My friend :(

[Amyxoxo]

PLease move if not in the right place but it says depression, loss and greif??
Well, my friend moved to france about 4 years ago. About 2 years later her dad died and she moved back to england. She it VERY smart and i would never expect her to do anything stupid or anything like at all.
We go to scouts together and we have just been to KIJ :D Anyways we went to the beach and on this ride. She had cuts all over her legs and it was so bait that she was self harming. She is also talking to a breavement councler witch i think is good but there is something else. She keeps saying that her mum is lying about something. I know she has a new boyfriend who is really nice and i cant see how that would be up setting her. Well as i have like never lost anyone close to me i wondered if anyone here had and if they know how i may be able to help her. I hate seeing her like this.
Thanks guys :)

[Beautiful Obsession]

i know this is going to be hard for you and your friend. but shes going to be very upset wen u have this conversation, just ask her bout the cuts in her legs, but remember shes goin to try to cover it up, tell her you can help, and show her your not judging her for it..

[diamond jetstream]

i agree and also when people get depressed and become self harming then they are feeling sorry for themselves and this is becase there is no one they can trust with their problems they will look for a role model to guide them and if they dont find that role model then the self harm continues.if u tell her she ca trust u then she will gradually start to trust u and see u as a role model,then u can introduce a rewards system where u take her out somewhere nice if she doesnt self harm;) i hope i helped and my condolences for yor friend:(

[Viral Death]

Just sit down with her and ask her about these cuts, dont make it sound like your trying to get her in trouble. Then I would let her know that you are here for her. But I am really sorry about your friend!

[Ortizitthisone]

As the others have said, reach out to her. Don't be confrontational about it, just sit down with her and talk to her. The conversation doesn't have to start with the cuts, just make sure she knows she can talk to you about anything, and then slowly let her open up as much as she wants to. It's an amazing feeling to know that there are people out there you can talk to, and maybe she doesn't recognize that too much. Make sure she knows she can trust you and that you can help her.