Needing Another Perspective On Dude...

[The Harlequin]

So if any of you have seen me post on here you'll probably know that there's this really hot guy I'm into, he's incredibly camp but insists that he is not gay and get's really pissy with people when they confront him about it...

Anyway since the summer started I've been seeing a lot of him which is awesome, and last night we were at this party ~ we were sleeping over after the party was over. There were about ten of us sleeping over. Me and Lewis (the guy) as well as a few other people were feeling rough after having a bit too much vodka, so we decided to Power Nap in the far corner of the lounge.

Me and Lewis hug a lot, and when we were lying on the floor he had his arm around me under the duvet (L) and we were lying quite close and stuff. By the time morning arrived (and we were on our own) our legs were intertwined with each other's and I was resting my head against his chest, gently squeezing embraces and stuff, and after a few hours he asked me quietly if I was gay. I told him I was bisexual, and I could feel his heart beating fast, I asked him "What about you?" to which there was no reply,

I then said "Do you know yet?" and he shrugged.

Worried that I'd be making him uncomfortable I said "If you want me to stop" (hugging/squeezing/rubbing faces) "then just tell me."

To which he said "It's okay" and gave me another long, warm hug...

So I'm feeling a bit like I'm getting conflicting signals here...
He's very camp, but (so he says) not gay, he's willing to hug me and if I stroke his foot with mine he'll respond back ~ but when I ask him I get no answer...

I dunno...
I really, really like him. I don't wanna be confused ~ some help here ddcoding what the hell might be hoing on?!

Thank you for your patience, lol (:^}

[guacamole24]

I think there's a large possibility he's gay and might like you...

[orangecounty]

Well he is probably just not comfortable enough with his sexuality to reveal it to the world yet. Give him time...there is a very good possibility that he likes men if when he woke up in the morning...he wasn't creeped out that you were laying on him.

[drpepper21]

awwww! that is so sweet.

also, there is a big possibility.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

omg thats awesome and thefact that he didnt want you stopping doing those things and then hugged you then it means he likes you back but the fact that he tells people he is straight then i think he just doesnt want people to know, so just tell him its cool with you and tell hm how you feel, bacause i am really really sure that he likes you back, dude believe me i know this things ;) and way if you need any help or just talk, i am the guy for you so yeah bye, and good luck :)

[The Joker]

He's sending you signals, he just doesn't want to be out. It's a good sign for you!

[thepieman]

It sounds like there could be a chance he likes you. Don't rush into anything yet. It may be best to wait and see if he does come out so he doesn't feel pressurised. Good luck, it could be a good signal!

[MichaelAdams1993]

You need to explain how you feel about him but make sure that before hand you make sure that he knows you aren't trying to get him to come out. My guess is that he is gay. But is having personal problems either accepting that or realizing it himself. If you try and push him then he could end up being pushed away from you. Then if he ever figures things out your already out of the picture.

Make sure he knows how you feel and that if he ever needs to talk or ask questions then he can go to you and that you are not pushing for anything (even if you might be :) )

[Wonder.]

Your lucky so now I hate you. I never got anywhere at any time. I've never hugged someone! Anyways...

Patience is going to help you out. Possibilites:
- He's gay
- He's bi
- He doesn't want you to know
- He's drunk
- He's half asleep
- He likes you but doesn't want to admit it
- He's straight

Good luck finding out which one is true!

[The Joker]

Well, he says his friend hugs him a lot, so I doubt it happened out of drunkness.

[mexa]

you are reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally lucky to get a friend of yours (guy) to hug you, those hugs dont come around easy in between men(unless theyre crying or something). you are either REAAAAAAALLY good friends or he does actually have feelings for ya...just give him time and he might say something to you when hes ready

[The Harlequin]

you are reaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally lucky to get a friend of yours (guy) to hug you, those hugs dont come around easy in between men(unless theyre crying or something). you are either REAAAAAAALLY good friends or he does actually have feelings for ya...just give him time and he might say something to you when hes ready

It's easier than you think ~ I mean you can normally give a dude a hug with a sorta manly pat on the back and stuff, but because I liked Lewis a lot and he is so very camp one time I just gave him a very warm hug that was returned, giving a dude a very deep hug can be a bit dangerous though ~ they might feel taken advantage of...

Yeah, none of us were drunk ~ we just got the hangover (how muh does THAT suck?!)

I realise pushing him could turn out disasterous ~ I can totally understand that... So are you suggesting that I should tell him how I feel or that I should wait and see what happens first? I haven't seen him since and won't until at least 24th,

I dunno if he'd be ready for how I feel yet ~ that's the only thing. Or is that me just making excuses for not being able to tell him outright?! Arghhh! I'm SO confused... (N) Because I was kinda hoping that if I was the first to come out (assuming he is gay) he'd confide in me in the same way...

But I don't know ~ I get the feeling I'm being dangerously naïve here (:^{

[charlie w]

sounds like he is just confused over what he thinks. just try and keep a cool head.

[clr9823]

Keep patient, keep gentle, keep showing affection and keep reading his signals. He must feel something for you, and you just need to coax it out. Don't pressure him tho, and if he says 'no' then don't push it.

Good luck, I wish I was as lucky with my man-crush!

[hhhhssssuuuuhhhh]

weird the same thing happened to me (minus the vodka and cabin) with a guy i like, he also claims not to be gay but does the same thing when our friends have sleepovers.

since he still held you he must either find comfort in you or cares about you enough not to hurt you by getting you away from him. or he could also be attracted to you too but doesn't want to admit it.

[Wonder.]

Or he was just being nice and was just letting you lay on him because he knows you like him and thought it would be nice for you to do that so you would get something that you wanted out of it.

[drpepper21]

no, he wouldnt let him do that if he was uncomfortable. even if he did, harlequin would be able to sense his discomfort.

[Wonder.]

no, he wouldnt let him do that if he was uncomfortable. even if he did, harlequin would be able to sense his discomfort.

I would if I was straight. And I said I doubted it. I think. It is a possibility. You never know.

[YourFriend]

He's sending you signals, he just doesn't want to be out. It's a good sign for you!

Agreed. How old are you, btw?

[MichaelAdams1993]

Or he was just being nice and was just letting you lay on him because he knows you like him and thought it would be nice for you to do that so you would get something that you wanted out of it.

Most straight guys would be uncomfortable by having a gay laying with them. I think that he is most likely gay but he may be confused.

As far as whether or not to wait or tell him how you feel I think you should explain how you feel but make it clear beforehand that you aren't expecting anything otherwise you could push him away by telling him how you feel. Make sure to keep him comfortable and be patient (I know, easier to say then to do). You know him better then us however so if you feel really strongly that you need to wait then do so. This can be extremely confusing for him and it is crucial you not push it.

This is my advice, hope it helped.

[Johnny_John]

how long ago before you posted this did all of this happen?
It might be taking some time for you what you said to settle in...
He might be more responsive after some waiting time, just tell him if it was too much to please pardon what you said...

[Aspiringanonymous]

Please refrain from posting in old threads, thanks :locked: