Hard to get off my mind

[TrinkTrik]

HI,

I recently met my GF about a year ago and we both have so much in common,
Movies
Music
Games
Lifestyle
We were talking one night and it was almost leading to a point where id need a Love Glove and I stopped and just said BYE and went home,
When she asked why I went home I told her
"It was heading down a road we were gonna end up doing it"
Were still young Im only 15 this year,
The thing is... When is the right time for sex?

When we are 16? (legal UK age)
When it feels right?

When is right?
I was gonna go to my PSE teacher but... He is a Fruit & Nut, He is mad on football, and thinks hes funny.

I need help
WHo can help me were only 14 (15 this year) and its heading the way of Underage Sex, and well... I don't know how she feels about it and I don't know if we should do it.
HELP ME please.

[Aηdy]

I'm not saying you should have sex underage, but so many people do it that's it's a pretty normal and accepted thing to happen. You will know if you are ready or not though, if you have any doubts at all then you're not ready. With sex there are a lot of risks, pregnancy being one of them. Even with protection there is still a change of things happening, and it's not something you want to be dealing with at your age. So it's really up to you whether or not you do it. The key to a relationship is communication though. Talk to her about it, see how she feels and tell her how you feel and come to an agreement.

[TrinkTrik]

Its not that I CANT TALK TO HER its just that, she can be hard to talk to she... tends to be a little Immature, and when I ask her to stop, she says Im having a go at her, and that leads to fights and I don't want that last time she actulay said
QUOTE " Maby its best if we stop going out and never see eachother again"

That scared me because, shes the 2nd girl ive EVER went out with and well... How am I going to explain to my parents the that a girl they never met or knew i was going out with (yes weve kept it a secret that long) broke up with me, and if i dont tell them what am I gonna say when they find me sitting somewhere almost in tears, "Oh i touched an onion"? (wouldent be the 1st time i cryed over an onion but thats a diff story).

I meen, when you and a girl go out for a year, find out all the stuff you got in common (im serious its freaky shes got all the same movies and albums as me and Games + Consoles.) You don't want that to end.

She Is a little less mature I meen right now,
Im doing a 5Grand UNI course with the open UNI
Shes still running around with her mates getting in trouble

Im realy orginised and can take responsibility for my actions,
She still points the finger to the kid next to her.

We might have the lil differances here and there but, I can't imagine life withought her, Shes now Demanding like my EX, she dosen't need to be told that I wouldent change her for any girls in my school... She knows that, My EX was always reading my Texts and wakeing me up at 8AM to go to the cinema... Hell on saturdays if im gonna sleep till 3pm IM GONNA DO IT. My GF lets me be ME, She trusts me, I don't wanna blow this relationship up, Im happy, I never smiled till i met her, Not even my EX made me smile (ya cant get me to smile for a picture). In school I was the Kid that was picked on, the 1 that got in trouble for nothing, the kid who was most likley to SNAP and kill somebody (i actualy stabbed a guy with a HB #2 pencil when i was 10).

I want this relationship to last, I don't want it to end, not after a year, even the relationship with my EX ran for years (From 9 till 12) and In that time we did have some fun, Both had our first PROPER kiss (french ;)), Both tryed alot of things, and we were both MATURE about it, We kept SCHOOL & RELATIONSHIP away from eachother, we would work together and I would say "No, thats stupid" and stuff like that, I didn't agree with her because I felt I had to, and Vise versa.

What Im saying is, Asking her about it might...END things.
She can be a tease and she is quite outgoing, I meen how good an offer is this,
Watch a Movie i seen (found it BALLZ) and BANG
Shell do w/e I want...
But I don't wanna take advantage there.
You can see what Im getting at can't you?

[Darkness]

Wow 15 and had two GF's started at 9 I feel really good about Myself!
If she hasn't asked about sex don't say anything, If she say she wants it then explain its a big step for you and your not ready, oh and say your not scared to commit to her-unless you are. Then if she values your relationship she'll not leave you or even get angry. That's all I can think of.

P.S. I stabbed a guy with a pen I know how you feel old chap!

[TrinkTrik]

Wow 15 and had two GF's started at 9 I feel really good about Myself!
If she hasn't asked about sex don't say anything, If she say she wants it then explain its a big step for you and your not ready, oh and say your not scared to commit to her-unless you are.

Im not scared to Commit I meen, I haven't looked at any the girls in school the way I use to, HELL I STOPPED LOOKIN AT THERE BOOBS thats a big step I can even look at my tall friend who when she comes up close i am at TIT hight i look up at her, thats how much I value my relatioship with this girl, and hell the tall girl, DONO my GF no1 in my school does.

Like Im talkin to her on MSN right now... should I ask her about Sex?:confused::what::wub:

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

If she would end the relationship for you asking her about this subject then she doesn't seem that mature, and is probably not mature enough for sex yet. Give it some time. You both will know when you are ready.

