Girl problems...

[Art_dude]

Ah, girl problems... It's about time I posted something here. I have a weird issue....

I reallly want to be in a relationship right now. Don't worry, not in the, "I need someone to love me" kind of way, just that I enjoy and really miss being in one. I started homeschooling last year, so meeting girls is realllyyyy hard to do! Most of my day I'm at the library with my teacher, and after I do homework when I get home, I'm alone :/ It's not that I'm socially inept, it's just that my friends live in a different town that's longish ride away. Plus my good friend from my old school is really busy so I don't get to hang out with her much.

ANYway, I need some advice as to find girls. But not only that, I also need advice as to how to talk to them. I don't know what happened! I used to be soooo good at talking to girls - I was raised mainly in a house of women, and so I don't get nervous when i talk to them. Here's an example of my dilemma which reoccurs way to often:

My friend introduced me to one of her friends (I had met her before and I thought we hit it off) , but it turns out that she didn't like me (even though she flirted with me pretty intensely). When I asked her why she is sending mixed signals, she said, that she talks to every guy like that (which means she is pretty slutty, because the stuff she was saying to me was definitely not something you say to your 'friends') But I digress.... She ended up saying, "you're a nice guy, you don't want to date me. I don't want to screw you up". Acting as if I'm all 'straight edge' which is definitely not the case...

It's not the first time I've heard this line.... I guess now a days, girls want JERKS to date them. I'm very respectful of women (in fact some would say Im a feminist) I am open with talking through emotional problems, I'm very sensitive, I'm an artist so I have the whole, "sensitive painter thing" that some girls like, plus I don't think I'm that unattractive.....so what's the problem?!?? Two years ago that was catnip to most girls! what happened while I wasn't dating? Has the entire dating world changed in my absence? I see these ass hole guys getting girlfriends left and right and they're these misogynistic, jock dudes, only looking for sex!

Why am I ALWAYS getting the friend card? Is it so much to ask the universe/god/whatever you want to call it, to ask for a girlfriend? It's not like I have ridiculous standards, I'll take nearly anyone! All I want is to be able to have a relationship again where I can talk to the other person and they can talk to me openly, where I can hold them, and kiss them.

alright. I'm done whining now. Give me feed back! lol

[Grey fox]

Hey, you sound allright and pretty cool. And as for the whining bit, lol, after my own heart...

I flirt with my male friends, but they know I don't mean it, does that make me a slut!!??!?

But seriously, i'm open to chatting if you want any practice or whatever. :)

[IAMWILL]

One word: puberty. (a pretty common one on this site).

Your a great person as it seems, but a lot of girls just don't care about that. During puberty, girls might just get attracted to guys because they're "hot" or "cool" or all that stuff that reflects nothing upon personality. It's not your fault, know that. They will mature more, learn to like people for who they really are. In the meantime, maybe try to go to a school dance or local events where there will be people. Remember though, always be yourself, and sooner or later someone will roll around who likes you because of you.

Note: what I said does not apply to all girls).

[Art_dude]

hey, thanks so much guys - really helped!

@Grey Fox: hahah no it doesn't make you a slut. I flirt with my friends too, it's just that this girl was saying some very specific things that would go beyond flirting if you get my drift... hahah

And the weird thing that I was trying to say is that I'm NOT ugly. I am extremely humble so please don't take this the wrong way but girls tell me all the time that I'm, "hot" or really attractive. That's why I was confused from an attractive standpoint... these girls would rather go out with a jock dude who some would say is mediocre looking rather than me. The deciding factor I guess is "coolness'. Popularity/coolness takes precedence over looks these days :/

Thanks for the suggestion IAMWILL. I'm going to look into events that I could go to, and meet other teens. Pretty hard to do but I'll start researching :)

[ROFLCOPTER]

yea i got this prob at my school but there really nice when you talk to them alone(mabey not in your case)
but theres some nice ones and they got for the dumbass douche bags that go around and get high and bully yr 7'ers
but there nice one just wait there will be one for you mate good luck

[diamond jetstream]

my thoughts exactly

[Art_dude]

Hey guys, here's an update: I googled my town's name with, "teen events" and found out they had like a teen recreation department/ youth thing where they set up different parties, dances, etc,. I looked into it and it actually looks legit - NOT nearly as lame as I thought.

Oh and as a side note, as you all know I was feeling down the other day about this whole relationship thing and I guess the universe threw my a curve ball because this is what happened: I was finished tutoring at the library so I walked down town grab some lunch and then when I was done I sat down on a bench outside to read for a little bit. A bus full of highschool sports girls (they were all in uniform so I guessed they were from out of town and coming to a local game) caught two red lights in front of me. These girls look through their windows and start flirting with me lol xD Three girls at the back were mouthing, "Call me" and making the phone hand thing you know? I completely started laughing at the irony! Of course they were on a busy road, the windows were up and I couldn't say anything, but I'll take that as a sign that things will get better :)

[Contra]

What the hell???

[Darkness]

Come on mods this things been here for close to three hours....

[IAMWILL]

You know we have lives to it's not like were always online. I'm homesick today, so VT got lucky.

If OP wants me to lock thread please contact a mod or post here.

[cherry_boi]

lol ummm i'm fairly sure porn isn't allowed on here...... ,makes shifty eyes...hmm some1 shd address that.......

ANYWAY........



aaaawe ur adorable! ^^

lol idk where u live but try going someplace social in ur town...a park, the moves, the mall, ect....lol and don't be afraid to be straight forward, telling a girl u think she's cute and wud like to spend time with her to get to kno her better is fool-proof

or it is when i say it :p (haha i'm soo arrogant...i need to be taken down few pegs)

also having a car helps in that it widens ur dating range (geographically) so look into that

lol r there no nice girls at ur yoga?

idk u seem like a nice guy---maybe it's just bad luck, which shud pass sooner or later >.<