How could you..

[BoyCrazy]

Um, yeah, I have this boyfriend and hes relle sweet and nice and hes fast ya know he asked me to do it 3 times, i turned him down, but when he kisses me he gets really agressive like not abusive but he wanto go further than a kiss. How can I say i dont wanna without hurting him or the mood. should i just have protected sex with him? :? :? :shock: :shock: :?

[krzwis]

say no...simply put....what ever he says...say no

say no until say.......you get married or engaged....or make a wierd time limit like 4 years or so



belive me...sex is not cool. and i know other guys might look at my and say "is he gay?" for belive that...but its true....sex is not cool, it destroys a relationship, makes it more about physical pleasure and sex rather than actual emotion and love


say no to him, say not till wedding night
and if he says "well....i'm not gonna get married" or "but thats too long" tell him 'Tough luck, your gonna have to wait and i'm never changing my mind'

be in control dude, don't let him push you over your limit....you'll regret it if you do

[dieharddingos]

don't do anything ur not comfortable with, trust me you will regret it later on. if you don't want to do it with him just tell him ur not ready to go that far and u just want to take it slow. if he's a good guy he should understand and he wont preasure you.

[ScotsGirl]

...should i just have protected sex with him? :? :? :shock: :shock: :?

The fact that you are even asking that question shows that you are definately not ready for sex, or any of the risks and consequences that comes with it.

I completely agree with BoyCrazy and krzwis when they say, just tell him NO.
Sex isnt about giving in to someone's persistant pleas, just to please them. It is for both of you, and you should only do it when you are completely ready.

Maybe you should try having a conversation with him about it. I dont mean when you are in the middle of making out or anything. Just when the two of you are alone together, tell him how you feel, if youre not ready. It might be a good idea to tell him that you will let him know when you are ready, so he doesnt keep asking/hassling you about it.
Besides, there are a lot of things you can do together that doesnt involve sex. ;)

I hope you manage to sort everything out! :D

:D
xxx

[Pink-Floyd]

Hey lady, Dont listen to these people, No offence anyone, But these guys r just saying this they could have done it or do it in the future, u gotto learn responsibilty and how to take care of yourself, make your own decisions, u cant rely on VT for all your questions like these, do what u want to do

[*-tick tock-*]

i agree with everybody else tell him NO and the fact hes trying to push u ... shows a lack of respect b/c hes not respecting ur answer when u said no!! omg i hate guys like that... but anyways

dont do it sweetie u wont be ready.. this kid is just a horny boy... if he keeps it up i dont think u should consider being with him...or at elast..back off of him

sex... brings alot of emotions

honestly.. since i had my first time... i dont regret that...
but, i wish i coulda waited kinda...i already know wat to expect now......... even tho im with the same guy

now its just a reglar bases thing.. and im tired of it.. it aint all that its cracked up to be
just wait sweetie..wait for the right guy that ur 100% comfortable and IN LOVE with. plus wait a while

[wadeexpo]

dont bang him...

really... i dont care if you are religious or not but if you tell him you want to wait till your married then once you DO get married the feelingwill be awesome... sex isnt about physical want... its about a deeper sense of love.. and if thats not what he wants then you need to make sure you can get to a point where both of you are ready and have the right reasons