I'm falling apart, I really really am.

[Darkness]

So you people are good with stuff like this, I can only hope you can help me again, The girl I like, does stupid things when shes drunk... She regrets it, but that's not good enough. In fact it's not it, not it at all. She's going to get hurt. I'll start from the beginning.

About two weeks ago she went to a party, she got drunk... and lets just say that clothes came off, and certain... well base pleasure was engaged in. I'm try to keep as much dignity in this as possible but they wanked each other, that's the bare face of it. She very attractive, and she doesn't help matters by they was she acts, it's... arousing, she'd never do anything stupid but... she might be taken advantage of.

Well a time after that she was approached by a man who offered her a job, as well as a whore, -she refused of course!
But this is the proof that she will get hurt, it's all I can do to keep from weeping, it's not that she'd ever do anything like that, but one day someone might not give her much choice... if she started cutting again... well I wouldn't be responsible for my actions towards myself. I pray for her, I can do nothing else.

Please if you can think of anyway I can tell her that she needs to stop this, tell me.

[MadManWithaBox]

well it sounds like the main problems are the drinking and cutting. +is she seeing someone for the cutting? if not, you need to try to get her to see someone, a professional, school teacher, school councellor etc. as for the drinking, you need to tell her you don't want her to do things like that, cos it upsets you, and it upsets her as well from you've said, and maybe try, if not stopping drinking, certainly reducing the amount she does, gradually. as for the man who offered her a job, all i can reccomend is to try to get her away from people like that. off her your companionship whenever possible, but don't be too pushy about wanting to spend time with her. If its friends of hers that are getting her into this, you need to try and either talk to said friends(im assuming it could be friends, not just from one source) and tell them to stop, or maybe attempt to make some new friends, new crowd? hope it works out for you, pm me if you need to talk

[Darkness]

She stopped cutting quite sometime ago but I don't want her to relapse.
She regrets the things she does, but no so much she wouldn't do it again, She's in full control of her actions, but her judgement goes to hell when she drinks.

As for spending time with her, Impossible! She lives in another country, still Britain but shes so far away I can't see her without great difficulty. I've met her, I like her, I can't think of not knowing her. But I have no influence over her as far as I can see.

[MadManWithaBox]

ask her to stop drinking. If not for you, but for herself. cos supposing you two break up over this, you gets another guy, they break up over the same thing? then another, then another? you need to tell her to stop now before its too late to change.

[Darkness]

She gets quite defensive, I'm scared (-that just doesn't happen to me, most of the time I'm so sure of myself,) but I can't but think I'll mess this up, I'm just another friend to her, I know that, but I can't tell her to stop or she'll just get pissed off.

I think she'd forgive me. But she'll not listen, I don't want her to think I'm a wimp, by god I'm not, she'll be SO stubborn. She's not arrogant, but just over confident, she grew up with guys one, maybe even two years older than her, I don't think she realizes that they're older than her all the time.

[MadManWithaBox]

I think mate, if you want to save her from herself, you'll have to risk her getting pissed with you. better have her hate you now and realise what a good thing you did for her in a few years then say nothing, and watch her get and worse, till she doesn stupid and you lose her completely. trust me

[Darkness]

Right, I'll do what I can, Thanks.
Any idea how I should say that, I don't want to seem possessive or like I think I have a right to interfere.

[MadManWithaBox]

well say every relationship has to be a two way street, I.E it can't all be one sided towards what she wants/need/thinks she needs. And although you haven't realised it, cos we live apart, it hurts me whenever you hurt yourself by doing something sillywhen your drunk, something you'll regret when your older. And if this relationship is gonna work, you have to start taking into consideration my feeling not just for my sake, but also your own, cos if you don't change now while your young, you may not be able to change at all, and therefore any future relationships you have will end the same way. I'm not trying to sound posseive and overprotective, but I really care about you, and to see you like this hurts me. so please, please try and change, help me and yourself, and I'l be here for you every step of the way.

[Darkness]

Ok thanks. I'll do that, not exactly because it wont be short enough but I'll get it all in there some how.

[MadManWithaBox]

lol yeah there is a bit much, yeah just the gist, put it into your own words and put/take out bits hope ive helped, if you need anymore advice don't hestitate to ask me via pm or here if you want.

[anime Freak]

wow all i can say is wow

[Darkness]

wow all i can say is wow

Would you care to elaborate?
Edit, new problem, how do I tell her she'll get hurt if she won't/can't talk to me?