Controlling, Overbearing, and let's not forget, Judgmental

[Blue63]

My mother (who I love to death) has this weird, twisted guilt hold around me, that I'm pretty sure is intertwined with the catholic church (which I also love to death). I don't sin because of guilt, but I won't get in to that. My mother controls me, and when I am free (on occasion) she is so controlling and overbearing it's not even funny. Now I understand that parents should keep an eye on there kids, we have crossed that line along time ago.

You see, here I believe is the key ingredient, I'm an only child. I'm incredibly close to my parents. They're like my friends (I have real friends, I'm not socially inept) but in a weird way. Let me try and explain this a little more. I am a huge fan of Paramore, they're coming to town on Oct. 7th, I cannot wait! All my friends hate Alternative, except two of my friends who are girls (I go to an all boys school by the way). My mom has to go, it's a big concert, understandable. I had to ask her to by tickets today, which I'm paying for, but need a credit card and a driver, I was nervous the whole time. She was judging me, I could see it in her eyes, her tone of voice changed, she got a stern look on her face. It's cause I'm going with girls, she's trying to protect me from something, I don't know what.

Let me further that, last night I was at my friends birthday party (a girl). We went to the zoo during the day, and then a friends house after words. I texted her after the zoo on my way to the friends house where there would be dinner like I was supposed to. She called me 9 times, left two voicemail messages, and texted me three times in half an hour. It was in the middle of a movie, my phone somehow switched to silent and it went off. She wasn't just worried, I told her I would text her when she could pick me up and it probably wouldn't be until after 10 or so. She knows all of these people, there parents, and I've hung out with them for the PAST TWO YEARS!

It's not just stuff like this that drives me insane, through her opinion she can control what I buy, eat, and what I wear. I'm not sure how, she disagrees with me and just makes me feel guilty, I don't know what's going on! It's been like this for as long as I can remember. I'm 15, and I'm treated like I'm 5!

How do you deal with parents that are controlling, overbearing and judgmental? Because I'm lost. Help (if this is the wrong area, please move, sorry)

[Contra]

That's very bad, sometimes I feel like that too... But I learned that they're our parents and they are always trying to control so we won't cross the line, like you said. But you're 15, so you need to have a talk with your parents (a serious one), and say that you are already grown up, and that you don't need all that surveillance, they can still take care of you, but not intensively! But say it like this, face to face, and make them understand it.

[Blue63]

But you're 15, so you need to have a talk with your parents (a serious one), and say that you are already grown up, and that you don't need all that surveillance, they can still take care of you, but not intensively! But say it like this, face to face, and make them understand it.

Thank you, I think I will have to do it. Hopefully that will fix some things in my life, I just hope they take me seriously. Thanks for the help! :D

[Contra]

Thank you, I think I will have to do it. Hopefully that will fix some things in my life, I just hope they take me seriously. Thanks for the help! :D

You're welcome. Then, if you don't mind, tell me how it went! :)

[Blue63]

My dad's been out of town I'll week, so I'll try and do it this weekend :)

[mrmcdonaldduck]

That's very bad, sometimes I feel like that too... But I learned that they're our parents and they are always trying to control so we won't cross the line, like you said. But you're 15, so you need to have a talk with your parents (a serious one), and say that you are already grown up, and that you don't need all that surveillance, they can still take care of you, but not intensively! But say it like this, face to face, and make them understand it.


once again john got it right.