The "moving" Talk

[annalea]

I've done this before.. 3 times. Getting sat down, saying nice stuff first, then that we are moving...
Right now i live in switzerland, and its the first place out of the 3 places ive lived that I feel really comfortable and at home. I have real friends here...
in the u.s, it was all about drama. in belgium, I was little so it doesn't make a difference.
This is high school, and I want to stay in the same place, but my parents don't realize it. They are blind to so many things, and when I try to talk to them, they interrupt me each time.
This time.. they want to move to Paris. I keep telling them I'm not going.. but I don't know what to do anymore. I can't move. I've already been to Paris and looked at the intl schools but I didn't like any. Paris is like my second home, and I love it.. but not to live there.

If anyone is in a similar situation or has any advice...

[Jagador]

Call a family meeting and tell them not to speak until you are done with what you are saying. If they try to interrupt, raise your voice to make them quite. My parents do that to me too, interrupt me when i try to speak. Other than that, i really don't know what to say. Moving so often is hard on any kid/teen. Another option is to convince them to stay where u are at right now.

[Contra]

You need to make them see that if you change school, it will be difficult to make new friends and to get on tracks in terms of subjects... As jagador said, raise your voice to be heard!

[mrmcdonaldduck]

tell them clearly, but not violently that moving would be very bad.

[DecemberRain]

I agree with jagador

[JackOfClubs]

Call a family meeting and tell them not to speak until you are done with what you are saying. If they try to interrupt, raise your voice to make them quite. My parents do that to me too, interrupt me when i try to speak. Other than that, i really don't know what to say. Moving so often is hard on any kid/teen. Another option is to convince them to stay where u are at right now.
Raising your voice is the worst possible thing to do. It will only make them listen less, and you will lose.

Try and tell them calmly that moving will separate you from all of your friends and that it will be really hard saying good bye to all of them.....again.

[Jagador]

Raising your voice is the worst possible thing to do. It will only make them listen less, and you will lose.

Try and tell them calmly that moving will separate you from all of your friends and that it will be really hard saying good bye to all of them.....again.

Talk to them too calmly and they will go over your voice, ignoring you. To show you want an opinion in a subject, you need to let your voice be heard. People with a booming voice and isn't afraid to talk clearly always suceed in life

[JackOfClubs]

Talk to them too calmly and they will go over your voice, ignoring you. To show you want an opinion in a subject, you need to let your voice be heard. People with a booming voice and isn't afraid to talk clearly always suceed in life
Her voice should be heard, but not yelling. That doesn't work. For me anyway :P And, for me anyway, if you cross your parents, it'll only make it worse.

[Jagador]

Her voice should be heard, but not yelling. That doesn't work. For me anyway :P And, for me anyway, if you cross your parents, it'll only make it worse.

Raising your tone and yelling is 2 completely different things...

[boy.on.laptop]

Im with Jackofclubs here 'raising your tone' should be the last resort. Avioding confrontation is the key.

I totally understand if you don't want to answer this but who old are you? can you consider living apart from your parents. I have traveled to Europe and know the great train system although it is a long journey, would it be possible to stay there in the weekdays and Paris in the weekends?
Just an idea even if totally unsuitable

[Jagador]

Im with Jackofclubs here 'raising your tone' should be the last resort. Avioding confrontation is the key.

I totally understand if you don't want to answer this but who old are you? can you consider living apart from your parents. I have traveled to Europe and know the great train system although it is a long journey, would it be possible to stay there in the weekdays and Paris in the weekends?
Just an idea even if totally unsuitable

Disappearing and running away is bad. It is even worse than raising your tone. It will sink in the parents head that something around the area that they are living at is making her leave. Parents don't understand their kids often. It will be rare for them to guess that the first reason you ran was to stay there. More like they will think you ran because you really want to leave

[annalea]

im only 13... i dont think living elsewhere would be a possibility.. but thanks everybody and ill take it everything into consideration.. the subject hasnt been brought up yet but I have a feeling it will soon...

[Contra]

Well, good luck with it...! :D
Then tell us how it went.

[boy.on.laptop]

Disappearing and running away is bad. It is even worse than raising your tone. It will sink in the parents head that something around the area that they are living at is making her leave. Parents don't understand their kids often. It will be rare for them to guess that the first reason you ran was to stay there. More like they will think you ran because you really want to leave

If you read my comment, I was not suggesting running away but moving out after considering all other options and discussing the whole thing with them. But anyway 13 is way too young, good luck with the talk with the parents.

[annalea]

ughh my dad is getting more persistent about frikin paris. my mom is loosening up tho..