Suddenly i feel wrong

[themanwhoneverwould]

I have recently realised that i am bisexual. But the longer time goes on, i start feeling more depressed about my sexual orientation.

It started when i found out about how people who have had same gender sex are banned for life from donating blood, even if they are parcticing safe sex adn with only 1 person.
If the NHS still is prejudice against safe sex practising GLB's then there is a problem.

Also, there are so many homophobes, even one of my friends is homophobic, and i feel sadened around him, because other than that he is nice, but if i get all offended by what he says people will know i am bi before i am ready to come out.

Then there is religion, if i am gay or bi, then that pretty much banished me to hell doesn't it. But i can't help how i feel.

I mean i an sure that i am Bi as i do like men, but the situation is starting to depress me, slowly more and more. To start with i was fine, and i actually felt happy to have discovered myself. But there is so much homophobia still a round i feel as though i am wrong and when i 'come out' i will be frowned upon by society.

All i wanted was to find a guy (i am Bi but more leaning towards guys) and just be happy with life. But i fear that with all the prejudice it wont be happy, and i will be discriminated against because of who i love, and love (especially sexual orientation) is random.

I will stop here, because you get my general situation and if i haven't got the message across then more examples would not help. I am worrying if i am wrong for likening men. :(

[Jacobim Mugatu]

Man, where do you live, because California, especially San Francisco, is the gay capital of the world, and being from here myself, its rather difficult to think that you are not over exaggerating. But places are different. What I see as the biggest problem in finding another. Rather difficult to tell if one is gay or BI, and even then they might not like you.

[Jagador]

Don't out yourself down, and most importantly, don't let others put you down. Be proud of who you are, no matter what it is. Also, everyone knows that this world isn't ready to accept the truth, so that you can't help. As for religion, god has a place for everyone, gay,bi, les, what ever it is. As for the homophobics, ignore them, don't let them put you in a state of depression, because it has already happened to me, and it isn't pleasant. All around you there are homophobics. And as for you liking men, it can't be helped. You like what you like and you should not be ashamed. I am gay, and i am looked down upon by society and everyone at school (i haven't told anyone yet tho) but i am happy the way i am

[Jagador]

Man, where do you live, because California, especially San Francisco, is the gay capital of the world, and being from here myself, its rather difficult to think that you are not over exaggerating. But places are different. What I see as the biggest problem in finding another. Rather difficult to tell if one is gay or BI, and even then they might not like you.

psst.. the east coast is highly homophobic, especially the south-east region. They used to burn, and kill anyone who was gay

[themanwhoneverwould]

Well actually, i live in the UK. So no where near where you guessed.
Thanks Jagador, i'm just gunna be myself, and if people don't like it, then thats their problem. I amnot going to let them bring me down.
Although, i am not ready to come out yet at school or with Family.

[bob cuddy]

well i have one sugestion..
kill some one, rape the corpse.
do it twice, one to male one to female so your still bisexual butt the best part is your also a necrofeliac :)
no need to thank me guys

[mrmcdonaldduck]

you shouldnt feel deppresed about your sexual orentation. you are what you are and you cant change it.

[themanwhoneverwould]

Well i have been reading on gaylife.about.com and that has helped a lot. As well as you guys here.
I don't feal so bad any more, but i still worry the prejudice i will face when i come out.

[confusedboy]

That's part of the problem... you CAN'T care what others think about you. Take as much time as you need when coming out. The reason I came out was because I couldn't handle the pressure of hiding myself. You must be religious too which is a good thing. If you believe in God, doesn't he say he loves ALL his children? I don't think you, myself, or any other gay/bi/lesbian/etc. are going to hell (inless of course your just an evil person and refuse to believe in God). Don't worry. If you need to talk PM me. :) It's gonna be ok. When I feel bad about myself I listen to music, it's my passion. So when you feel bad, try doing something that you love to get your mind off things, It just might help.

[Jagador]

That's part of the problem... you CAN'T care what others think about you. Take as much time as you need when coming out. The reason I came out was because I couldn't handle the pressure of hiding myself. You must be religious too which is a good thing. If you believe in God, doesn't he say he loves ALL his children? I don't think you, myself, or any other gay/bi/lesbian/etc. are going to hell (inless of course your just an evil person and refuse to believe in God). Don't worry. If you need to talk PM me. :) It's gonna be ok. When I feel bad about myself I listen to music, it's my passion. So when you feel bad, try doing something that you love to get your mind off things, It just might help.

well said.. well said

[themanwhoneverwould]

Well, i am more Agnostic, considering all possibilities. If that makes sence. Once again, thanks to all! Its really helped. I have just got to ignore other peoples criticisms. Hay i live once, in 80ish years (well fingers crossed) i will be the one regretting things i never did because of prejudice homophobes.

[nick]

I'm bi, not out, but in the UK. I believe there are very many worse places, much worse in many cases, than the UK in which to be bi or gay. Just be yourself.

[MisterMonster]

you won't be banished to hell
according to christianity you'll be forgiven. Its blasphemy and like... not killing someone or something.

and where in the UK? Cos if it's anywhere in Scotland or wales or Ireland or England, i feel sorry for you. Honestly it's fine being bisexual. Can you help it? Can you help being black? Is it wrong to be black? Exactly the same idea.

[themanwhoneverwould]

you won't be banished to hell
according to christianity you'll be forgiven. Its blasphemy and like... not killing someone or something.

and where in the UK? Cos if it's anywhere in Scotland or wales or Ireland or England, i feel sorry for you. Honestly it's fine being bisexual. Can you help it? Can you help being black? Is it wrong to be black? Exactly the same idea.

I live In England, why do you feel sorry for me if i am in Wales, Scotland, England and Ireland?
I am going to consider and plan how to come out, i want to get a boy friend first, to make sure 100% before i tell people.

[MisterMonster]

It was a joke.
Good for you, coming out. Getting a boyfriend won't make you 100% sure you're gay. You'd probably be sure now, or in a little while.
How are you thinking of telling people?

[diamond jetstream]

w were born with more than basic instinct we get to choose our orientation and there is nothing wrong with being bi.dont feel depressed im backing you im bi aswell;)

[The Harlequin]

One thing I've found as a fellow bisexual in the UK is that the world isn't nearly as bad as you may think it is. Now is the best time to be GLB ~ before people were much more homophobic, in past decades things were bad, there was no internet etc.

Your homophobic friend is probably not a good start to come out to, I'm sure you know that ~ but I still haven't told one of my best friends as he's so homophobic, there's no shame in keeping it from him, a good idea getting a bf, but take your time with it ~ the chance will come, usually when you're not looking for it (:^,

[thepieman]

Make sure you're comfortable about your sexuality, there's nothing wrong with it. If you think you'll be bullied about it now, maybe wait until you're a bit older to be out. It probably isn't a good idea for me to come out at my school. I'm also bi, but not out, and in the UK. I think it also depends on where you live. I live in quite an old fashioned place in the northwest, but if you think people may be more accepting where you are then go for it.

Good luck, and be careful - make sure your happy with whatever your decision is.

[Grey fox]

Ans as for the hell bit - heaven sounds terribly dull, hell is where all the fun is ;)

But seriously, all men are created equal right, and god is all loving and all forgiving, and Jesus died to spare us from our sins, so what are you worrying about?