Just a quick question :/

[Amyxoxo]

Hey guys, is it just me or does anyone else feel like a hypocrit giving others advise on how to stop and not doing it yourself. Its ok for me to do it to myself but not others??
Im rerally confused :(..hmm.
Amyxoxo

[Darkness]

Well I don't sinice I don't "Self Harm" I don't, but I think you don't want to do it and you will stop you just need time too do so.

[Project Delta]

Yeah i used to feel like a hypocrit ALL the time because i used to self harm a lot while helping loads of others to stop. But now i haven't cut in so long the feeling has gone away. Its like when they say you dont practice what you preach.

Hope this has helped. Aaron

[PoisonedRazorBlades]

I feel like a hypocrite. Almost everyday.

[ErykaInspire.]

Yes, I know exactly how you feel. I'm constantly giving advice that seems logical, and is intended to have my best opinions/knowledge, yet I can't follow my own words.
I've been struggling with self-harm for 2 1/2-3 years now, and even though I constantly tell people that self-motivation is key.. I lack it.
I've gone 6months without cutting, relapsed, and now i'm back to 1 1/2 months.
It's really not easy, and it does take alot of work.
But sometimes giving other people hope, helps yourself in more ways that we realize.
Saving others makes us subconsiously believe that we have a purpose, and therefore the urges to cut become less.
So don't give up, hun. Try harder.

PM me if you need anything<3

[BlackenedSilver]

Yea, I feel like a hypocrite constantly. For many reasons other than cutting though.
The thing I most feel like a hypocrite now though is when I have urges to cut and I can't control them but a few days later someone else will be having the same urges and I'm the one telling them not to do it listing reasons not to, It would be much easier if you could think straight during those urges.
There's nothing you can do to change this though hun, I hope you stop soon.

[Amyxoxo]

Thank you guys :)
Amyxoxo

[Discomposure]

i know what you mean, i do feel a bit daft sometimes but then i know that when people give me advice it helps me knowing theres someone like me so then i think ah well.. i'll just try to help :)

[kt2369]

yea i feel like that too. we all try to get eachother to stop[which is good] but in the end it is you that has to make the decision.

[SincEreLyYeLLiNgBaCk]

ehhh i guess it could be seen as being a hypocrite, but on the other hand who knows better than someone who is struggling with the same thing?

[BuryYourFlame]

The only way that I would find it hypocritical is if someone is not trying to quit their self-harm. I never feel like a hypocrite because of that reason, me trying to quit shows that I don't think it is a good idea.

[Rutherford The Brave]

The only reason why it is hypocritical is because we've been through it before. Like take me for example I've tried to kill myself numerous times, now I take that expierence and due to the horrid stuff I nearly attempted I try to stop kids from doing it. Yes that makes me a hypocrite but sometimes it really helps when you explain the stuff you put yourself through so they do not.

[NeverLetGo]

I understand. I don't SH but I get where you're coming from. But maybe in saying these things you might be slowly following what you say, even though you don't know it yet? There's no need to feel like a hypocrite. Your advice is good I'm sure. If you didn't give advice then I'm sure some people would be in a worse state than they are now.

[Dzefry]

You could try to place your hand in a ice cold water that was previously in freezer and has some ice in it- u will find your self having pain but it won't be dangerous to your health or leave you scars.

[1_21Guns]

Until I stopped, yeah I did, often I would sit there all night telling people they have to stop then kick myself later when i'd self harm. I knew it was wrong, and I knew exactly why just I would carry on regardless. I always felt like a hypocrit, it never bothered me but I knew i was just being a hypocrit.

[2D]

I look at it a different way.

I see people who cut and try and help others a hypocrites.

I see them as having bravery. Saving people when they themselves need saving.

That's just my take on it though.

[dstnyisurs]

I feel like a hypocrite all the time. Whenever I see that a friend of mine has cut, I tell them, "NO don't do it, NO it's bad," so on so forth. I'm always telling people it isn't a healthy way to cope and that they need to quit. I'm always giving people help in stopping but every night I just go back to the blade. It's pitiful.

[chelsay13]

YES. I feel absolutely horrible.
In the beginning of 8th grade a gave a speech on stopping, a month later i started up again. I spent my year helping people quit, but struggled myself.
I feel bad, but at the same time, I show people how bad it is. So there's an upside to it.

[ShatteredWings]

yeah. it does feel rather on the hypocritical side wheen you can't take your own advice.. *shrug* it's not a good excuse, but it's usually reallyhrad to think straight when you want to do it

[EimmaTheDinosaur]

Yea, I feel like a hypocrite sometimes. I tell my Best Friend to not harm herself, and yet I'm right there with a beer cap next to me. (They work for me!)

[Asylum]

yes i feel like a hypcrite,however i actually learned to listen to my advise and its sort of workign , plus my advise has helped people. stopped my one friend from Self Harm :D

[The Batman]

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