Gots a question about my buddy

[waterski]

So one of my best buds that I've known since like the 2nd grade asked me today, since it's my birthday, if I wanted to like have sex with him basically as a birthday present..I was like umm well I don't know...I'll think about it. I kinda want to, but will it give me like diseases or like cause any medical or physical problems??? I'm bi by the way and he knows that so...I was just wondering. And also what do you think I should do? Do it?? I don't know what to do! :(
And I'm not going out with him just to let you know.

[IfPigsCouldFly]

Go for it, cant hurt.

Anal sex doesnt give you diseases, or anything, but its a good idea to wear a condom, and no, it wont make you have medical or physical problems. Just make sure you lube up alot first.

[Mr. Awesome]

You can get an STD if your friend has one. You can tear your anus through the friction. It may have an impact on your friendship.

If you trust your friend and really want to do it, then go for it. I would advise that you both use condoms and use a lot of lube.

Good Luck with your decision

Oh and by the way Happy Birthday

[The Harlequin]

Yeahhh, go on...
If you want to, he wants to, you're openly bi ~ why not? The only thing I will say is if you are worried about diseases then wear condoms, if you're both virgins though then you have no reason to worry (:^,

Hope this helps ya!

[waterski]

Thanks. Lol. Hmmm...why not then?? Hehehe. :)

[nick]

Go for it, cant hurt.

Anal sex doesnt give you diseases, or anything, but its a good idea to wear a condom, and no, it wont make you have medical or physical problems. Just make sure you lube up alot first.
My oh my, what an inaccurate answer. I'm bi too and am certainly not anti anal sex, so don't get the wrong idea there, but...

Go for it, cant hurt.

Well of course that depends what you mean by hurt. Physically you might find it uncomfortable and even painful if you receive anal sex and you're not prepared for it or your friend is not gentle enough. Obviously if you're the top then your friend may find it painful in the same way.

If it doesnt go well for some reason it could destroy your friendship.

Anal sex doesnt give you diseases, or anything

Well apart from STI's up to and including AIDS of course.

So just take time to think it through, then if you decide it is something you want to try then fair enough. But where IfPigsCouldFly is right is to say that plenty of lube, and purpose designed lube too, not moisturiser or anything like that, is essential, and unless you're sure that you're both virgins you should regard the condom as essential too.

[Joshm5816]

If you are to do it then one important rule: USE A CONDOM! I'M DEAD SERIOUS! That's one rule I always tell my friends.

Plus 14 is kind of young to say you're bi. Hormones can make you feel like this, If you have CONDOMS (hint hint), and you can handle this then do it. Most times friendships become akward.

REMEMBER: USE A CONDOM IF YOU DO END UP DOING IT! I CAN NOT STRESS THAT ENOUGH! USE A CONDOM!

Oh and for IfPigsCouldFly, did you pay attention in Health Class? As JustNick said, that information is EXTREMELY wrong.

[Silent]

Well if you really want to go for it. Dont forget lube tho cause if you dont u can tear your junk up : | so ya. Condom Condom Condom wear one just in case. You can still get a disease from your partner if he has one. Anal sex is just like normal sex "in the way of spreading"

So condom,lube,and you both want to do it---if you have all that then go for it.

[waterski]

Hmm...So obviously definitely use a condom and lube. Lol. Anything else that is essential or is just a good idea to do???

[mexa]

essential...well a place where you are alone for like 1-2hrs, i suppose first time anal sex can take some time...also a place with a bed or sumfin since sitting on the floor might not be much fun =/

hope i helped.

P.S. CONDOM!

[ACQD139F83J]

make sure you want to, and use a condom...

[bowlheadhere]

Go for it, cant hurt.

Anal sex doesnt give you diseases, or anything, but its a good idea to wear a condom, and no, it wont make you have medical or physical problems. Just make sure you lube up alot first.

Wow, are you wrong!!!

"Go for it, cant hurt."

