What do you think?

[lesher]

Well, maybe (MAYBE) some of seniors of "R&D" section of virtual teen may still remember my story about I'm having problem with a girl because I'm quitting my religion.

Okay, here's the quick re-tell of the story before the main question:
- On September 2008, I've decided to quit my religion (lots of reason, please just PM if more detail is really necessary). After I quit, a friend of mine which is a girl (I'll just refer her as "X"), suddenly acting bit strange to me. She just never talk normally as we usually do and one day, she tells me that she wanted me to be back to the religion so badly. She even mentioned that she cried and prayed for me to get back again. That all happens in my home country.

Now, I'm in Australia, which pretty much unreachable by my friend because it's far from my home country.
One day (around 1-2 month ago), I've met her on the MSN and chatted a bit with her. And then, after lots of blah5x stuff, we entered to a topic that I don't really like : Religion. And then, all of the sudden, she tells me that she actually likes me because back then (when I was a quite deep spiritual character), she likes my personality. But because I've quitted from my religion, she doesn't like me anymore. But back then, she never talks anything about having crush with me...
PS : I've actually have crush with her too before.


So then, what do you think?

[sebbie]

Everyone judges people and has personal preference when it comes to relationships. With this girl it seems that she wants a guy who is religious.

As you seem to have changed your beliefs it means you are not in her preference. So she would try to convince you to go back to what you were.

When it comes to religion, it is something that is personal belief and that is the reason you should follow it, not because someone else wants you to.

You might want to try to find out if she liked you as a person, or just liked some of your qualities.

[Aves]

I say she liked, you, but was shy. Now she has a reason to talk to you, and a good one. She want's you back the way you were when she liked you. But My philosophy is don't change for anyone, except yourself. But it doesn't make a difference, because unless you're planning on moving back to your home country, you will never be able to see her, for a long period of time

[lesher]

Oops, I forgot to subscribe to my own thread and lost track of it :(

Anyway...
@Sebbie: I've actually asked her once about that and the answer is -> My quality
I've told it in my story already, didn't I?
@Aves: That's true, I don't think I can meet her very much. But I often meet her online on MSN :(

And to be honest, sometimes I wish that I had known her feeling earlier (yes, it's some of my regret. Sounds pathetic isn't it?)

[Art_dude]

It sounds like she liked you and probably still likes you, but she won't act on those feelings unless you change your religious views. My opinion on the situation: her loss.
Never change something as fundamentally important as your views on religion, life, morality, the cosmos, etc, because you had a crush on a girl who won't 'like' you unless you change your mind.

I'm not saying that sharing religious views isn't important in a relationship (cuz it is, especially if you're going to be in a long term relationship/ marry the person) but you should tell her that you respect her religious views and she should do the same, and that something like religion shouldn't come between two people who like each other. I'm sure you have lots in common with her. Why have something as trivial as that get in between you two? If she doesn't want to respect your opinion and get the chance to be in a relationship because of it: Then once again, it's her loss. But I don't know if it would work anyway seeing as you're in a different country.

[lesher]

It sounds like she liked you and probably still likes you
That's... An assumption, right?

I'm sure you have lots in common with her. Why have something as trivial as that get in between you two?
Err... To be honest, I'm not really sure if there are lots of "in common" thing between her and me :(

Well, I can't blame it though. You see, she said that I've managed to impressed her (somehow) because of something I did back when I'm still a Christian. Before then, she even barely knew me at all.

And... Thanks for your message, I really appreciate it