getting beat up by a guy at a party

[Fiending_the_freedom]

i'm just so tired of it.
Whether it's from my brother, my ex or just men (sorry)
i'm so fucking tired of it.
i've had all of it.
but tonight, keeping topid,
it was just a stranger.
He got wood for a fire, i pointed out one stick was entirely green, so it was still alive it wouldn't burn, it turned into ( yes i know i'm stubborn too) a big argument and it got actually so out of hand he told me to fuck myself 5 times so i said dont make me try to punch you (yes i know bad judgment on both parts) then he called me a bitch for saying the thing about the green he called me that 3 times. blah. so the night goes on


were making our way out,
i'll be honest i was drunk, i dont remember much except for the fact that he brought up before, and we actually get eachother so angry were rolling around trying to hit eachother (yes still both our faults) and he stands up, me still on the ground and kickes me hard in the breasts, then lets another kick under the chin.

i am so upset, how can a man do this? my boyfriend is goign to go crazy, i dont want to stress him out. he already has so much stress as it is.
im sorry i just had to rant about this type of guy,

[Hyper]

Ahem he can do it if he is a insecure, immature little shit

Thats just my opinion :P

[Strength]

Ah, yes...Yet another wonderful thing alcohol adds to our lives!:rolleyes:

[derkderpderp]

Hm,dude admittedly the alcohol didnt help,but he shouldnt have hit you (call me old fashioned),at most he shouldve verbally abused you,but he might also have been intoxicated (idk),but dude,if you want to avoid stuff like this (its hard i know),then try to avoid arguing.

Sorry if i offended you in anyway.

[MickyT]

I'm going to have to side with Mike and munkyduck here, and say that you really shouldn't have bothered to argue. Does it really matter that a stick of wood he got was green? Even if it didn't burn well, who really would have suffered from it. Now if the stick was PURPLE I can obviously see how you would want to make sure he did not place that in the fire. terrible things would obviously have followed.

[Antares]

Oh hells naw.

You get a taser, or some mace and go to town.

It doesn't matter if you were drunk, and belligerent first.
He should not put his hands on you.

Don't blame yourself so much. I mean, yes, both of you were belligerent, but he should learn to be the better person and never put his hands on a woman.

Thats just common sense.

Next time that happens, scream at the top of your lungs and get some people to help you out. Because this was unacceptable on his part and not the smartest on your part.

But it is in the past, don't talk to your BF about it anymore because its not relevant anymore.
Just put it behind you.

[MickyT]

Well Mars, I may have to disagree with you in this case. She was the one who started the argument, and I can't think it would be right to start an argument with someone and then mace them when they don't see it your way, as you seem to be advocating! I certainly don't think violence solves problems, and I don't think the guy was right in physically hurting her, but I feel you need to take a step back and think about the merits of carrying a weapon like a taser.

[Θάνατος]

I agree with Mars here.

There is no reason in the world for the guy to hit you at all. So you were both drunk that is still no reason to be abused by a guy.

The only time a guy should hit a girl is in self defense and their life is in danger.

You should learn to be careful around guys there are lots of guys around like this who will abuse a girl or woman.

I have been hit before by my ex and I did catch and grab her wrist to keep her from hitting me again. I never did retaliate on her even though I was totally pissed off.

The taser is a bad idea unless you are trained to use it because it could be used on you and you end up getting hurt.

I hope that my advice helped you.

[Antares]

Well Mars, I may have to disagree with you in this case. She was the one who started the argument, and I can't think it would be right to start an argument with someone and then mace them when they don't see it your way, as you seem to be advocating! I certainly don't think violence solves problems, and I don't think the guy was right in physically hurting her, but I feel you need to take a step back and think about the merits of carrying a weapon like a taser.

That wasn't the real point.

My point was if a guy puts their hands on you, you get the mace, the taser, whatever and beat their ass up.

Why? Because a man should never touch a woman.

It doesn't matter if she started it first, if she called him a man whore who got castrated 2 months ago, he shouldn't have touched her.
And being drunk isn't an excuse.

But unfortunately you were banned so it doesn't really matter much now :/

[Θάνατος]

That wasn't the real point.

My point was if a guy puts their hands on you, you get the mace, the taser, whatever and beat their ass up.

Why? Because a man should never touch a woman.

It doesn't matter if she started it first, if she called him a man whore who got castrated 2 months ago, he shouldn't have touched her.
And being drunk isn't an excuse.

But unfortunately you were banned so it doesn't really matter much now :/

I can't agree more than.

Get something to use as a weapon and beat the crap out of this guy.

Baseball bat something than can be used make you have an advantage over this guy.

It is not OK for a guy to hit a girl at all.

[overcome.]

The way I feel is pretty strong about this sort of thing. If you're attacked by somebody, regardless of who they are, how big they are, then you defend yourself. You disable them in whatever way you can, so they can't hurt you further or even initially hurt you that much. If you don't disable them, then they could come back for more, they could come back to find you with friends, with a weapon, or with both. You need to send this guy a message he won't forget, there's many ways you can do it. If somebody has the audasity to attack you (especially for no reason, being isn't an excuse, it's pathetic), then you do whatever you need to do to stop them. Whatever it takes, its you or them.

[RaeNose]

Look at how many nice guys there are on here. None of them would've hit you. :)
Yeah... that goes to show how poor my neighborhood is, if I'm complimenting them on something that should be common sense.
Think about it, you pointed out the fact that the stick was green and that it wouldn't burn. Common sense. If he's going to try to threaten you about a stick... he's an asshole and a loser who doesn't get the fact that living things don't burn... except for people, as so many tried for witchcraft would know.
I would have to advise against getting drunk in the first place. Especially with jerks like that guys around. And getting mace. Or learning some basic self-defense moves.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

thanks guys, as for those not understanding my point,

You got drunk enough to argue with some also drunk random guy over the color of a stick,

have you ever drank? trust my people argue over lesser things.

and then threatened to punch him and got in a fight.
i threatened to punch him if he wouldn't stop swearing at me, not if he didn't agree with me, i just dont like being sworn at repeatedly.

I'm not really sure why you're surprised you got hurt, Maybe he was just defending himself.

If i had gotten hurt as someone would normally would in a fight, like gotten slapped or pushed, i wouldn't be bitching, obviously, because i started it. BUT, i think no matter if you are a MAN OR WOMAN, NO ONE should ever kick someone in the face while they are down on the ground, unless you if is self defense in a dangerous situation. He could have walked away when i was down but instead decided to kick me then walk away.

[RaeNose]

AMEN SISTAH!
Haha...
Sorry, this is a serious forum. But I agree with you. :D

[Modus Operandi]

I agree with Venus. You may want to carry a can of pepper spray or mace from now.

Alchohol didn't help the situation, I agree, but it dosen't change the fact that this guy is an asshole.