I Can't do this no more...plz help

[sam i am]

I can't do this anymore my best friend i really like him and he knows that and he has a gf but i can't keep talking to him even tho i love to we get along so well he understands me and i understand him but i feel like the more i talk to him the more i seem to be sad he wont get out of my head ...idk what to do anymore we talked about it,but still I even avoided talking to hi for a week just to clear my head but nothing...plz someone help me out how do i get over someone i always gotta put a smile for him and act like its all good but im never happy i never will be. How do u get over ur best friend? how do u stop liking someone? There has to be something

[dredgegolgari]

wow god... this looks familiar ... i have a similar issue but i am the one with the gf in my case... idk who i love anymore...a love triangle.... nothing can be more cruel... 3s a crowd....

idk wat to do but ill be watching this thread for replies

[spaz]

How do u get over ur best friend? how do u stop liking someone? There has to be something

im not sure if u can get over someone u like =/
i meen if u like them, then u like them

[lonercarrot]

im not sure if u can get over someone u like =/
i meen if u like them, then u like them

This.
You can't control who you like.. You can't will yourself to stop liking someone.

And I kow it fucking sukcs, but the only way to get over someone is time. Or you might never get over him (but I doubt that).

[sam i am]

I don't doubt that. He's my best friend we talk to each other like everyday.. like were a little more than best friends in a way like were so close. He tells me he's so comfortable with me; He tells me things that he would never tell his on girl friend,and he admit it . We even flirt around with each other from time to time,but i know i need to stop that because I'm only hurting myself. Should i just break it off? Like not be friends,but the other half doesn't wanna do that; it's the same reason why i wanna stop liking him.. so i can save the friendship without being hurt at the same time. Also i can tell when he's sad to because last night i put this on my status "i cant take this feeling anymore" he IM me saying shit like i know it's about me,but it wasn't. I'm in the hospital( cancer but cured now,but caught an infection) and i have a hole in my chest and i told him no it's not about u it's the pain and he was like "o" ... which makes me more sad because now he's worrying about me he feels guilty that he can't do anything about it because he don't feel the same way. He loves his girl friend,not me. Now it's not only hurting me it's hurting him,even his girl maybe. There has to be something every question has an answer and my best friend relationship with his girl shouldn't mess up because of me =(

[KenFisher]

well, here be my first post on VT :)
you're lucky to have a guy friend that actually understands that you like him and that he's fine with it. 3 out of 5 of my crushes kinda don't like me after they know i like them.
first one was my first love, made a big deal out of it, everyone knows, ended up having to change schools. still not exactly over him (fittie!:wub:), even if he's going out with one of my closest girl friend.
second one turned into a frienemy-but-more-like-'stop-looking-at-my ass'-like.
third one knows cuz i'm giving out signals, he took it, and teases me physically, kinda nicely. i mean, i think he teases in a nice way, but, maybe he's toying, i dunno. i'll never know, as i had to change school (look above for reason), and have no way of finding him except from meeting face to face.
fourth's actually gay, and we kissed, even though he told me it doesn't work. we're on good terms.
fifth took it good, and we're still good friends, but no relationship :)
sorry for ranting, just saying it's good he understands. and not everyone's that lucky.
wait, that isn't the point of this post is it?
ah i remember now.
one thing. how do you know he purely loves his gf and not you at all? if he really cares about you and even flirt with you a bit, as you say, i think he might have some thing for you, but doesn't want to admit it as he is stuck with you and his gf.
i mean, it's nice of you to say that you don't want them to break up over you. but it kinda all depends on him now. he might come up to you and say, 'i love you, man', you never know!
i sometimes even doubt can i even get over my first guy, but i'll just see what goes. am going to meet loads of new people. hope there's nice people... :P
keep looking for people that you might like. That's what I say. there's usually someone that blows your mind, like the third guy of mine. he was so good looking :D
hope that helps,
Kev

[SoFlaDude]

Hmm, I sort of know how you feel, but you have to give it time, everything will heal with time. The last thing you want to do is end your friendship, but you have to learn that you cannot be in a "relationship" (like the one he has with his gf) with him. You have to understand he is your friend, and nothing else. :)

[sam i am]

"Friends" well to me it don't feel like friends he messes with me like he have a gf (well not anymore they broke up on the 17 of august. Like i don't understand its hard too move on if he flirts with me from time to time like he's confusing me. Does he wanna be with me or not? Like when i got back of surgery, Anesthesia I had i was acting super weird not my self and i remember i told him the other day before i went to bed i wouldn't act my self and i wouldn't really remember what i would be doing or saying when waking up because my surgery was very major... so when i started to calm down and came back online on msn i told him did i do anything stupid and shit he said yea,he explain everything and he told me shit and he said to look in my msn history and we was like flirting,etc like come on... it hurts me that he messes with my feelings; he don't like me like that. He told me when he broke up with his girl he just didn't feel happy(he said he even feels depress) like something was wrong,but he didn't know what.. Am i just like a comfort zone for him like anything he needs he knows i'll give it to him,since were best friends i feel like it's so true... that's y i made this post or thread ,etc because i wanna get over him..i don't want my feelings to get in the way of our friendship which i love so much

[KenFisher]

I know you want to get over him. But he just broke up with his gf. You're his best friend. He finds you comforting. So, it sounds pretty normal for him to talk to you about it. The thing to do now is to make him feel ok about the break up.

Even if he doesn't like you, it doesn't need to stop you liking him.
If he doesn't like you flirting with him, don't. Like what you mean, friendship comes first for you, and you don't want to ruin it.
But if he doesn't mind, well, don't do too much.
If he understands that you like him, he shouldn't really mind you being affectionate, as long as it's not like you two are in a relationship. I mean, he should know what happens when he does it and he should be prepared. if he understands you, flirts with you, then not like your response, he brings that upon himself.
so basically, comfort him first, then keep being friends. like him if you want to, because it doesn't really matter, as he understands. You can of course keep your feelings hidden.
but, if you really have to get over him, time and/or another person will do (i bet you'd think time doesn't work. if that's the case, keep your mind over something/someone, and some time later, you'd forget. Trust me, it works. after not able to be friendly with the first guy, i found someone else (whilst worrying over the first guy XD), and after a while, i kinda have changed feelings about the first guy.)
Hope that helps,
Kev

[sam i am]

I think u didn't understand the other part like he finds me as a comfort zone even when he was with his girl..so thats nothing new ...and he flirts with me and we do it to each other so i fall into it like a D I C K head,because i like it i love him.......UGHHHHHHH!!!!! im going nuts now he's going through something and i have to support him i love him ..now since they broke up he's so depress..and now him being in a new school kids joking on him because of what happen to him in ny (cus did some stupid shit to him on his eyebrows)..now if i mention how im feeling he might just feel more depress =( love sucks

[KenFisher]

I know that feeling, like nobody understands your situation. I thought nobody understood mine.
why do you feel like a dick for 'falling for' the flirting? i mean, my third guy knows i like him, and we kinda do flirt a bit, but since he isn't very close to me at all, so...
i liked the feeling, thinking how nice he is and how fit he is. I didn't expect him to understand. i mean, i never expect to have anything to do with him ie in a relationship, so when i left, he doesn't hang round in my mind that much.
you know you're not gonna go out with him by any rate. so, why get stuck on it? Keep being friends, comfort him and blah.
Kids are just immature. They just need to grow up. I'm sure if he just shrug it off, the kids would find him boring and move on.
well, he knows you love him. make sure he knows. I think what he needs now might be someone that loves him. if you tell him you love him (ah hah, that can be taken in different ways!) and you'll always be his friend and be there, he'd be happy to have a friend like you.
so yea, look out for people you might like, and you'll get distracted from loving him :D
Kev

[RaeNose]

You should try avoiding him if he's just going to keep stringing you along like that without any real intention of him returning your affection. That's how you stop liking someone, you break it off with no more contact. It slowly gets easier, and you slowly forget about him.
I know this sounds really rude, and I'm very sorry that this had to happen to you. But, ask him if there's a point in time where he'll stop treating you like his passing mistress, and if his answer is ANYTHING other than yes, tell him that you can't keep falling for his charm anymore.