Fat Guys

[LMNOP]

Would you have sex with a fat guy?

[strata8]

I can imagine that this topic would be pretty insulting to someone who is overweight. It seems to me that you're pretty much assuming that girls don't want to have sex with someone who is overweight/obese :(

[bombasticdude]

i know a girl should answer that...but i guess only shallow gurls would mind...its not abt appearance....atleast thts what i think

[RaeNose]

First of all, if you're going to ask a question, there is a forum for that. It's the general questions area. Thank you very much.
And unless I really liked him, probably not. Of course, that would be considering it was a one night stand, but I wouldn't have one of those anyway.

[bombasticdude]

First of all, if you're going to ask a question, there is a forum for that. It's the general questions area. Thank you very much.
And unless I really liked him, probably not. Of course, that would be considering it was a one night stand, but I wouldn't have one of those anyway.
first of all..u wouldn't have sex with a guy unless u like him whether his fat or not...i find it completely irrelevent...but i am sure u know better since u r a gurl and all.. thx..

[RaeNose]

Exactly, thus making my answer yes. Because if you really like the guy it shouldn't really matter.
... As long as I'm on top. lol.

[AdamTheAce]

well im a little bit chubby, would that put you off me? ( and you know what I mean so dont take it the wrong way )

[RaeNose]

I love how I'm the only girl answering this.
I am not a good enough sample for your female population.
But I don't know.
If you're nice enough. I really don't see too much problem with it, i guess.

[Grey fox]

Yes - and have done in the past.

Being overweight doesn't stop them from doing amazing things with fingers and tongues

[RaeNose]

....
true. *smirks*
But a lot of people can do amazing things with fingers and tongues.

[Raynes]

This is quite an inappropriate question for this forum... It's really inappropriate regardless...

In my experience, girls are more likely to go for a guy who looks good, but they're more likely to stay with a guy who is good, on the inside.

It really depends on whether or not a girl is willing to date a big guy, not whether or not she will have sex with him.

[Gumleaf]

moving: girls puberty >>> relationships & dating.

[loveonline]

What's wrong with fat guys anyway? Anyone can have sex and I guess their is nothing wrong with it as long as you love each other

[AllThatIsLeft]

Okay first thing, Beauty is in the beholder's eyes.
Not every girl or guy with that matter is shallow.
but there are preferences, personally I don't like overweight people not because they are overweight, but because they don't try to improve their physic. (that comes from a hardcore training person.)

Second if there is love weight should have nothing to do with it.
If you are talking, "getting laid"... it would depend on the person, some people actually like fuller (wo)men.

[sebbie]

Personal preference is what it comes down to.

[diamond jetstream]

im fat and i have had sex before and the girl came up to me.there is no difference between sex between skinny or fat guys and its offensive to say otherwise.if u say u wouldnt then u have some personal phobeia issues that you need to sort out. plus if youve ever noticed,fat guys arent jerks and are more on the i will respect your wishes or i opened the door for u because i love u not cause i have too kind of side of relashionships.i know from my own experiences that there is nothing wrong with fat guys in any way.

ps the name of this forum is probably not a wise one maybe make a better choice next time

[Sapphire]

I prefer them to have some meat on their bones!

plus if youve ever noticed,fat guys arent jerks and are more on the i will respect your wishes or i opened the door for u because i love u not cause i have too kind of side of relashionships
Ha!
You really need to get out more and realise that horrible, cruel people come in all shapes and sizes...

[diamond jetstream]

true but they arent as cocky as some would say but your point is valid

[Sapphire]

true but they arent as cocky as some would say but your point is valid
Wrong again. Stop making ridiculous generalisations.

[overcome.]

Wrong again. Stop making ridiculous generalisations.

I don't think you can validate somebody's opinion as wrong. It's merely an opinion.

Cruel people do come in all shapes and sizes like somebody said. Everybody has their own vision of beauty as well, it's your decision whether you'd want to have sex with them.

[Rutherford The Brave]

It shouldn't matter, sex is quite the powerful thing. Its not the greatest idea to just throw it around losely. So when you really love someone, whether they be big or small it shouldn't matter when the time is right.

[Jean Poutine]

personally I don't like overweight people not because they are overweight, but because they don't try to improve their physic. (that comes from a hardcore training person.)


I am cursed with a very high propensity to gain weight and keep it. It took the world to get my ass where it is now.

Assuming that being overweight is a synonym with laziness is a little insulting to those who put forth the effort and do not gain anything out of it when it comes to their fat %.

I personally have outcardio'd, outlifted and plain outskilled many guys who were much skinnier than I am. My old friend is fatter than me and runs marathons for kicks. As I said, being overweight is not a synonym for being a couch potato. It's also not a synonym for unhealthy.

I agree that 1 week diet fanatics and miracle product leeches are disgusting and I hate them too for wanting to get something out of nothing. Not all overweight people are overweight because they refuse to make lifestyle changes. Some are just overweight because they are.

To answer the question now : I've seen fat guys with a lot of charisma. I think it depends less on your weight and more on your sex appeal.

[Sapphire]

I don't think you can validate somebody's opinion as wrong. It's merely an opinion.I can invalidate his points actually - regardless of whether it's his opinion or something he is asserting as factual.

Saying that fat guys are more respectful and less cocky than slimmer guys is short sighted because these traits are not dictated by build or any other physical characteristic.

[AllThatIsLeft]

I am cursed with a very high propensity to gain weight and keep it. It took the world to get my ass where it is now.

Assuming that being overweight is a synonym with laziness is a little insulting to those who put forth the effort and do not gain anything out of it when it comes to their fat %.

I personally have outcardio'd, outlifted and plain outskilled many guys who were much skinnier than I am. My old friend is fatter than me and runs marathons for kicks. As I said, being overweight is not a synonym for being a couch potato. It's also not a synonym for unhealthy.

I agree that 1 week diet fanatics and miracle product leeches are disgusting and I hate them too for wanting to get something out of nothing. Not all overweight people are overweight because they refuse to make lifestyle changes. Some are just overweight because they are.

To answer the question now : I've seen fat guys with a lot of charisma. I think it depends less on your weight and more on your sex appeal.

Actually, I am very likely to be overweight if I don't keep fit, it's a family gene, and I work really hard to keep that level up. If I offended you, I offended myself. It's a personal preference nothing else.


And I would like to remind people to answer the question, not discuss if being over-weight makes you a dick head.
Thank you

[overcome.]

I can invalidate his points actually - regardless of whether it's his opinion or something he is asserting as factual.

Saying that fat guys are more respectful and less cocky than slimmer guys is short sighted because these traits are not dictated by build or any other physical characteristic.

Somebody's opinion shouldn't be validated or invalidated, their opinion has nothing to do with you and it's not 'right' or 'wrong', yeah you may consider it stupid, but respect their opinion and keep it to yourself if you don't have anything positive to say. This place is full of negativity sometimes. Which is why I thought I'd cut down my post and rather be peaceful with people. I look forward to your reply, which will be full of smart, technical terminology that is meant to 'wow' me, making sure I have no way of replying to such an intellectual person like your good self.

I can actually agree with Paula a great deal with what I think she's trying to say. Coming from somebody else that does their best to take great care of their body, I wouldn't particularly want to be with somebody (relationship and sexually) with somebody who doesn't respect their body. This could be not keeping in shape, hell, you don't have to be an elite athlete, just take care of yourself. This to me is exactly the same as person hygiene, drug/alcohol abuse, etc. Take care of your body, it's the finest instrument you'll ever own.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Take care of your body, it's the finest instrument you'll ever own.

QFT I love it!~

[Raynes]

Okay first thing, Beauty is in the beholder's eyes.
Not every girl or guy with that matter is shallow.
but there are preferences, personally I don't like overweight people not because they are overweight, but because they don't try to improve their physic. (that comes from a hardcore training person.)

Second if there is love weight should have nothing to do with it.
If you are talking, "getting laid"... it would depend on the person, some people actually like fuller (wo)men.

Why do you automatically assume that overweight people aren't trying to improve their appearance? Some people have health problems that cause them to gain weight, and prevent them from losing it at any sort of speed. There are few fat people who don't wish they weighed less, but some have serious issues ranging from money, to time, to health problems, or any number of reasons they can't lose weight.

[overcome.]

Why do you automatically assume that overweight people aren't trying to improve their appearance? Some people have health problems that cause them to gain weight, and prevent them from losing it at any sort of speed. There are few fat people who don't wish they weighed less, but some have serious issues ranging from money, to time, to health problems, or any number of reasons they can't lose weight.

I know what you're saying, because being uncomfortable about your image can cause many problems, mentally and physically. The thing is, people defy genetics all the time, the finest example would be the para olympics or special olympics. People who have special needs are still capable of performing at high levels in sporting activities, as are people who aren't lucky enough like you and me to have both of their arms or legs working. They still compete and do well.

It's about heart, and it's about how mentally strong you are. I'd say probably less than 5% (that's a very generous statistics) are unable to shift their weight or get into shape. It's stupid how people come up with bullshit reasons and barriers as to why they can't succeed. Don't blame other people or genetics when that's not the case. Believe in yourself when others won't, don't ever let anybody put you down and go out there, reach your goal whether it's fitness related or not.

[AllThatIsLeft]

What he said! ^

I'm sorry if what I said sounded like a generalization, I'm sure there are a lot of people who try to better themselves, and that is very admirable.
Also, this is a personal choice.. and being "big" isn't the problem, or even over weight, as if it's for that I am too over weight, I should be at 120 lbs, and i'm ten pounds heavier, even that is being "over weight"if you go by numbers.
Numbers have nothing to do with physic, and more than the actual look of being over weight, is the drive to want to be better that is the important thing.

If this offended someone -_-, i'm sorry

[Raynes]

I wasn't trying to make shit up. It was a blatant over-generalization, and I was addressing that. She admits it, so the argument comes to a close.

And I will repeat, there are health reasons, such as Crohns disease that can cause people to gain weigh and have trouble putting it off.

[overcome.]

I wasn't trying to make shit up. It was a blatant over-generalization, and I was addressing that. She admits it, so the argument comes to a close.

And I will repeat, there are health reasons, such as Crohns disease that can cause people to gain weigh and have trouble putting it off.

I'm not trying to argue by saying this, I'm just speaking the truth, and I will do my best not to generalise. I will say that there are people out there who claim to have genetic problems where they can't lose weight, bullshit (some of the time). Yes, there are diseases like that, and I feel for those people. Nobody wants a disease that can have those sort of effects on your body.

Not wanting to put in the hard work to get where you want to get isn't a disease though, it's just a lack of effort, will, drive, mental strength among other things. An example, I was approached at work a while ago by two ladies wanting to lose weight, they said to me something along the lines of "don't laugh, but we'd like to join your gym and lose some weight". The last thing I'd do is laugh at somebody wanting to better themselves and put effort into something they wanted to try. It's a real shame, but after a nice conversation with me reassuring them that people who are into fitness would much rather welcome them to our lifestyle than laugh at them, I saw them again after work. When I saw them, they had both been to the bakery around the corner and had a huge bag each of food, honestly, huge bag.

Although it's a great shame and I still didn't judge them, I was very sure I wouldn't see those people again. I haven't seen them again.

[Sapphire]

Somebody's opinion shouldn't be validated or invalidated, their opinion has nothing to do with you and it's not 'right' or 'wrong', yeah you may consider it stupid, but respect their opinion and keep it to yourself if you don't have anything positive to say. This place is full of negativity sometimes. Which is why I thought I'd cut down my post and rather be peaceful with people. I look forward to your reply, which will be full of smart, technical terminology that is meant to 'wow' me, making sure I have no way of replying to such an intellectual person like your good self.When someone's opinion is as false as his is then it should be corrected.
And, no I am not going to give you lots of technical terminology. Just the truth.

Weight does not influence your cockiness or your respect for women.

Evidence for this?

My current boyfriend is overweight but is the most loving and respectful person I've ever come across.
However, I was systematically raped for months on end by an incredibly cocky, obese guy.

Two people. Both overweight. But not alike in any other way.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I wasn't trying to make shit up. It was a blatant over-generalization, and I was addressing that. She admits it, so the argument comes to a close.

And I will repeat, there are health reasons, such as Crohns disease that can cause people to gain weigh and have trouble putting it off.

I have a friend who has crohns he lost an incredible amount of weight...

[overcome.]

I have a friend who has crohns he lost an incredible amount of weight...

Good for him, I bet he had a good mindset to be able to do that.

As for Sapphire, there's good in every person I think, except some people's good qualities are overshadowed by their bad traits. I'm sorry to hear about the second guy, nobody deserves to go through that. I respect that you have an opinion on what the other guy in the thread said, so I won't go against what I've said, I'll keep things to myself. After all, we've gotten way off topic here.

[diamond jetstream]

i think u r being un resonable if thats what u want then fine fat guys are fu#!*g c#!ts who become rapists murderers and every bad thing was done by a fat guy.lets not give examples though cause there are absoloutely no bad thin guys they are all saints. lastly its not your place to tell me that im wrong its your place to give opinions and u only have bad ones.if you dont have anything good to say then dont say it.(WAY TO MUCH NEGATIVITY)

[Sapphire]

i think u r being un resonable if thats what u want then fine fat guys are fu#!*g c#!ts who become rapists murderers and every bad thing was done by a fat guy.lets not give examples though cause there are absoloutely no bad thin guys they are all saints. lastly its not your place to tell me that im wrong its your place to give opinions and u only have bad ones.if you dont have anything good to say then dont say it.(WAY TO MUCH NEGATIVITY)Oh my God. You really should stop contributing to this until you learn to read!

When someone's opinion is as false as his is then it should be corrected.
And, no I am not going to give you lots of technical terminology. Just the truth.

Weight does not influence your cockiness or your respect for women.

Evidence for this?

My current boyfriend is overweight but is the most loving and respectful person I've ever come across.
However, I was systematically raped for months on end by an incredibly cocky, obese guy.

Two people. Both overweight. But not alike in any other way.And I am perfectly capable and of telling you that you're wrong - especially when you assert something as being true when it isn't.
Physical characteristics do not affect personality.

Now, run back to school - you clearly need it!

[diamond jetstream]

you clearly need to get some male companionship and take that stick out.this is a teen community where people voice OPPINIONS k having a cry and being immature wont solve your past problems with an overweight person which by these posts is clearly imparing your judgement.thats all i have to say and im being the better person and leaving the argument cause your still going to think your right about everything LIKE A CHILD.

[Sapphire]

Lol, yet again - learn to read.

[AllThatIsLeft]

The argument will stop right now. Or this will be locked.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Now let me ask something would you have sex with a fat girl? I'm not being mean but Noori isnt skinny, Im sorry if I sound rude but shes aware and is ok with being chubby. I was fine with having sex with her why is it not ok to have sex the with the male being the overweight one?

[cherry_boi]

no (meant to be as non-offensive as possible, but i just can't be sexually attracted to an overweight individual)

[deadpie]

I'm a skinny guy, and I don't mind dating a chubby as long as I can still do it with them. I have a boyfriend who's a little overweight and we have good sex.

[Dannyy]

Ha yeah i admit it, im not the thinnest guy in the world.

that kinda discourages me though, my appearance really sets me off.

would you think im pathetic that because of me being over weight, i have NEVER had a girlfriend?

[diamond jetstream]

i have no problem with a girl with a bit of meat on her bones.i always thought that those anorexic girls tat become models werent that good looking compared to the girls that are a little bit chubby

[Pioneer92]

I'm a skinny guy, and I don't mind dating a chubby. I have a boyfriend who's a little overweight

I edited his post but it reflects my situation and feelings too

[Jean Poutine]

Chubby, yeah, sure. I like curves.

Obese or morbidly so, nah.