch me. They were both pushing me into the tree and touching my breasts and crotch, i tried to cry for help but they covered my mouth.

They let me go and i ran home again.

A couple of years later, when i was 14, i saw boy A again. i was walking home from school alone. I tried to avoid him but once again he grabbed my arms, him being a lot older and stronger now, and started kissing me, and touching me, not letting me go. i punched and kicked him but he kept doing it, he kept trying to undress me too.
I kicked him in the nuts and got away, i havn't seen either of them since.

Should i tell someone?
I've been self injuring since the age of 11, so i can't imagine they are the reason it started, but could they have somehting to do with it?
I also have BPD and Anorexia Nervousa.

Sorry for the essay >.<
Thanks <3

Ok.... That is abuse... No question...... You need to tell someone, and go talk to someone. About your self harm and aneroxia. Those are neither good to get your anger out.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

You need to gt hlp and realize that behaviour like this is very damaging. U need to raise ur confidence levels and stop second guessing urslf of course it is abuse. U shld never let someone use u like that.

If u need someone to tlk to pm me and ill hlp as much as i can but u also need to gt mre hlp

[AncientCatastrophe]

It's definitely attempted rape or sexual harassment...You should tell your parents this as soon as possible and you might also tell this story to Boy A and Boy B's parents....If you're harming yourself since 11, it has something to do with this because it made more depressed or angry and also as the others say you need a pepper spray you don't know when will they do it again. :bounce:

[Filipe]

That's not abuse... That's plain RAPE - R-A-P-E - RAPE!!!!!!
Tell your parents and cops next time.
(hopes there isn't a next time)

Take care, hugs

[Aspiringanonymous]

I know you mean to help, but please don't bump old threads - this is over six months old - thanks! :locked: