sex

[Depressedmaaan]

i feel like most the guys i know are better at sex than i am, i know a lot about what girls like and like different techniques, and im not THAT bad im sure... but i feel like everybody else is way better :| they probably arent but it kinda gets me frustrated and just turns me off when im about to have sex... i dont have a problem getting laid... i got a problem wanting to have sex cuz i think everybodys better (sometimes)..

any help?
advice?
nice things to say?


it wud really help haha

[Giles]

You "feel" doesn't mean its true. You've obciously noticed this yourself otherwise you wouldnt of said it in the way you did. Theres nothing we can do, theres no advice to change the way you feel about other people and sex...

In the nicest way possible, deal with it.

[Grey fox]

1 ) Who cares?

2 ) Cheer up a bit, seriously!

Guy's don't get compared on how good they are in bed, there are no set standards, it's all personal preferences.

Not doing somehting because you think someone might just be better then you at it is crazy. It's defeatist, and won't get you anywhere in life.

The ONLY advice I can give is stop worrying and have a little bit more confidence in yourself.

You can either do that, or stop having sex all together when you realise someone who's been doing it for a lot longer and is a lot older is probably better then you, because practice makes perfect.

[Contra]

Why would you think other guys are better at sex than you?
If you can do it, you're good enough.
If you know a lot about what girls like and different techniques, you're even better.
What matters is if you can please the girl... :D

[Depressedmaaan]

well im 17, and im not sure why i feel like all my peers are better but i just do...
and i honestly dont have sex for my self? its kinda like... i like pleasing the girl, thats what pleases me :)
yeah it feels good.. but thats like the cherry on top lol
lately its just been hard, im kinda between two TOTALLY different girls, both of which i really like, im dating one of them, but sleeping with both :| theyre both aware of eachother but everythings just complicated.... my lifes been SO hard lately and i just started my job so im in the middle of two girls, my work outs, and a new job, with school around the corner (where i need to change ALL of my courses and the guidance councellors all booked up for a while, so schools gonna be hectic)


aaahhhh lol though i appreciate the feedback i totally get what youre saying, and i just needa get my head straight... i never had a problem getting turned on before... now its just whack

[Skeln]

Really, unless you've seen others haviong sex then you have no basis for saying others are better than you. And if you got that idea from watching poirnography, well just to let you know they make it seem alot more pleasurable than it really is. Any guy or girl can moan randomly, so yeah really as long as you can have sex and please your partner then that's probably the best that anyone else can do.

[YourFriend]

Most of the guys you know probably haven't had sex yet.

[Skeln]

^^ Yeah, that too. You're probably better than most of the guys you know because they haven't had sex yet. So there's something to think about.

[Grey fox]

well im 17, and im not sure why i feel like all my peers are better but i just do...
and i honestly dont have sex for my self? its kinda like... i like pleasing the girl, thats what pleases me :)
yeah it feels good.. but thats like the cherry on top lol
lately its just been hard, im kinda between two TOTALLY different girls, both of which i really like, im dating one of them, but sleeping with both :| theyre both aware of eachother but everythings just complicated.... my lifes been SO hard lately and i just started my job so im in the middle of two girls, my work outs, and a new job, with school around the corner (where i need to change ALL of my courses and the guidance councellors all booked up for a while, so schools gonna be hectic)


aaahhhh lol though i appreciate the feedback i totally get what youre saying, and i just needa get my head straight... i never had a problem getting turned on before... now its just whack


"To be frank my dear Watson" It sounds like you know that you're good at sex, and are just fishing for compliments!

Naughty boy! Smack bottom!

[Depressedmaaan]

no i really dont want compliments its just that i read somewhere that girls cheat on guys usually because they arnt good in bed... and the first time i had sex my gf at the time told her friends that it was bad.. and since then i kinda feel like my improvements still arent up to standards! anyway so the girl im dating right now, has sex with this random guy at a party (he apparently had his way) but this was before we were officially "dating"... though it was an asshole move on her part cuz we both know that we were gonna start dating... and i had sex with her before.... which was good she said BUT we were both drunk? and the next few times we were going to do it i kinda just wasnt feelin it so i kinda backed out half way through.. 2 SEPERATE TIMES!! and then a week later she has sex with that guy... so i kinda linked it all together? maybe im just bad! and now its like im afraid to try anymore cuz i think ill fail its weird but its LIFE! and im aware that a lot of guys havnt had sex... but im more concerned with the guys who DO have sex... and i feel like theyr better than me and i HATE being inferior to others idk why

[Contra]

no i really dont want compliments its just that i read somewhere that girls cheat on guys usually because they arnt good in bed... and the first time i had sex my gf at the time told her friends that it was bad.. and since then i kinda feel like my improvements still arent up to standards!

If you think you're not bad, that's all you need! If it was for me I would be confident if I thought I was not bad...
Who cares? That girl was probably just fooling around. :yes:

[Grey fox]

Ok, pro-tip, you're not bad, you just have bad taste in girlfriends.

(I once broke up with a guy after he failed to live up to my expectations in bed, it being my first time and all, then after a while slept with his best friend, who I had presumed would be amazing, but her was WORSE. MUCH worse. And I really regret what I did, but hey, that's life, at least I learnt from it!)

[Depressedmaaan]

oh i know ive always had this problem where i find girls who are the most CONFUSING, sexually appealing (which equals competition), most dramatic, lol the list goes on! this girls got a deeeeep history of stupid shit in her life... where shes screwed.. but i feel like im helpin her change? or atleast i hope i am... idk but then on the other hand ive got such a nice girl who was a virgin when we hooked up and shes GREAT. but i want the one i simply cant have. Well i do have her... but i feel like EVERYBODY else does too if you catch my drift?

is there anyway i can know if im doing alright in bed? like other than moaning or w.e cuz anybody can do that! i needa know when a girls satisfied, i dont wanna be left guessing anymore lol

and youre helpin me out a lot! just seeing other peoples opinions is helpful, and when i think about it.. theres guys who are 40 and still suck in bed... im 17 so i think i shuld be happy im even getting chances! and my intentions arent bad.. i just wanna please the girls is that too much to ask? lol

[Ortizitthisone]

We can't give out any suggestions for techniques here. If that's what you're looking for, you're in the wrong place.

Also, you said in an earlier post that there were two girls, you're dating one but sleeping with both of them. Then you talked about girls cheating on guys for not being good in bed. You may want to think about why you're cheating on this girl before you think about why another girl may cheat on you...