Well, first of all, it can hurt. It can hurt in two main ways. The first is physical because as most people on here know and/or have read, it is painful to have sex (anal) the first time around. Secondly and MOST IMPORTANTLY! you can be hurt mentally. I think sex is something that should be between two people who care and love for eachother, and therefore if you have feelings (other than a friendship) for him, but he doesn't for you, your feelings could be greatly hurt because he was hinting you on that he may have them for you. Also, sex at a young age combined with a weak mind can result in many different mental problems such as stress and depression. After your "first time" your friend could see you to be a simple sex buddy (or "friend with benefits") through which he make take advantage of you in the future, which can lead to stress and depression. It may also harm your long and trusted friendship.

"Anal sex doesnt give you diseases, or anything, but its a good idea to wear a condom, and no, it wont make you have medical or physical problems. Just make sure you lube up alot first."

Well, considering that STDs and HIV are diseases, yes you can get diseases from any type of sex whether it be anal, oral, or vaginal. You can also definitely develop both medical and physical complications from sex. Medical problems include STDs and HIV (which turns into AIDS). Physical problems would be from some STDs such as herpes (there may be other ways to develop physical complications/problems though).

The only correct thing in this post was to use a condom. This will prevent you from getting both HIV and most STDs (well, a high probability that you will not). So if you do chose to go through with it, you DEFINITELY need to use a condom.

If you or he knows that you have an STD or HIV (which you should be telling eachother by law), I really really really do not recommend having sex. You don't want to get an STD early if you are going to get one at all (living the rest of your life with a STD is really hard/a HUGE pain in the butt). I would say that if you are going to go through with it, that you definitely need to use a condom.

I also have a question. Do you have any feelings toward him other than a friendship? Honestly I do not think that "sex" as a birthday present is appropriate. I mean, do you want to have the chance of getting an STD or HIV for your birthday? That would just ruin mine. I feel that sex is a sybol of love and devotion between two people, so even though you may or may not have feelings toward him, it is still hard to know who we love during puberty. I strongly recommend that you do not do so, because you have so much time in your life and probably a lot of opportuniteis, but right now is neither appropriate or right.

Those are just my thoughts on it, so you can either take it or leave it, but I STRONGLY suggest that you read through and understand what I have written before you make any decisions. Remember, you do not want to make a mistake that you will have to live with for the rest of your life.

[colt]

well, its a personal choice (old but true). if you want, then go ahead. just take precautions. and if not, then just tell him.

[Fourth Dimension]

well just make sure ur ok with it and are ready to have sex and i take it hes gay or bi who knows u could end up dating lol but just be careful USE A CONDOM and be careful not to ruin ur friendship

[Wonder.]

If your just going to worry about it, I wouldn't. It's not going to be any fun if you spend the whole time worrying.

Sex should be between two people who love each other. Remember that.

If you are embarassed buying condoms (If you have to buy them) then are you really ready?

Also look at the safe sex topic in I think relationships and dating.

[iceyfresh]

If you want to go fore it but you should to where a condom to protect from std's

[Shoedue]

you've heard this alot, but it is very important to use a condom. Absorbing semen is very easy if you have anal sex. The Small and Large intestines are designed to be very absorbant. The small intestine (the 1st stage of absorbtion in the Digestive system of your body) has little folds in it called "villi" (singular villus) that increase the absorbtion rate of nutrients, and, regretabley, STIs as well. Before you go through with this bud, i suggest ensuring that he has no STIs and encourage an HIV/AIDS test.
hope this helps...and hope you have lots of fun ;)

[david_1990]

yea use a condom defs and lub and see if u liek it or not .... its not for everyone though

[Eagle1]

I say go for it just wear a condom.

[waterski]

Wow....bowlheadhere had ALOT to say and I think he hit some major points.....
I ended up not going through with it because he said he(not bowlheadhere lol) could possibly have an STD for some reason....I wasn't listening. Lol. All I heard was, "I might have an STD" Then he lost me. Hahaha.
So thank you for all the posts! :) It REALLY REALLY helped on my decision and I am glad that I didn't go through with it. :]

[JackOfClubs]

I would not go for it. Anal sex is not just experimenting, it is way more than that. I wouldn't go for it. It can give you an STD, if he has one. So, no, don't go for it.