girlfriend knows (need girl help on this please)

[wadeexpo]

ok im 13 and recently my gf found out i masterbate... now she says she doesnt care and shes not offended or anything... but i also think she wouldnt hurt me or make me feel bad about it, like she might just be being nice
so girls...
bfs masterbating... does it affect the relationship in anyway and do girls hate it or something?
b/c if so i'll stop or something...
please help!

[ScotsGirl]

I dont mind at all.
I guess Id be a hypocrite if I did though... :P LOL!

You could try talking to your girlfriend again, and just ask her for a completely honest answer. I can understand though, if she did mind but doesnt want to hurt your feelings...
Can I ask, if you found out she masterbated...how would you feel?

:D
xxx

[krzwis]

how'd she find you do it?




truth be told, we found out we both do it. But because we try to live a christian sorta lifestyle, we're both trying to kick the habbit, so we're actully both in a war against it (if that makes any sense).


She wasn't too offended, not at all actully.

Then again, i broke it to her in the 3rd month and before that we promised not to ever have sex, not to make out, etc till marridge.

Don't bring it up to her, don't ask if she does it, unless you two are having a really dirty and flirty relationship.

But at the same time, don't act like "she finding out" has affected your life....just continue life with her normally....and try to minimize the masturbating

[wadeexpo]

ya.. im trying to stop but its so damn hard!
but if i found out she did i could really care less... infact i'd be glad that im not the only one in the relationship that does it..
oh and how she found out was that i told her... i didnt like keeping it secret from her...
and ya idk about frenching but we're not doing anything sexual until marraige...

[krzwis]

you'd think frenching isn't sexual...but actually it is.....why do you think you get a boner when you french?

its physical gradification
so is sex
and so is masturbation

not saying don't make out...i'm just saying why i don't do it


but yeah...even if she tells you that she does it, don't wank off so much

save it for her when you get married *wink*

[Kiros]

Over the past years, I've learned something. Although girls may deny and discriminate against masterbating, many (if not, all of them) actually masterbate and, of course, take pleasure in doing so. Guys are more open about it probably because a stereotypical guy is thought to do it often, while a stereotypical girl is thought to do the exact opposite. Anyway, the point is, if you ask her if she did it, she would probably say no (depends on the atmosphere really), however, there's a good 90% saying she does it just as much as you :P

And no, I strongly doubt she actually cares about that. She is might actually be closer to you now because of your honesty :)

Eh, that's some food for thought I suppose...

[wadeexpo]

yerp lol turned into a nice bonding conversation...

and on the frenching thing... im too nervous for that anyways, so i doubt we will anyway....

[krzwis]

lol, you probably will in some way.

an edit though to someone's earlier comments
girls do masturbate aswell but he's right, they are alot more secritive about it


but hey, she trusts you more now

and trust...is an amazing thing, belive me

good luck with the love!