Can my mom really do this?

[Agent]

So, we have two record players in our house, other one is a player I bought from the nearby garage sale and other one is my mom´s old player which has a broken needle, so it wont play music. They both work, but my moms player has a broken needle. He is ordering a new needle, but it´s taking long to come and I think it´s never going to come. So, today my mom said that if the needle doesnt come til´ next week, my record player´s needle will be swapped to her player!

Can she really do that? I bought the record player with my own money, so doesn´t it mean it´s mine? I think I have the right to choose will the needle be swapped, but I just cant say no because then she will get super pissed off at me. What the heck do I do?

PS. Sorry, if I have bad english.

[Θάνατος]

Well the needle does belong to you so she should respect your wishes and leave your needle alone. It should be your choice but it sounds like to me the choice has already been made. You should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.

[venom832]

Same thing happend with my mom. I had bought a web cam with my own money and she took it back and kept the gift card. Parents dont understand that if we buy certain things we should be able to do what we want or use it. I know its kind of selfish but they do the same with there items

[AllThatIsLeft]

hmm well that's childish of her. =\

and cant she order one again O.o

[Lady_Chaos]

I would be pretty mad if my mom did that but you do live in her house, and you do eat her food, and you do pretty much owe her for a lot, I know that sounds like bullshit because its her job to take care of you and all, but you can't be in control of everything, especially if you aren't living by yourself.

[Krafty]

If the needle doesnt arrive, just hide the record player.

[JackOfClubs]

If you payed for it then no she can't. She is probably going to say something along the lines of "I'm your mother, I give you food and a house to live in."

She has no right to take it from you is what I am trying to say.

[Agent]

hmm well that's childish of her. =\

and cant she order one again O.o
What do you mean by ordering one again?

[mrmcdonaldduck]

why dont you just share?

but it is entirely your desicion as to wether she gets it or not.

[Joshm5816]

Here's the 3 options that you can try:

1. It's your player that you bought with your hard earned money. (possibly hard earned) Simply say, "Mom, it's my player and I'm not comfortable with you taking the needle from it."

2. If you do not like that idea, I have another, simply hide the needle and say it is lost and when her new needle comes, you will "find" it somewhere. Then she will no longer have the need to take your needle.

3. Or perhaps she is just pulling your leg. My parents joke around with me all the time. Maybe you should just ask her is she was joking.

I gave you 3 options. You can go ahead and try them if you like.

[ErykaInspire.]

I think it's at least reasonable for you to share. Set the record player somewheres where you can both listen to it as you wish. You're family. Such small things shouldn't bother you. I mean, I completely agree that you bought it so you should have a right to it, but seriously.. it's just a needle.

She's not asking you to sign away your life or anything.

Parents sometimes have a hard time accepting that their children have their own views on things, and sometimes try to manipulate them.

Let her borrow it for a while, then ask her if you can use it every now and then until the new needle comes.


(sorry if I seem a little harsh today. I'm having some parent issues that are far worse than this.. so.. I'm sorry. <3 x )

Best of luck, hun.

[Eagle1]

Same thing happend with my mom. I had bought a web cam with my own money and she took it back and kept the gift card. Parents dont understand that if we buy certain things we should be able to do what we want or use it. I know its kind of selfish but they do the same with there items

now thats evil

[Mr. Awesome]

Here's the 3 options that you can try:

1. It's your player that you bought with your hard earned money. (possibly hard earned) Simply say, "Mom, it's my player and I'm not comfortable with you taking the needle from it."

2. If you do not like that idea, I have another, simply hide the needle and say it is lost and when her new needle comes, you will "find" it somewhere. Then she will no longer have the need to take your needle.

3. Or perhaps she is just pulling your leg. My parents joke around with me all the time. Maybe you should just ask her is she was joking.

I gave you 3 options. You can go ahead and try them if you like.

I have a fourth option. instead of taking off the needle how about you move your player into the living room(examle) for the week it will take the needle to arrive

[Jagador]

In general, it was your own money that bought your player, so she has no right to tamper with your property, however the above poster has a point. Move your player to her desired location, and all will be fine. if she tampers with it, remove it period from use until her needle comes

[Ortizitthisone]

What you folks seem to fail to realize here is that, as long as you are under 18 (in the United States, anyway), your parents own you and all of your possessions. Legally speaking. As long as they are your legal guardians and you are living under their roof, everything you have belongs to them, and they have a legal right to take it anytime they please. Regardless of whose money it was bought with.

Your best bet is to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel about it. That may work. But if she chooses to take the needle, that's her right as a parent.

[INFERNO]

I think your mother is allowed to take the needle for two reasons. First, yes it may be your hard-earned money but think about it, what have your parents provided you with? Food, water, shelter, clothing, education, etc... all on a daily (or so) basis, and all they ask in return is for your kindness and love. Something such as one silly needle you could easily share with her. It may make you feel uncomfortable but it's more than fair if she takes it.

Second, your mother isn't intending on keeping it forever, she's going to give it back to you once her needle comes. The least you could do is share it.

As for hiding the needle, well, both you and your mother lose so that's not an entirely great option.

As for telling her that it's yours and you bought it, it seems rather childish and greedy on your part. Someone who has provided you with pretty much everything you have and you have provided them with very little in material items is asking if they can borrow (not keep) one silly little thing until theirs arrives. If your mother gets angry at you for not sharing it even for a bit, then I'd say she has good reason to be.

[Jagador]

What you folks seem to fail to realize here is that, as long as you are under 18 (in the United States, anyway), your parents own you and all of your possessions. Legally speaking. As long as they are your legal guardians and you are living under their roof, everything you have belongs to them, and they have a legal right to take it anytime they please. Regardless of whose money it was bought with.

Your best bet is to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel about it. That may work. But if she chooses to take the needle, that's her right as a parent.

Actually, there are some things that neither you nor your parents can touch. One example is a savings account ment for you and only you for when you turn 18yrs old. Also, if you were to go into acting or something, your earnings can't be touched at all until you are 18 yrs old. so your parents can't own everything and anything about you and your belongings.=T

[Bluearmy]

Your mother has done plenty for you. The least you could do is give her your needle.

[DarkWingedAngel]

why not use your player instead of hers untill the other needle comes

[jamie.go]

i think you should talk to her and tell her that you dont want to swap your player..

let her understand that you work hard to buy that music player..

i know every mum will understand..just explain it to her in a nice way..:yeah:

[anime Freak]

please we have no rights they own us