mjohns
September 2nd, 2009, 03:04 PM
From a young age we where all told have sex when you ready etc...
I know im going to be told its because your a boy, but when I first had sex it was nothing I didnt feel any different, I didn't feel like I had 'became a man' or anything like that.
We where both virgins outside of a relationship and it just happned we werent under the influence of anything.
We where both brought up in fairly liberal familys where sex wasnt tabboo it was spoken about freely and our respective parents both told us both what was what.
To this day (four years of being "sexualy active") I have never got anyone pregnant (and I have had a significant amount of sexual encounters) which is part luck part being careful but the same is true of std's, ihave never had one.
Anyway I think my point is... I believe adults put too much pressure on young teens to "find the right person" and "to wait until your ready". And I think this maybe mainly to the fact that sex has become something that adults have tried to make exclusively theres, when in fact the reason human beings start there transition to adulthood so young is because thats when nature (Or god if you believe in him) intend you to have sex. Therefore creating a mindset where young men and women regret who they lose there virginitys too and stress about what age and when they lose it.
Im not just saying sleep with anyone, because it would cause a lot of stress if you did lose it to the wrong person. But I believe the stress is there because adults put it in to young people that they 'have' to lose it to someone special. It would be like telling a young person they have to be thin!
If you can teach you teens to use birth control effectively, and be safe then there wouldnt be half the problem there is now with underage pregnancys.
Am sure I will get some interesting opinions back on this...
I know im going to be told its because your a boy, but when I first had sex it was nothing I didnt feel any different, I didn't feel like I had 'became a man' or anything like that.
We where both virgins outside of a relationship and it just happned we werent under the influence of anything.
We where both brought up in fairly liberal familys where sex wasnt tabboo it was spoken about freely and our respective parents both told us both what was what.
To this day (four years of being "sexualy active") I have never got anyone pregnant (and I have had a significant amount of sexual encounters) which is part luck part being careful but the same is true of std's, ihave never had one.
Anyway I think my point is... I believe adults put too much pressure on young teens to "find the right person" and "to wait until your ready". And I think this maybe mainly to the fact that sex has become something that adults have tried to make exclusively theres, when in fact the reason human beings start there transition to adulthood so young is because thats when nature (Or god if you believe in him) intend you to have sex. Therefore creating a mindset where young men and women regret who they lose there virginitys too and stress about what age and when they lose it.
Im not just saying sleep with anyone, because it would cause a lot of stress if you did lose it to the wrong person. But I believe the stress is there because adults put it in to young people that they 'have' to lose it to someone special. It would be like telling a young person they have to be thin!
If you can teach you teens to use birth control effectively, and be safe then there wouldnt be half the problem there is now with underage pregnancys.
Am sure I will get some interesting opinions back on this...