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tripolar
September 5th, 2009, 12:47 AM
In May i said something bad about my friend because i was mad at him. Well when he found out he was really pissed off and it was over, I tried as hard as i could to fix the friendship but he didn't want to be friends, his mom, brother and sister all tried to fix it. I wanted to be friends again but he was mad, so i started to hate him for not forgiving me. Yeah it was completely my fault but even his mom said he needs to forget wait i said. His mom told me to stop by and call but i never did. So over the summer i broke everything off that did with him and his family and pretty much pushed him away. In August I talked to his brother (first time in months) and his mom and they said he wants to be friends again and to come over. See i still like is mom, sister and brother, but i didn't want to be friends with him. Whats funny his when i go to his house he is cool and it's like we continued where we were before what happened in May. But the whole time i put on a fake smile and wanted to just tell him how much i hate him but he forgave me but it doesn't really matter to me.

But now its flipped I hate him and he wants to be friends. I guess i don't like him because he wouldn't forgive me, but now I'm acting like him by not forgiving him. Everyone in his family and him act like we can be best friends again, but i know the friendship will never be the same its pretty much destroyed.

When i went over there everyone was real nice and it was like the good old days but I felt bitter. We were good friends and i want to be friends again but another part of me says fuck him and his whole family. So I don't really know what to do, he wants to be friends again should i go for it or forget them?

NightFighter
September 5th, 2009, 08:03 AM
Go for it.
It will take time to get back to the way things used to be but i think you will both regret it if you dont try. Its evident that you care for him or else you wouldnt have gone round to his house. You may be feeling hurt that he didnt forgive you immediatly but understand that you really upset him. You hurt him and he forgave you so, the chances are, you will forgive him and will want to be friend in the future.
So, take things slowly. Dont throw away your friendship.

Θάνατος
September 5th, 2009, 08:29 AM
I think you should forgive him. Don't be biter and hold a grudge.

I think you should talk to your friend and let him know how you feel and how it made you feel when all of this came down.

The time you took away from each other can be helpful. Sure things will never be the same but at the same time somethings need to change for progress to happen. What do you have to lose if you try to become best friends again. The worse that could happen is you hate each other and that is what you have now.

His family is very supportive of you and so no matter what happens stay close to them.

I hope this works out for you having good friends is very important.

I say give it a try and work hard to renew what you two had before. Being best friends is hard work sometimes.

Don't let your pride ruin this.

Jagador
September 5th, 2009, 05:34 PM
Even though he did not forgive you, his way for asking for an apology is to be friends again. Accept the friendship once more.. Everyone deserves a second chance to redeem what was lost. Your time apart clearly made him think it over.

tripolar
September 6th, 2009, 12:44 AM
Alright thanks guys I'll try to give it another chance, thanks for the advice.