I have this friend.

[Discomposure]

Okay so i used to be really close to this girl we went on holiday together and everything, we always slept at each others house, went out places together just a normal good friendship. Over the past year in school she's really changed. She's so fake around anyone, and she's always trying to get attention and fit in with everyone. She started smoking and then pretended she was into drugs. She makes her home life out to be really bad to everyone but me being so close to her before knows that it isn't, she has arguments with her stepdad but that is truthfully it. I give her sympathy when she has arguments but she lies about allsorts that happens at home, and now she's developed this "anger problem", i'm not saying she doesn't have one but it's not as bad as she says. She always has to have a problem like smoke, drugs anger issues, bad homelife. She always goes on about them. A few months ago she told everyone that she self-harms. She did one minor scratch on her arm, and yes i know any kind of injury to yourself is self-harm, but she says how addictive it is to everyone and that she has scars all over her arms when she honestly has no marks on her arms what so ever, she showed me. She doesn't do it now, she goes through different things, like tomorrow all of a sudden she could have an eating disorder. I know there is a problem with her or she wouldn't do all this for attention. The problem is, i feel really guilty that she is one of my good friends and i can't trust her to tell her i've bin self-harming for about 8months now and im getting medical help, i'm worried she will copy and really get into it, and i would wish that upon nobody. What do you think, should i just keep quiet about it?

[Spunky]

In my opinion I would not say anything to here yet. Obviously she is going threw a stage right now where she craves attention and she is willing to say and do anything to get it. More then likly she would go and say what ur doing to yourself is what she is doing. And ur right their is a chance she could do it to her self but for a temperary affect not for an addiction to it. But like is said I wouldn't tell her bc she's just to unpredictable right now. Btw good luck with your struggle
Hope this helps.

[Discomposure]

Thanks very much :) Your right too, i don't think i will tell her.

[itsandrew_]

I think you should keep it to your self. If you think she is going to copy you for attention then just don't tell her. And like Spunky said, she could be going thru a phase.

[Discomposure]

I think you should keep it to your self. If you think she is going to copy you for attention then just don't tell her. And like Spunky said, she could be going thru a phase.

She does do a lot for attention but it's kinda like she makes it look like she wants attention if you get me, also i hope it's only a phase because she's a good friend really... she's bin like this for 1 year and a bit now:/