Help a friend

[aquaman246]

I have a friend who is 12 and going out with a girl who is a young 13y/o. I think he is fairly well developed and he wants to have sex with his gf. I told him that if he feels its right then its ok, but he should know the risks before taking anything too hasty. I told him about the stds, legal implications and relationship problems. Did i tell him the right stuff and do you think its ok for him to do it?:what:

[Joshm5816]

At 12, sex is illeagal, and a lot of times it can lead to major problems when he's older. In my eyes he is not ready for it. Probably just his hormones speaking. If he does do it, then tell him this. You missed one important thing, "USE A CONDOM!" I suggest no sex at his age.

[JackOfClubs]

If they are both comfortable with it, and they know the consequences of unsafe sex, then I see no problem. Yes it is illegal for people under 18 (14, 16, and 21 in some countries) but they can't arrest everyone who has sex under the age of 18.

[Joshm5816]

If they are both comfortable with it, and they know the consequences of unsafe sex, then I see no problem. Yes it is illegal for people under 18 (14, 16, and 21 in some countries) but they can't arrest everyone who has sex under the age of 18.

They can arrest them if one does not want to have sex. Then it's rape. If you live in America, then it is illegal. And they can arrest everyone, except the police don't know about everyone.

[iamm12345n]

Just stress the point of rape condoms and babbys and condoms agein and mabby get him a copple to make shure ur not responsable for if a babby comes other than that if thay both want it and thay both think thare reddy just let them but remeber tel him about CONDOMS!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bowlheadhere]

You did the right thing. You informed him of the medical issues, legality, and problems he may encounter down the road. I feel that you have done right considering the situation. The only thing that I would say is that you should really try to do everything in your power (talking) to stop it, but if he isnt going to take your advice, then so be it. The only thing that I question and feel as though maybe it wasnt the right choice is to tell him that "it is okay if you think you are ready for it".

In some tribes, when males turn the age of 13, they are considered "men" and begin to have children. This is because they understand that at age 13, they are able to produce and have children. One must understand that this is because the average life span of such tribes and societies is fairly low, and therefore they must do so in order to continue their way of life and keep their society alive. The reason I add this information is because your friend is 12 and really pushing the age through which he is physically able to have sex. One must also remember that in such societies, their mindset and traditions allow them to preform such actions.

I also feel that sex is a symbol of love and devotion between two people. No matter what anyone says, in today's modern society, no one in their teens is mentally prepared to have sex. Yes, I know I am going to get crap for saying this, but that is because it is the truth and no one is willing/wanting to hear the truth. During the heart of puberty (teens) we fall in love with the idea of love. We are not able to distinguish true love from the idea of love, and therefore we are not mentally prepared to have sex. There are too many hormones and changes that we are going through to be able to adequately determine love from the idea of love. Sex is so much more than simply having sex. Sex is spiritual (in a sense) and shows your love to one another. Going back to my last sentance of the first paragraph, what I have explained above may encourage or make him think that he is ready to have sex, when in reality he is far from it.

The only thing I would do is to do everything that I could to stop him. I have had people come to me saying how much they regret it and how they will be mentally scared for the rest of their lives. Take it from someone who has gone through this with other people when I say that you need to keep him from making a big mistake. (Now I just want to add, that there are some people out there who it is not a mistake for, but that is about 0.1%-1% of teens who have sex. I say this because I know people will get pissed at me if I do not mention it. So yea...)

Hope this helps.

[Qwerty4]

ya, at 12 sex is waaay too young, it is just the hormones acting and stuff, he should wait until he is older!

[YourFriend]

No, you should have told him not to have sex yet. C'mon, he's 12 and and she's 13, that's too young.

[iceyfresh]

Yea if there both ready tell him to go fore it

[LUCKY555]

^^^ they are not ready at the age of 12 and 13 ^^^