I'm gonna end up dead from her...

[2D]

So I've known this girl for about 9 months now. We've been going out on and off for about 7 of those. (I put this in F&F because she's just my friend right now) She's constantly under a shitload of pressure. She's 15, is a Junior, takes college classes at the same time as HS, is in CAP (civil Air Patrol), her parents beat her, she's been raped once, almost twice recently, won't tell anyone, and she went into shock when I was txting her today. Her friend is helping her but I almost passed out when I heard. She loves me but I don't know if I feel the same way. I almost cut just a second ago to calm myself down. Didn't though. Now onto my question now that you know roughly what's going on. How do I help her? If I try and help her she gets really attached to me and is all OMG I LOVE YOU. But I don't want that. I can't tell her parents about the rape cuz her dad would most likely (and I'm not joking at all) kill the kid. Is there any way I can just ease the pain from her? Take some pressure off her shoulders?

EDIT: Her friend won't tell me her temp. Or take her to the ER. I'm gonna die if she gets hurt...

[Zephyr]

Set clear boundaries as to what your guy's relationship is at the moment,
That you just want to be friends for now, but that you want to help her.
If she's being beat, then encourage her to talk to a school counselor,
As they can help a lot with that type of stuff,
And even contact the authorities for her if she wishes.
If she won't go to a school counselor, encourage her to go to the police.
Either way, you can always go in with her for support.
Remind her that she deserves to be happy,
And shouldn't have to carry all of that around,
As rape and abuse are wrong.
She sounds like she's got a lot going for her,
And doesn't need to feel the way that she does.

[Eagle1]

this is my opinion id tell her parents about her getting raped or if you know who he is the police this should not go unanswered he deserved to be put in prison he might be doing this to other people you might make her upset but you have to look at the big picture not to make her sound insignificant. and DEFINITELY tell the police about the abuse it is your obligation if you want to protect her at all. THIS IS MY ADVICE I hope you take it.

[2D]

Set clear boundaries as to what your guy's relationship is at the moment,
That you just want to be friends for now, but that you want to help her.
If she's being beat, then encourage her to talk to a school counselor,
As they can help a lot with that type of stuff,
And even contact the authorities for her if she wishes.
If she won't go to a school counselor, encourage her to go to the police.
Either way, you can always go in with her for support.
Remind her that she deserves to be happy,
And shouldn't have to carry all of that around,
As rape and abuse are wrong.
She sounds like she's got a lot going for her,
And doesn't need to feel the way that she does.

Then dun have a counselor at the school and her dad works there so that would make it even more difficult even IF the had one.
She says she won't go to the police because if she told them about the beating then she would most likely get put in the care of her aunt or grandmother. And they're even worse. Her uncle is awesome but I don't think she would have a choice in the matter.
And I always say she needs to live for herself instead of others.
But she won't listen.

this is my opinion id tell her parents about her getting raped or if you know who he is the police this should not go unanswered he deserved to be put in prison he might be doing this to other people you might make her upset but you have to look at the big picture not to make her sound insignificant. and DEFINITELY tell the police about the abuse it is your obligation if you want to protect her at all. THIS IS MY ADVICE I hope you take it.

Her did is in the military and is crazy. She said he would prolly go hunt down both of them and kill them. And I could see that.
So say I tell the police and then she gets put in worse care? Or a foster home?

Ugh I just dun know what to do. I think she's moving out in a year and 8 months. Maybe just 8 months. depends on if she moves out when she's 16 or 17. It's funny though, I've gotten so desperate that I got enough money to make it to Cali. And I said just run away with me. Haha how epic would that have been? But stupid.

I guess I've helped her some. Because before she met me she was going to raves and parties like every night. Now she isn't.

I dunno what I was asking for. I don't think I can do much to help her. Thanks anyway guys. =]

[boy.on.laptop]

Seriously I know this sounds self-centred but don't put the whole burdern on you. You need your own strength and mental health if you are ever to help her. Ephipany is right make your boundaries clear but at the same time make sure she doesn't feel isolated. Its a tricky balance but with a bit of care you can get it right.

[2D]

I basically cut myself off from her now. She just overreacts about everything. For example yesterday I was at a sporrts place getting a punching bag and gloves. And then I was about to drive home when I got a txt from her. SO I responded with "driving home I'll txt you in a bit =]". And like a minute later I get a txt from her, I just told her I can't txt whey would she txt me back? Then I get home and check my phone and this is what it said, word for word. "okay I get it :) you dont wanna talk to me :)" Now those smiley faces just pissed me off so fucking bad. So I just said something like just got home, now I really dont wanna talk. bye. So she got even more pissy. She's just seems so immature sometimes.....

[Confused123]

Wow I'm totally sorry you have to go through that but don't put her before you try to ease her and don't snap back at her try to talk to her tell her to calm down and say I'd never want to stop talking to you . Even if its a lie that last thing you should do is make her any more angry. I may not be that much help since I haven't had a friend like this but I know if I have an angry Girl-friend (as in a friendly girl) I try to calm her down