Made fun of

[yoyome]

Hi,

My friend came over the other day to spend the night. We watched porn and talked about all the stuff guys do when we got on to the conversation of how it seems that girls can masturbate together and it's ok, but guys can't. I asked him if he would every jack off with another guy and he said no, and, just being funny, I googled "is it ok to jack off with other guys" and told him that alot of people on google thought it was ok.

Now, he was totally cool the rest of the day and the next day, but at school one day he told people that I had 'hit' on him. Remember, I never said that I would jack off with another guy. A lot of people at school believe me when I say it's not true and he's just exaggerating a joke, but some are making fun of me a lot. What should I do, just ignore it until it blows over like anything else? Confront the guy?

Thanks!

[Jagador]

Confront your friend and tell him your problem. A real friend doesn't do that to another friend. Talk to him alone and explain that his rumor is causing you distress. If you wait for it to blow over, it will take a long time, and it can even make you depressed and you don't want that. So take the initiative and approach him about the problem. Solve it face to face, and if he doesn't want to listen, i'd talk to a counselor or an adult you can trust to solve the problem. It may be embarrassing but it will help you in the end. You don't have to tell about the whole night, just bits and pieces of it that you find fit to tell

[yoyome]

Thank you.

More and more people are telling me that they didn't believe him, or are at least believing me when I tell them that it was all a big joke, so maybe it will be Ok.

Thanks again!

[Silent]

Jagador couldn't of said it better.

[Jagador]

No problem, if you need help... PM me.. ill try to solve your problems to the best of my knowledge... i won't know everything though.

And thanks Silent

[bowlheadhere]

Just ignore it. You do not want to slouch down to his level by having to spread rumors and make fun of others. The best thing about teens is that we tend to forget most things in a very short amount of time. It will all pass within a week or two, and no one will ever remember. Even if they do remember or call you gay, you should just tell them that you arent (if you arent... i dont know). If I were in your position though, I would just gently say "hey, what if I am gay?! do you have a problem with that?!" to those who make fun of me for it (even though I am not). The thing is that if you allow them to have the satisfaction of seeing you get upset by saying such things, they will continuously come back to you in order to get that satisfaction. But if you don't want to do anything and are embarassed/upset by it, just walk away.

By the way, I just want to say that you may want to reconsider your friendship. I do not think that a true friend makes fun of thier friends. You should reconsider his friendship, or talk it over with him. I dont think that it is right for anyone to make fun of another, especially a friend.

Hope this helps...

[yoyome]

Thanks everyone!

Well, I went ahead and confronted him via text, hoping to get it out of the way before school tomorrow. He didn't reply the first few times, but then I told him that I understood that I scared him but I really was joking and that I was sorry and we should handle this like adults. he replied and said that he didn't mean for everyone to know. He said that I sounded serious to him and he freaked out, and he felt like he was in an odd situation. He apologized for how people treated me, but he freaked out and messed up. He called me 'bud' in that message. I told him I accept his apology and that I understood and I apologized for scaring him like that, and will think before I talk from now on. I asked if he accepted my apology as well and he said he did.

Thanks to everyone. It is very comforting knowing that people are out there and can help me so quickly. Know that you are making a difference in people's lives. Your post of "No problem, if you need help... PM me.. ill try to solve...." really means a lot to me. I know that I can come here if I have problems and have friends to talk to.

Hopefully everyone at school will stop since he is defending me. Or at least, it will last a much less amount of time.

Again, thanks. I really, really appreciate it.

Hi, I just saw bowlheadhere's post.

Thanks, you're right. I will talk to him about our friendship. I think though, that he was acting out of emotion like all of us do sometimes. I'm sure we can work it out.

I'm not gay, btw.

Thanks!


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[Jagador]

Thanks everyone!

Well, I went ahead and confronted him via text, hoping to get it out of the way before school tomorrow. He didn't reply the first few times, but then I told him that I understood that I scared him but I really was joking and that I was sorry and we should handle this like adults. he replied and said that he didn't mean for everyone to know. He said that I sounded serious to him and he freaked out, and he felt like he was in an odd situation. He apologized for how people treated me, but he freaked out and messed up. He called me 'bud' in that message. I told him I accept his apology and that I understood and I apologized for scaring him like that, and will think before I talk from now on. I asked if he accepted my apology as well and he said he did.

Thanks to everyone. It is very comforting knowing that people are out there and can help me so quickly. Know that you are making a difference in people's lives. Your post of "No problem, if you need help... PM me.. ill try to solve...." really means a lot to me. I know that I can come here if I have problems and have friends to talk to.

Hopefully everyone at school will stop since he is defending me. Or at least, it will last a much less amount of time.

Again, thanks. I really, really appreciate it.

That is good that you both understand each other. Just remember, that you can have a friend today, and he/she will be gone tomorrow. It is up to you to keep that friend and fix the problems that occur before it escalates out of control

[yoyome]

Thanks, Jagador. I'll make sure to keep our friendship in line.

Thanks again everyone!

[iceyfresh]

Ignore the bullying and comfront him

[tyler_52]

you should confornt him and tell him hes being a faggit ... or if you want to stay friends say that he should stop with this joking around and tell everyone the truth ...
and tell everyone what you just said thell beileve you .. if you dont think so then just tell them ur friends is just joking around and then if they dont beileve you your last hope is to freak out and tell everyone there being a bunch of short-cock, wizard-sleeved vaginas that dont shut up... but i highly doubt you will have to go that far

[Jagador]

you should confornt him and tell him hes being a faggit ... or if you want to stay friends say that he should stop with this joking around and tell everyone the truth ...
and tell everyone what you just said thell beileve you .. if you dont think so then just tell them ur friends is just joking around and then if they dont beileve you your last hope is to freak out and tell everyone there being a bunch of short-cock, wizard-sleeved vaginas that dont shut up... but i highly doubt you will have to go that far

Absolutely unnecessary, you don't need to threaten people to make them listen to you, so long as your a kind person, everyone will hear your voice. Name calling doesn't get you anywhere.

[bowlheadhere]

Absolutely unnecessary, you don't need to threaten people to make them listen to you, so long as your a kind person, everyone will hear your voice. Name calling doesn't get you anywhere.

Agreed. Dont take tyler's advice. There is no reason to threaten and harass others, no matter what the circumstances are.

[JackOfClubs]

Tyler is wrong. Just tell him that he shouldn't be spreading rumors like that, and to please stop. If he is a good friend he will stop.