[TrinkTrik]

I know she can be Imature and that but,
Isin't it best to get hings off your cheast before things go wrong,
Yeah things could go wrong now but, Shouldent she know how I feel,
Its like that guy said, THEY KEY TO ANY RELATIONSHIP I COMMUNICATION,
Should I not commute this to her?

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

Yeah. By all means tell her how you feel.

[TrinkTrik]

You meen like how I feel in the OVERALL, or about SEX.
Its just tomorrow In school im actualy gonna be with the Head of Department and I can trust that guy and he gives great advice. Like should I see what he has to say? Or just tell my Girlfriend how i feel about Sex and how i feel in the Overall relationship?

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

You could seek his advice if you feel that you need it. And I would talk to her about everything, its best to be as honest as you can in relationships, but again that is up you, you don't need to express all your feelings. I do advise that you talk to her about how you feel about sex though. You are still young so don't think you need to get into anything to heavy.

[TrinkTrik]

You could seek his advice if you feel that you need it. And I would talk to her about everything, its best to be as honest as you can in relationships, but again that is up you, you don't need to express all your feelings. I do advise that you talk to her about how you feel about sex though. You are still young so don't think you need to get into anything to heavy.
Well the thing is it ALMOST went there and me being ME i was thinging
"Go on your gettin there, GET SOME!"
But I changed since I was a kid in Primary, im a 4th Year High School Student on a University Course.
I walked out her house like Death himself had visited and I was all set for doing it, But there was a part in my mind saying,
"Don't your different now, your a changed boy, You have more class than them idiots in class, You know your better than them, Don't make your first experience somthing potentionaly Violent, Make love... don't FUCK her"
And we had always talked about how if we did it before we did it we would talk about it... Is now the best time..? or should I wait?

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

Do you feel ready? Do you think she is?

[TrinkTrik]

Do you feel ready? Do you think she is?
Im talkin to her and it goes liek this

HER
*im a tomboy
*ppl say Jen has had sex =/

ME
*well maby ext year youll be sayin that about yourself...

Her
*nah xD

ME
*lol ya never know
*ya say no now but...
*It all lays in the future Will we, Will we not
*its based on how we feel

HER
*yea but i wuld think its rushin it

ME
*Babe this is what ive kinda been... preparing to say all day and I just havent had the time to say it but
*We know the risks
*We know wed be under age
*We know the conciquences
*But... sometimes when it feels right, things have to be done and im not saying LETS RUN TO THE NEAREST HOTEL AND DO IT what im saying is, Only if it feels right would I consider it

HER
*yea but if we didnt it wuld might b the only time we meet but if we did the conciquences :S

ME
*-.- uve frazed it wrong lol did u mean
*It may be the only time we ever meet and it could end up to 1 fo the more serious conciquences

HER
Yeah thats it xD

ME
*yeah and its not like I wouldent come prepared
*I kow the DOs and DONT's
*How can you say RUSHING it thou? we have been goin for a while now

HER
*yea but we dont see eachother alot, theres a 300 Mile barrier between us

ME
*But what we plan dosent always go to plan like
*I hate all the CHEASY ROMANTIC stuff

HER
*me too lol
*But im shy I dont like coughing on Webcam

ME
*but whos to say when were gonna meet up were just gon say HI
*You could scream the train station down

HER
*yeah
*but Id just walk away, i dont liek going into a room when I am going to see my gran because Im shy and get embarresd.

ME
*Id just grab you at the station and hold you to me and say "let it out babe just scream"
*i dont eat on webcam makes me look fat
*but
*i am lol
*i got a set of tits on me PMSL
*well
*11 stone
*but i blame 2 in growen toenails lol

HER
*i wuld seriuosly just look at u n just end up walkin away in silence xD
*i am such a shy person

ME
*Babe, see before we started talking about this... I was actualy gonna ask my Guidence teacher and head of department about it
*what I should do
*I was even gonna go and see the doctor
*I didnt know what to do
*and i decided that I was gonna leve them just incase and go to the internet
*it did get me thinking alot
*I just wanna know how you feel about it
*think you could tell me how you realy feel about Sex and next year?

HER
*I just DONO :'(

ME
*Ive Been confused for months
*I meen like right now your still basicly a kid, this year im 15 while your still sitting there messin about in class, im sitting in a huge hall in silence for 6 hours doing exams that tell me im good at this and ballz at that
*and even thou your 15 this year too, you dont hit your exams untill next year
*I know its a topic that effects everybody at 1 time or another I just wanted to know howya felt about it
*thanks for tellin me :)
*I feel that bit closer to you now

[TrinkTrik]

So... me and her we talked about it, I feel happy, Im glad we spoke bout it
THANKS GUYS *thumbs up*

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

Good job xD Communication helps so much.

[TrinkTrik]

Good job xD Communication helps so much.
Yeah it does... Now shes on a 3 week holidy lol
But I love her none the less TY

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

You're more than welcome, glad its all better.

[Aves]

When you're ready you're ready