Help Me Plzzz

[AlwaysConfused]

I really really dont know if i am gay or bi. I am attracted to guys like alot 24/7 and its hard to get my mind off of them. But i do like girls i hang around a lot of them but i do that to get to know them better. I like this one girl who has a boyfrend and i know the guy we are friends but we dnt talk that much. My guy friend that im attracted to (Like i go into detail in "Attracted to my guy friend and im a guy") is like turnin me on and i already confronted him and he says he only plays around with me. I hav another friend that i masturbated only once or twice with but we didnt go further like touching or anal or b/js. The last time he came to sleep over i wanted to do it but i held bak and he asked me and i said idk and he was like tell me wen u want to. Im only 14 obviously and these hormones are drivin me nuts because i really dont know if i am gay bi or str8 and its very stressful. I really need some advice. I know i cant be bi or gay because my parents would not allow it and i would be an outcast sorta like wat i am now. So plezz, plezz Help.:eek:

[Cinderandsmoke]

I would say don't make labels don't label yourself when you don't even know what you are.

[chelsay13]

Yeah, I agree.
Labels suck.
I think, to figure out if you're bi, kiss a guy and a girl. Figure out who you're more attacked too. Or if you're attacked to both, you could be bi. If you find kissing one utterly disgusting, chances are you may not be into that sex. Try more than one of each gender. It takes time.

[diamond jetstream]

it might be that youre sexually attracted to guys because you can relate to them in ways of you being a boy whereas you might be attracted to the personality side of girls. whatever it is it comes down to what your own choice is.its your life and you have to live it.plus i find that my parents accept me for who i am and its the same for other parents and if you do what they want you to do then you may be unhappy or even depressed. make your own choices and never forget that your parents will love you for whoever you choose to be.i hope this has been helpful

[The Harlequin]

I have a slightly different spin on this, I agree that not labling yourself at such a critical stage is very wise, but you really shouldn't just go around kissing guys and girls ~ the only way you can really begin to tell is the level of attraction you feel towards one or many people of either gender, if you fall in love with dudes yet just think girls are pretty then there's your answer,

Oh and if you're already an outcast, then things can't really get any worse, so if you do find you're gay or bisexual so what? You might as well be honest and free, instead of feeling like a caged bird when the door's wide open.

Good luck!
(:^,

[jdwjeremy]

Don't worry, I'm 18 and still haven't figured it out. I'm 99 percent sure I'm gay because I am simply attracted to the male anatomy and figure more than I am a female. It sucks growing up like this, but honestly don't label yourself. Don't worry what anyone thinks. Just be yourself and enjoy what you like.

[bowlheadhere]

Don't worry about it! You are only 14, and there is no need to determine your sexuality. I actually feel that there really is never a need to make up your mind and say that you are straight, bi or gay. I mean, no one is 100% straight, 100% bi, or 100% gay. It is like politics, no one is 100% republican or 100% democrat. The way I think of it is that I am open to anything. I just want to live to find love with someone, so it doesnt matter if they are a guy or girl to me. I just want to find that one person who I can talk to about anything, do anything with, and that I just have a fun time with them when I am with them.

Why does sexuality matter? I think the reason why you feel as though you need to determine your sexuality is because of past society. Society constantly tells us that we need to do this and that, and that we need to know things 100% because we dont want to make bad decisions. I mean, even on websites/polls that ask for your information, they ask "what political party are you?" "what is your sexuality?" "what race are you?" Society tells us that we have to pick a certain category. I think you feel (conciously or unconciously) as though you need to be straight/gay/bi.

Maybe that is just me, but those are my thoughts. Hope I helped...?