Am I wrong? I feel like i did something

[sam i am]

Me and my friend(well ex friend now i think) got into a fight. Long story short he knows i like him and i talked about it to him many times. On sat he send me an IM saying we don't have to be friends anymore,o btw like a hour before he send me that we was talking about how much he still loves his ex and shit and how she loves him but don't wanna be with him. Now he send me a message saying we don't have to be friends anymore and i was like what?!? because i was shocked and kinda confuse he said it again and i said is this a joke and he said haha sorry like wtf? and later he said he was just kidding like i talked to him about a week ago telling him not to mess with my feeling and we agreed with that. And he comes along and does this. He was saying o he thought i wouldn't take it seriously. Here's some of it on msn


Me says: (8:24:11 PM)like wtf? Friend says: (8:24:37 PM)we joked round like tht before. Friend says: (8:24:43 PM)nd u knew iwas joking Friend says: (8:24:47 PM)cuz think bout it Friend says: (8:24:57 PM)why wuld iactully meen it Friend says: (8:24:59 PM)ihave no reason Me says: (8:25:05 PM)o Me says: (8:25:33 PM) wow ldude i talked about i told u not to mess with my feelings


Now he's mad at me and don't ever wanna talk to me it doesn't make sense. Im so confused and mad like wtf did i do y wouldn't i take what he said to me to the heart i love him. Like seriously how would i know he was joking. We always get along were like the same,but what am i to him just some one on the side like if anything happens he knows im there for him i feel like he's taking advantage of me... Now i feel bad like ik i shouldn't but i do like am i wrong did i do something? He blocked me on aim and msn before he said "k have a nice life. dont ever tlak to me again. ight nd fo real" Should i just let it go? And just forget him let the friendship die. Idk what to do? plz help me understand

[DecemberRain]

If I were you ide let him go. Because it sounds like he likes playing with your emotions. Nobody should be treated that way and you deserve better.

[RaeNose]

Yeah.
I'm sorry that he hurt you like that, but you probably do need to spend some time away from him.
You cared for him a lot. Maybe you need to just walk away.

[sam i am]

I guess ur right but yesterday he un blocked me from msn,but didn't even bother to IM him and he did the same to me

[RaeNose]

I'm sorry, hun.
Sometimes, people are just like that. Just know that life keeps going on, even if the people in your life don't.
You'll be ok. We're all here for you. :)

[Grey fox]

If he said "we don't have to be friends any more" maybe he meant it as in a sense of moving on to something else, and you misinterpreted?

[The Harlequin]

If he said "we don't have to be friends any more" maybe he meant it as in a sense of moving on to something else, and you misinterpreted?

To me this sounds like wishful thinking, a dangerous spiral to fall into... I think you should just try to not think about it ~ he sounds as though he's a bit too screwy to bother with, at least for the moment, I don't think you've done the wrong thing, you just stated how you feel and there's nothing wrong with that,

If he's worth bothering with he'll realise how he's been behaving and apologise for it, if he doesn't just let it go, all hanging on will do is tear you up, you can't let it get to you

[sam i am]

Well now im even more confuse today he emailed me saying "hey ik we aren't taking no more just wanted to see if every things ok . You don't have to reply." Is this his way of saying sorry should i reply or just ignore him. Maybe he didn't mean it. Maybe he realize what he did wrong. Should i just give him another try see what happens next or just walk away from him forever?

[RaeNose]

Red flags. Going up. All over the place.
Some people only end up hurting you, even if they don't mean to.
If he knows you're not talking, then he should be NOT TALKING to you.
You know he'll only hurt you again. Just walk away.

[Jagador]

Leave him. Don't be his friend anymore. A real friend would understand your feelings, but they wouldn't hurt you. A friend if there in a time of desperate need, and he is not willing to give you that support. From what i am reading, he wants to end the relationship. And him joking like that, i doubt he is joking. He is only messing with your head. Relinquish your friendly bonds of each other and find new friends

[The Harlequin]

Some people just like to inflict pain on others, get out of the friendship...
Get out now! Before you get sucked into his mind games...

[sam i am]

Yea but i dont think he wants to hurt me were to alike hes not like that..at least i think he isn't

[RaeNose]

he may not have those intentions, but he can still hurt you without realizing it.

[The Harlequin]

he may not have those intentions, but he can still hurt you without realizing it.

Exactly, therefore it'd be better for you in the long term if you severed your connection as friends, I know it sounds harsh, and I hate it when these moments come but sometimes to survive you have to be a bit selfish ~ and realise that a lost cause is a lost cause...

Most of the time I'd say stick at it, but I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel here sam, he could play-up at any moment and you don't need that...

Hope this helps (:^,