My boyfriend depresses me, need advice

[kar0060]

I posted this in the wrong place so I re-posted it. Please take the time to read it and help me out. I need it :(

I've been really depressed lately and I'm pretty sure it's to do with my boyfriend. We are both 18. He is very stubborn and makes me feel down all the time and I feel he doesn't respect me. He is very smart and manipulates me and always makes me feel so stupid. I have tried talking to him about this and he says no one is perfect and that's the way he is. You may be wondering why I am still with him and I don't even know the answer to that but I feel maybe it is my fault. Maybe me being unhappy is making him like this and pushing him away. We have only been going out for 5 months but it's not the same as it used to be. I feel like a stranger to him and that he will never understand me. What do I do? I really don't know but I don't want to let him go.

Also we haven't said I love you to eachother yet but I called him yesterday and told him my feelings were peaking for him and that I've never liked anyone so much. He just said "Is that all? Because I have to go now." Maybe I am childish and insecure, maybe he is looking for something more. I don't want to let him go, I just want his interest. I want to know that he cares.

[Silverfist64]

ok...this guy sounds like a jerk. He doesnt respect you in the tiniest bit and he seems to think of you as a new toy (sorry for the comparison). The best advice is the obvious advice. Can you guess it? Just break up with him. You just want to know he cares but thats easier said than done because it would seem that he doesnt care. You say you like him alot and more than anyone before, but that doesnt mean hes the one. That doesnt mean you love him. You havent felt love yet and so you might assume that this strongest feeling is love. Im sorry but it doesnt sound like love. It doesnt sound like this relationship will ever work out. It doesnt sound like he is meant for you. You deserve someone who cares for you...someone who actually wants you to be happy and wont just say "Is that all" like he doesnt give a damn how you feel or what you say. Break up with him and have some fun being single. Dont try looking for love. Its not something that you can find...its something that finds you.

[RaeNose]

Hun. I just went through this.
I know that you probably really care about him and that you don't want to hurt him; however, if he's not treating you right and with respect, you're going to have to leave.
The pain is obviously more than the happiness if you're becoming depressed.
Trust me, you'll find someone who will accept you for who you are and care about your opinions and treat you like you deserve to be treated, but you're going to have to move on for now.

[Jagador]

Dump him. Hes such an ass!!! He shows you no consideration, and no respect! A relationship should be about love. However he doesn't have an ounce of love in him. If you call him to tell him your feelings, and he doesn't reply with something in return that is positive, im sorry but its time to move on. You won't change him from what he is, no matter how hard you try.

[Grey fox]

I went through something like this very recently, to the extent where my then boyfriend had severely eroded my self-confidence. It did though happen when both of us were sitting our AS exams so we were pretty stressed out, and sharing a study so were in the same tiny room for 4+ hours a day.

We broke up though, and though it was fun being single again, we are going back out after we'd talked it through (it turned out he had NO IDEA what he was doing, I was his first ever girlfriend).

That is just how it turned out for me.

For you though, i'm afraid I have to agree with pretty much everyone above in the labelling of your boyfriend as a jerk. You can do way better then him!

Please bear in mind that it is NOT your fault, and maybe you two just can't make it work anymore. And on the plus side, if you dump him, it might wake him up and bit, bring him to his senses and make him realise what a jerk he was and how sorry he is.

Keep smiling though! :)

[bombasticdude]

dump him he is a complete jackass...a jerk..i really get pissed when i see that a gurl is treated that way..my advise to leave him...for good