Falling in love with bestfriend

[Dominoes]

I am a 15 year old male and I have fallen in love with my best friend, a 16 year old female. We have told each other some of our deepest secrets, including the fact that I like her and want more than just friendship(now that I think about it, I wish I hadn't shared this one). She went to me for advice when she was left by her boyfriend. He moved on to another girl and my best friend became depressed. I was there for her and helped her get over the fact that he doesn't love her anymore. I want to be with this girl more than anyone else. I think about her all the time. I love seeing her smile and making her laugh. We text almost all day and night to stay in touch with each other. We have discussed this two times. She doesn't feel the same way about me. She says she loves me like a brother and that she still needs me to get by her old relationship with her ex. The past three days I haven't texted her nearly as often(or not at all). I feel like I need to separate from her for a while before I can get better. I still think about her almost all day. I miss her terribly and wish I could see her face just one more time. I understand that she doesn't love me back and I don't expect her to. My love for her conquers all. I deleted her contact so that on the saddest of days I don't contact her. Is separating myself from her the right way to go? Is there any other advice you may have for me to get over this?

[Silverfist64]

Seperating from her isnt going to help you. Trust me...i feel the same way towards a girl but she doesnt like me either. She understands that you like her but she cant change how she feels. Even knowing that, she doesnt seem to act akward towards you. You will be through alot more pain without her than if you just stayed friends. Shes important to you and your important to her just not in the same way. Things will be alot more easier for the both of you if you just stay friends. Talk to each other and maybe hang out now and again. Sometimes you just have to make do with what you got. Best of luck to you dude.

[TheTruth]

I can definately give you some well i hope, some good advice because i went through the exact thing about 2 weeks ago, minus the her and her boyfriend splitting up. So anyway i confessed my feelings for her and then she actually told me she loves me too which was good to hear but she said she wouldn't go out with me because im such a good best friend, apparently :) So anyway i few days went past and i felt the same as you, I felt a bit uncomfortable knowing i just told her everything but at one point we HAD to see each other for something but after i started talking to her again i feel fine with her. So it may apply to you it may not but i found that just being with her in person was a great way to feel a lot more comfortable with her.

[mrmcdonaldduck]

see if you can bring it back to just best friend.
you loving her isnt going to be good long term or short term.

[Gumleaf]

ok, trying to stay away from her is not going to help you and is not going to help her. unfortunately in life sometimes people just don't feel the same way you do and you just have to accept that. if she says she loves you like a brother, it means that it is highly unlikely that she will ever feel the same way you do. but i want to tell you a couple of things though. sometimes the best relationships with certain people are by just staying friends. becoming a couple can add complications that didn't exist before and changes the whole dynamics of the relationship you previously had. also, i think you should maybe try and help yourself to move on from her in the romantic sense by spending time with other girls who you could like in the same way. that could really help you. but mate, i really think you should start spending time with her again, because she probably needs you right now.

[Contra]

If you get away from her, not only you will lose a chance of love (because she may reconsider), but you will lose a friend, a good friend as I can see.
Trust me, I know what it feels like to pass from best friend of a girl, to just a friend. :(

[Grey fox]

ok, trying to stay away from her is not going to help you and is not going to help her. unfortunately in life sometimes people just don't feel the same way you do and you just have to accept that. if she says she loves you like a brother, it means that it is highly unlikely that she will ever feel the same way you do. but i want to tell you a couple of things though. sometimes the best relationships with certain people are by just staying friends. becoming a couple can add complications that didn't exist before and changes the whole dynamics of the relationship you previously had. also, i think you should maybe try and help yourself to move on from her in the romantic sense by spending time with other girls who you could like in the same way. that could really help you. but mate, i really think you should start spending time with her again, because she probably needs you right now.

I'm going to have to repeat a bit of advice my mum gave me when I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy and younger then me (by 10 months).

She said, "When you're just friends with someone, it is an inclusive relationship. When you start going out it suddenly becomes very exclusive and it's very easy to lose touch with other friends."

Despite this, we tried going out but it didn't work out, maybe due to exam stress and also due to the fact that we saw each other all day every day at school, and sometimes you need to take a break from someone to let you both have your own personal space.

If she says she loves you as a brother it may mean she sees you as young and immature and not on the same level with her, which is something only time can change, after all, girls mature at a much faster rate then boys!

As for me and my friend, we managed to stay really close, despite spending 2 weeks not talking to each other, and are going out again now he has left school and i've got one year left before university.

THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT I CAN POSSIBLY STRESS (hence CAPS lock) is:
:- How highly do you value the friendship you have with her?
and...
:- Is it really worth losing her as a friend?

There are 2 scenarios, 1, you go out, find out it doesn't work and damage you're friendship beyond repair, or 2, you stay as close friends for the time being and see what fate/time has in store.

Also, if she's just split up with her EX, she's going to be re-bounding from him, and re-bound relationships never ever work out and are almost always a mistake, so wait for her to calm down and to sort out what she thinks.

But to do that she needs time, space and above all a lovely caring and supportive friend like you :)

[Dominoes]

Thanks guys. I have given this a lot of thought and I think I will do my best to stay in touch with her. We have a great time hanging out with each other. I don't think that she sees me as immature, as she always asks me for advice. I realize that she is still recovering from her ex and that going out with her now probably isn't he greatest idea. I don't want to be the rebound guy. I will give it time and I will wait and see what happens.
:)

[firesoul73]

I can definately give you some well i hope, some good advice because i went through the exact thing about 2 weeks ago, minus the her and her boyfriend splitting up. So anyway i confessed my feelings for her and then she actually told me she loves me too which was good to hear but she said she wouldn't go out with me because im such a good best friend, apparently :) So anyway i few days went past and i felt the same as you, I felt a bit uncomfortable knowing i just told her everything but at one point we HAD to see each other for something but after i started talking to her again i feel fine with her. So it may apply to you it may not but i found that just being with her in person was a great way to feel a lot more comfortable with her.

im sorta like this a friewnd and i were txting and she told me she likes me and i told her i liked her but im too shy to ask her out and i told her this ive seen her keep looking at me during spanish class and its sorta weird and i really want to give my heart out to her but im too scared and im slowly feeling like im just going to bust and ask her out out of the blue