can't stop thinking

[love123]

i cannot stop thinking about this girl in my youth club-i only see her once a week but i can only think about her. we talk online nearly every night but when in person we dont talk about much and i get nervous! what should i do???

[Grey fox]

Find a mutual interest, or crack jokes to help break the ice!

[Jagador]

Must up the courage to talk to her. Talk to her about anything. Strike up questions whether it is about movies, music, whatever. Break that ice barrier and unseal your screwed in lips.

[Gumleaf]

well if you talk online often, then just think abut what you talk to her about there and use those topics for face-to-face convos. it might seem daunting, but remember this girl already knows you and the usual rejection fear that a lot of guys have about talking to girls isn't relevent here.

[nick]

My suggestion would be to think of something you can ask her to do together without making it sound like a date. Maybe go and see a film or something like that. Just make it sound like a one-off thing, not like your starting a relationship, then see how it goes. You either have to take a risk, and be prepared if she says no, or just accept things as they are now.

[TrinkTrik]

I think the best thing to do is, Tell her you want to talk to her, not over MSN but in the Youth club, Don't make it sould like a relationship just say,

"Hi, y'know we talk alot on MSN/YAHOO/SKYPE/AIM and well... we don't talk face to face, I want to do that though, maby if we spoke face to face, we would be better friends, not that im saying we are not good friends but, I wanna know you better face to face, this COMPUTER/LAPTOP/PALMTOP is a big barrier and well, I don't like it, What do ya say, wanna just talk like normal people face to face? I think it could be funny"

And if she goes for it and yours are mute, say somthing SO damn random... she can't help but ask "what?".

And if that don't work ither... Shes a boy, imagine her as a boy, your best friend, and be yourself that helps me alot, but since I don't like that many people in my school im always myself towards girls, Dirty, Kinky and SOOOO inapropreate :P

[love123]

thanks everyone - very helpful!!:wub:

[Contra]

The step of knowing her is already complete, so you're ahead...
I think the cinema suggestion is very good, so you can get to know each other even better, but be careful so you don't become just a friend. You need to take a chance, make a move that night... Compliment her and tell her you love spending time with her (but with meaning), she probably will fall for you, if not, you should risk it and say you love her!
Hope I was helpful! :D

[Paladino]

Be yourself face to face get to know her a bit better and take off from there, the suggestion of saying something so damn random is good, she will most likely laugh at it and think your funny then just crack some jokes (make sure they are funny) and take it off from there :)

[love123]

thanks for all your help : i am now going out with this girl!!!:wub::wub:

[Contra]

thanks for all your help : i am now going out with this girl!!!:wub::wub:

Congratulations! I'm glad our advices were helpful... :)

[Mikey]

The only thing you can do is just talk to her. I felt like this before but you can just do this. Just start a conversation or be like "hey"