Uneasy, Unsure

[Jagador]

Lets see... idk where to start, so ill begin with when i was a child

Ever since i was in elementary school, i had been punished often by my father. He would get mad over the littlest things that i did wrong like spilled milk or undone dishes, and etc... He used to use a bamboo back scratcher (its not thick, but its not thin) and hit me with it. There were times he would use his hand with the ring on it to hit me, and since im so small, i was defenseless. He used to slam my head in the wall, or hit me across my nose so that i bled, and if it got on the floor, it me even more..... Its hard to say this to people i don't know but i can't tell anyone else.

When i was in middle school, it continued, but this time, it wasn't bamboo sticks or his hand, it turned to belt buckles, wire hangers, his foot, a metal ruler, and almost anything he could get his hands on that would harm me. I've always thought i deserved some of it, but after awhile, i realised that everything i went through, every fucken thing, was not my fault at all...(excuse the language) And now that i'm in high school, and in my junior year, it escalates to that almost every other day. Whenever i do something wrong and he doesn't hear the answer he likes, he will go after me. Chasing me around the house with something hurtful. Last month, he got me with the metal hanger on my arms and legs and back. Left red marks and bruises and some burns from the amount of power he put into his swings. I've realized for a long time that this is abuse if im not mistaken, but i have no idea what to do. He is the only source of incom for my family, and my parents are going through a mid-life crisis. This all is taking a huge toll on me, because i've already did an attempted suicide in febuary, so if anyone is willing to share a bit of advise, it'd help greatly.... idk what else to do, i've run out of options in my life now. It is being controlled by my maniac father....

[nachtspiegel]

Go to school and tell the counselor. Show them the marks.

It doesn't matter if he's the only income source. You don't deserve to be a whipping post. Plain and simple.

[Jagador]

yea... but idk....i guess im just too afraid to do so... ill try though.. thanks

[BuryYourFlame]

The only way this is going to end, is if you tell someone about this, they can stop him from hurting you, but they can't do anything unless you tell them.

As previously mentioned, the school counselor is a good place to start.

Good luck.

[Modus Operandi]

I agree. This is something you need to talk to your school counselor about.

Tell this to anyone you think you can trust. It helps alot to tell people about this kind of stuff.

[Corruption]

You could call the child abuse hot-line I got the number just pm me~ Also you dont have to take this when he trys to abuse you again just iunno fight back? You shouldnt have to put of with it.

[BuryYourFlame]

Fighting back physically will do nothing, if anything it will only make the situation worse, in almost every case, fathers are stronger than their children.

Telling someone else is the only way to end it.

[Triceratops]

You need to notify someone about the matter. Situations like this should never be left hidden.

Bottling this up is doing you no favours, it is so important that you let someone be aware of this.
Remember, people are going to be willing to help and support you. Including us here on VT.

I hope things get better for you.

[Discomposure]

Do you have a teacher you can talk to? One your comfortable around, perhaps telling them, they will probably get you to the counselor if you don't want to just show up if you don't know the school counselor. But do tell someone and get it sorted.

[Jagador]

I'm a quite kid, i don't talk to any of my teachers unless it is school related. Also, i've already tried to fight back, but only once and boy... did i get black and blue on me...=T... thanks all for the help, but now i wonder, should i wait for another incident to occur before telling? because i heal fast and only some marks are visible.

[Beautiful Obsession]

You need to tell someone, a teacher, any other family, a friend? call the police next time he harms you? call a helpline?

you dont need to be afraid, youv done nothing wroong, your not the one in the wrong he is. please just tell someone and it will al get sorted, you dont deserve this please do something to help you xx

[Ortizitthisone]

Brandon,
Do NOT wait for it to happen again before you tell someone. All it takes is one hit in the wrong place to have permanent, debilitating physical damage (he could even kill you). I'm not saying these things to scare you, I'm saying these things because they're true and because this behavior on the part of your father CAN NOT CONTINUE. It is unacceptable for this to continue happening, you do not deserve to live in this kind of pain and torment. You have to be strong and brave and tell someone you trust. A teacher, a counselor, anyone. Even going directly to the police is an option. He does not have the right to do this to you any more. Not one more time.

PM me anytime. Be strong. Be brave. Nobody has the right to do this to you.

[Noobzilla]

If you tell a teacher or counciler and shows them marks, they wont keep it confidential, they will immediatly notify socialworkers and people like that, you would possibly taken to a foster home for a while where you would be safe, you could even stay there permanitly if you wanted. and your family is normally the very last people to know about this.

[Giles]

Its highly unlikley that it will stop by itself after all this time, u need to tell some1. any1.

[Mystic]

well just an opinion, he hits you, you let him and he won't stop.
Don't let him hit you defend yourself but don't attack back.
If he can't hurt you all he can do is kill you, I don't think he would do that.

[sasquatch]

Mystic that's not the point mate, if he cant hurt, he can only kill, but one day if both happens....

Mate, be strong, tell someone, don't let anyone treat you like that. life can only get better if you're at this stage. I'd like to see him and kick him in the nuts. noone deserves that.

[Monoxide]

TELL A COUNSELOR RIGHT AWAY!

If he is the only source of income and decides to "leave" Well.. Your a junior i'm sure you could get a job in the meantime.

But don't Allow this abuse to continue.

[alex95]

since i dont tell councelers anything i go through i keep it to my self tell your friends at school (your close friends)my mom use to treat me the same way. but not anymore this time she yells at me

[Shalom]

You have to be strong, fighting back physically is impossible. Fighting back mentally is the key! You have to out smart him in everything. If dishes need to be done, do it before he says. Or whatever the situation is out smart him. I'd suggest talking to your school counselor as well.

[RuneArchiac]

Whoa...

Well my dad's the same too except no hitting me with anything he just gives off temper tantrums then just goes on with his life usually no punishment at all just gives me lectures and stuff

My mom think is worse when shes mad sometimes she would throw something at me and ground me

when I was 12 they were like as long as you do your homework you can play on the computer in the weekends for as long as you like but then at the end of the day they complain that I was playing the whole day and in my mind I'm like OMG my parents are so dumb and annoying.