Advice please!

[crisper99]

I am going into grade 10 next year, and I really want a relationship. Not just to say I have one, but I want to be emotionally involed with someone. I am the guy that is friends with all of the girls, so it really hard to crush on someone when they are your friend, and they wouldn't like me back. My voice isn't very deep, I am below average in body size and I am only 5'8. I don't know if I will ever find someone in high school!

[sebbie]

Don't go searching for a girlfriend, that just makes you look desperate and probably wont work out. Just continue how you are and chances are you will meet a girl who you like more than a friend and you can see where that takes you.

Also it is possible to go out with friends, the only problem is it can sometimes make it awkward if you end your relationship in a bad way.

[BeautifulSilence]

Trust me! There is really no rush to get emotionally involved with someone. You may feel like you're missing out, but if it doesn't happen naturally it probably won't be worth it.

As for liking your friends, you need to remember that someone needs to make the first move. If you don't want to say anything that'll upset your friendship, she probably won't either. You just need to take that risk. Or you could even ask them casually like "Have you ever had a friend like you as more than a friend?" and then she'll either say no, "Yeah it was weird" or "Yeah, we had a thing". You should probably think about her experiences and then work from that. Another thing you could ask is if she likes anyone as more than a friend.

Everything with relationships (friends or more)is a gamble. You never know how things'll turn out, but you need to put yourself out there first.

Another thing about liking friends is that usually, love can grow over time, so someone that you find physically attractive (lust) can then become emotionally attractive too ("love") and vice versa.

You may find that you are becoming emotionally attracted to your friends and then realise that you're also physically attracted to them. If this is the case, let them know! Human psychology studies show that when someone finds you attractive, you begin to find them attractive.

[AllThatIsLeft]

It takes time, you cant force a relationship to grow out of the blue.
You have to feel something for someone and then work from there.
right now all you can really do is wait.

But as a side note improving yourself is always a choice.
Are you type of guy that doesn't worry about your looks?
For a relationship personality beats looks every time,
but first impressions are always the first step.