My brother.

[xCierax]

A Few Days ago my 11 year old Brother came to me and he asked me to give him advice about Puberty/masturabating and etc. And honestly im a little nervous to talk to him about it.Should i recommend this site for him?Or should i just tell him about it?

[spaz]

do what you and him are most comfortable with. i asked my big brother the same thing when i was 11, he was a little nervous that we were talking about puberty but though. but my point is do whatever you both are comfortable with

[england123]

I think that you should defineltly show him jackinworld.com as explaining masturbation could be embarassing, and probably this site as well, but it is up to you to decide.

[Cloud]

remember that the age minimum for vt is 13 so your brother is to young to register and we wont be able to give him direct advice

[Zeavix]

yes recommend him this site.they have many puberty and masturbating forums,

[charlie w]

well if you feel nervous about telling him, you could get your parents to tell him.

[cole g]

tell him what u know and then recommend him this site.

[Donkey]

Hi there.

If you feel unhappy about giving him direct word-to-word advice you could direct him to the following useful websites:
http://puberty101.com/
http://virtualteen.org/forums/ (make sure he understands he is not allowed to sign up)
http://govteen.com/

You can show him how to use the sites if he is unfamiliar too.

[JJSSHH]

I think you should definitly talk to your bro about this..... i bet he would rather talk to you than your dad

[kingtut]

Just do what you think is the best way, but if you two are close then have you tell him. For one he came to you. But its all up to you

[SoFlaDude]

I would recomment puberty101 as a good site. I know it helped me out when i was 12-13 years old. :)

[Tiberius]

Since your brother is only 11, I don't recommend showing him the site since he can't make full use of it, but instead to speak to him directly. He did come to you for advice and therefore, he is looking up to you. I say you should take advantage to teach your brother a few things about life and to use it as an opportunity to bond with him. This is what older brothers are for, to help their younger ones with these problems.

[scuba steve]

you may be best to talk to him about it. but you could still show him the site and he could browse the forums as a guest he dosn't have to join

[pontiacdriver]

A Few Days ago my 11 year old Brother came to me and he asked me to give him advice about Puberty/masturabating and etc. And honestly im a little nervous to talk to him about it.Should i recommend this site for him?Or should i just tell him about it?

I think your best bet is to talk frankly and openly with your brother about sexuality. It is going to be awkward at first, but the reality is that your brother trusted you enough for him to approach you about sexuality questions. I would definitely not turn him down or push him off onto someone else as you don't want a situation where he feels there is something wrong with sexuality or that he cannot come to you with his issues. Do the best you can with explaining things to him, and in light of your being a female, I guess you can get a boyfriend or a male friend your age to fill in the blanks you cannot answer.

As for referring your brother around here, I think one has to be at least 13 to register for this website. However, you should PM an Administrator for the best guidance on that issue.

[orangecounty]

I would have loved to have an older brother to come to for this kind of stuff...

I'd suggest you ease into whatever you tell him and ask him what he already knows before you start getting into details. Throwing a ton of information on him will just confuse him or make him uncomfortable. I'd start by talking to him about puberty...the changes he will start experiencing and reassuring him that masturbation is ok (since many young people feel guilty about it at first). I think jackinworld could come in later...at this point he just needs to learn what masturbation is...not every technique in the book. Just take it slow...answer his questions honestly...and I can not stress enough how important it is for you to tell him that masturbation is perfectly normal and nothing that he needs to feel any guilt about.

[Cromm]

I would definately recomend AGAINST sending a 11 year old to this, or any other website where teens talk openly about sexuality. Yes, he might find some helpfull information, but he'll likely find other things he didn't, and perhaps shouldn't, know about. Peer support is one thing, but he won't find peers here, he'll find older teens; and if he's not ready to hear what they have to say, that might be worse than getting bad advice from his nervous older sister who cares about him.

I really recommend you ask your parents for advice on this. They'll likely be better equiped to answer all is questions. But, if you feel an obligation to help him yourself, listen to his questions and answer as honestly as you can. If you don't know the answers, tell him so, and find out yourself.

You're nervous, sure, but imagine how he must feel asking for advice about sex from his big sis. Sending him out into a world of vast information without direction isn't helpfull, no matter how well intentioned.

