wanting a lover

[themanwhoneverwould]

Ok, i am 15, and i haven't had a relationship in years. the last one i had was not serious and with a girl in Primary school!! SO about 5 years ago.

In that time, i have been turned down by every girl i asked, and it hurt a lot. Probably also contributes to my extremly low self esteme and confidence! In that time i have also discovered that i am Bi but more into men.

I do't want to be single. I would love to meet a man, (or woman) who i could emotionally connect to and love as my own. I do prefer men, and i only know 2 other people who are not straight, both a girls and both are lesbians. I feal that until i finish school i will be lonely. No lie, i haven't even kissed another person before, i am, as people say, 'Frigid'

Any tips on how i could meet a guy as, as far as i know there is no one in my school who is, and all of the boys in my school of my age are real tossers to be honest. Not someone i would want to be with anyway. But i want to find someone and have that first kiss.

[Jagador]

No.. no tips on that because im in that exact situation too.. lol... but i've never had a girlfriend in my life when i WAS straight...lol

[AllThatIsLeft]

Ever tried Gay/Lesbian/Bi Youth groups?
That can be a way to meet guys.

[themanwhoneverwould]

Well i just sometimes feel a bit odd at school as i am the only one not to have had their first kiss yet. Most of them had sex years ago!

[Sage]

Not to sound pessimistic, but being in a number of 'loving relationships', I find that sure, it is pretty good fun and comes with some great feelings, but it is a lot of work and breaking up with my last girlfriend really showed me that being single isn't so bad. Is that a cold thing to say?

[RenamedUser]

If you're only 15, don't worry about it. Enjoy your youth and being (relatively) free.

[themanwhoneverwould]

Well, even if i have to wait till uni, i don't want it to be how gays and Bi's re often portrayed, as only have 1 night stands and all that (such as in queer as folk.) I would want to be in a proper relationship caring and loving.

Still i know that it will take time to find someone, but when i do, i hope for us to be madly in love. Travel for a bit. Then settle down and just be happy.

Hey i can dream can't I. Although, i doubt anything will go to plan. When does anyone get their dreams to come true.

My biggest problem is confidence. Or lack of, Infact, i don't really have any when i am not with my friends.

[Grey fox]

I'm sure there's someone out there who adores you!

As for wanting to settle down, hello!?!? you're 15!!!! Do you seriously want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, NOW?!

What if they turn out to not be "the one" after all?

Also, what are you looking for? You say in your title about having a lover, but then talk about a loving committed relationship. In order to get what you want, you must first make it clear in your head WHAT you want.

(And it's worth baring in mind that at your age, gay sex is illegal, and also inadvisable due to potential damage/health risks/blah blah blah so maybe try out and get experience from girls first? It's worth a thought!)

Just play it cool, and have faith in that most things happen for a reason.

Failing that, be optimistic! Keep trying, don't give up and have faith that with a bit of perseverance, some good will come.

(I reckon primary school relationships don't count, cos if they do, I was in a lesbian relationship aged 6...)

[themanwhoneverwould]

I'm sure there's someone out there who adores you!

As for wanting to settle down, hello!?!? you're 15!!!! Do you seriously want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, NOW?!

What if they turn out to not be "the one" after all?

Also, what are you looking for? You say in your title about having a lover, but then talk about a loving committed relationship. In order to get what you want, you must first make it clear in your head WHAT you want.

(And it's worth baring in mind that at your age, gay sex is illegal, and also inadvisable due to potential damage/health risks/blah blah blah so maybe try out and get experience from girls first? It's worth a thought!)

Just play it cool, and have faith in that most things happen for a reason.

Failing that, be optimistic! Keep trying, don't give up and have faith that with a bit of perseverance, some good will come.

(I reckon primary school relationships don't count, cos if they do, I was in a lesbian relationship aged 6...)

Sorry if what i said was miss leading
The bit about settling down i meant abut in the future. Not now. Blimey not now. Same for all the stuff about 1 nigth stands and that junk. No, i know i am to young for sex and stuff, i just meant that when older, much older, i want to find someone properly and not do what some do and have 1 night stands and never see that guy again.. Sorry if i wrote it misleadingly.

as for the title i meant boyfriend, not neciserilly life partner. Sorry once again.

If primaryschool realtionships dn't count then i have been single for 15 years!

Oh i feel bad now that i have given people the wrong impression.