Emotionally attracted?

[Huskyboy132]

personally I think myself as gay... but sometimes i feel that i would emotionally rather be with a girl... Does anyone have this kind of situation?? ... Hmm..

[JackOfClubs]

Well, sounds like your still unsure. At the moment you could be bi, because you are emotionally attracted to girls.

[nick]

Nils,

there are all sorts of things that could be going on here. Do you like the idea of having children for example. Do you see yourself in a long term relationship with another guy, setting up a home together? Could you see yourself doing that with a girl. If you did settle down and build a home with a girl would it feel real, and what you really wanted, or would it be fake, to achieve some other end like family, or respectability?

What about sex. Lets not shy away from it. Are you sexually attracted to girls. Can you get turned on by them, can you imagine yourself having str8 sex, giving head to a girl? You think you're gay, can you imagine (or have you already) done those things with another guy?

Its complex. I know, I have to ask all these questions of myself. I think I know my answers. I hope you will find yours.

Best wishes

Nick

[itsandrew_]

You could be bi but you still have time to make up your mind.

[drpepper21]

ugh. im gay, yet i have a hard time thinking of settling down with a guy in an adult relationship. it would be very strange for my family.

[bowlheadhere]

ugh. im gay, yet i have a hard time thinking of settling down with a guy in an adult relationship. it would be very strange for my family.

You shouldn't worry about what your family thinks, but what you think/know. Yes, family is very important, but why live a miserable life because you are worried about what your family might think and that it might be awkward/weird for your family. You will see them less and less as you get older (well, most of us do) and therefore your thoughts/opinions/personality and who you find love with is ultimately up to you. Don't worry about who you love because your family loves you and no matter what you decide to do, they will always be there for you.

Anyways, going back to the topic of the thread... I think that you are the average confused teenager. There are so many things that are rushing through our body and mind that it is really hard for us to make definative decisions such as the one you are trying to make. I think that instead of worrying about what you are, you should be living your life to the fullest while being open to the idea of all types of love.

Those are just my thoughts, so I hope they help...

[ACQD139F83J]

I'm in the same situation - I'm as close as I've ever been to 'in love' with a girl in my class, but am only sexually attracted to guys...