[iceyfresh]

You are not allowed to have a membership on VT if your under the age of 13 so tell him that you dont feel comfortable talking about it.

[Yesterdays Hero]

If you think it would be easier to point him to this site, then talk to him personally talk to him about, then point him to this site. Do whatever makes you comfortable.

[Silverfist64]

You are not allowed to have a membership on VT if your under the age of 13 so tell him that you dont feel comfortable talking about it.

Well thats not very helpful is it? Just because he cant be a member doesnt mean hes not allowed to look around the site and view previously asked questions. Not too mention she shouldnt just ignore her younger brother by saying she isnt comfortable talking to him about it. She should atleast give him some guidance.

@xCierax - I would suggest simply sitting down with him and talking to him. Ask him what questions he has and answer them for him. Yes it WILL be akward but just imagine how akward it was for him to go up to his older sister and ask about puberty and such. Then if you feel like helping him out some more you can show him this site and tell him that some answers are on here but he isnt of age to become a member yet. All he truly wants is some support and help from his sister.

[david_1990]

give him some of your advice and also some details about websites he can visist to find it out for himself too.
I think its easier to talk to someones aorund his age like yourself than to parents

[Fourth Dimension]

Do Whatever You Are Comfortable With He Obviously Looks Up To You And Wants Advice What I Would Do Is I Would Talk To Him About It A Little Bit Not Like Give Like Full On Details Just Give Him What Info He Would Find Useful For Now Hes Young So He Doesn't Need To Know Much Theres Not Much He Could Do With This Site Right Now Either Just Give Him The Info That Would Be Useful To Him Now And Then As He Gets Older You Can Give Him Advice On Other Stuff He May Need Of Want To Know And Honestly He Is Proly More Comfortable Talking To You Than Your Dad I Know i Would Have Been If I had An Older Bro I Have An Older Sis So I Want About To Ask Her Lol

[sirma]

I suggest talking as openly as you can to him. Just tell him what he asks for and then ask a male friend about some questions that your brother has and you can't answer. (I'm not sure about this) but you might be able to ask questions for your brother on this website, e.g. You could ask, "How do you masturbate?" or something. But turning him away from you means that that he won't be very open about his sexuality to anybody and if he has a problem or a question in the future he might not tell anybody or go to the wrong person (e.g. an older sexomaniac guy). Just answer his questions even if you feel bad about or shy about doing so, but after a while you will feel better and more open to answering sex ed questions.

[bowlheadhere]

It really depends upon your comfort level. He should learn about it soon enough at school, but if he continues to ask questions, I might point him in the direction of jackinworld.com or tell him whatever you feel is comfortable.

[malibueedudde]

id just tell him

[xCierax]

Yea....it would indeed be awkward...and most of you keep thinking im an older brother...but the thing is... i have an older brother and I think it would be more helpful for my lil bro to talk to him instead.And i agree with most of you said.Thanks..except im still thinking about it.Id be pretty nervous to talk to him about it...

He is in 7th grade now...and he should learn alot about it next year in 8th grade science but i still cant make up my mind.... ill will probly end up sitting down to talk to him with it.

[pontiacdriver]

Yea....it would indeed be awkward...and most of you keep thinking im an older brother...but the thing is... i have an older brother and I think it would be more helpful for my lil bro to talk to him instead.And i agree with most of you said.Thanks..except im still thinking about it.Id be pretty nervous to talk to him about it...

He is in 7th grade now...and he should learn alot about it next year in 8th grade science but i still cant make up my mind.... ill will probly end up sitting down to talk to him with it.

In light of your having an older brother, then I think you are best getting him involved. However, I find it interesting that your brother would come to you being a girl rather than your other brother. Clearly, the boy must feel close to you, and you should handle the situation carefully. I think you should be a resource for him, but also tell your brother that for obvious reasons you cannot fully explain all the changes associated with boys. However, let your brother know about things from the female standpoint be it how females feel about porn, what they expect from guys, and what boys should do to be good partners. I agree with the post above that said that your brother should take the lead and ask you questions rather than your innundating him with information.

Basically, I would at least hear him out and figure out what he wants to know. Clearly, if he is asking you questions about which you are uncomfortable, then get your Father or brother involved. However, I think the boy should feel he could talk to you if he is having issues.