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1_21Guns
August 10th, 2009, 12:34 PM
I hate you. I hate you with all my heart, because you're the one who turned it to stone. I hate you because of what you did, because of what you said, and the way it still haunts me to this day. I'll never forgive you. Never.

You had me living in fear. My own flesh and blood. Forced to stay away from the people who had raised me, incase they were like you.
"I'm sorry", you said. And I believed you. Silly little niave me believed you. But I had to didn't I. After all, no matter how much verbal abuse you shot at me, I had to forgive you. Then it got worse didn't it dad, you started the emotional abuse too didn't you. My room was littered with notes, attempts at suicide notes, attempts at notes asking you to stop, notes I had written to get me through what you were saying. "Dad shouts so loud he cant hear himself think" one said. I've thrown most of them away now, what use to me are they now? Just something to make me remember what you said? Something to make me cry?

"He's still your dad" some say, as much as I hate to admit it, that means nothing to me, not anymore. That last sorry was just another meaningless word that you said. Those sorrys were the reason I didn't lose hope just yet. He means it this time, I thaught. But it wasnt to be was it dad? A day if not a few hours later, it would start all over again.

Remember the times we went to Blackpool dad? All the way there I had this beaming smile, a smile thats now gone forever. And we'd have a competition to see who could spot Blackpool Tower first? Remember how Mum always won, and i'd always be the last to see it, but I didn't care. Remember when we went on the Log Flume? I'd sit on your lap and you'd hold me tight when the final huge drop came. Then I'd scream and smile at the same time as the water crashed over us. Remember that? Or when mum wouldnt go on the rollercoasters, but you would. You went on them because I wanted too, even you had a smile on your face then, a smile that made me smile too because it was rare I saw it. Then remember when we'd go down to the beach, and i'd race along the waters edge? Remember when we used to write eachothers names in the sand, and we'd see who could write it the biggest? Then remember the time I found a glass in the sand, and I dug it out just for you. Then on the way home, just as we passed the hotels again, i'd drift off and sleep all the way home. Those memories make me smile, but never like I did back then. Maybe because now I know how those happy days would end, with tears of course, just as they always did, isn't that right dad. You never let me have one good day did you dad? It always had to end with my tears.

Remember my 8th birthday? You know, the one you spoilt. The one I spent the rest of the night crying. Well you wouldnt know about the crying, you just walked away. Just like mum did.

And remember when mum left you last december. I wasn't there but I can see it. "Thanks alot Julie" you said. Can you blame her? After all those smiles you wiped away? After all the stress you put us through. Can you blame her?

I want to carry on writing, I want to tell you everything, but I wont. I want to end this letter with I love you. But I can't. Because of you, I lost all my friends nearly every day, and had to walk around the playground on my own. Because of you, I wont let myself like anybody, so I wont get hurt. Because of you, I'm in this state.

I Hate You Dad.
Even though I wish I didn't.

Just something I started writing hopeing it might make me feel better about moving nearer him at the end of summer. At the moment i'm taking it really badly, and I'm hoping venting some of it out might help.

Zeavix
August 11th, 2009, 07:04 PM
if you dont mind me asking but what happened?

Aneklusmos
August 11th, 2009, 09:37 PM
oh natalie, im sorry youve had to go through that. im really sorry.

peaceloverugby
August 11th, 2009, 09:58 PM
If you didn't live in the UK, I would swear we are siblings. You're a better person than him. You're above him. I hope things get better for you. And me. PM me if you want to talk about it.

Connor

1_21Guns
August 12th, 2009, 11:21 AM
if you dont mind me asking but what happened?

No, I don't mind you asking, but what do you mean by what happened? What my dad did?

1_21Guns
August 12th, 2009, 11:22 AM
If you didn't live in the UK, I would swear we are siblings. You're a better person than him. You're above him. I hope things get better for you. And me. PM me if you want to talk about it.

Connor

I'm guessing you've been through something similar? I'm so sorry about that. I know what its like, as do many people... its just not right. And I know, you're right. And I hope things get better for us too.

peaceloverugby
August 12th, 2009, 11:29 AM
I'm guessing you've been through something similar? I'm so sorry about that. I know what its like, as do many people... its just not right. And I know, you're right. And I hope things get better for us too.

Yeah my dad used to hit me when I was younger, and he still drinks alot. But he still says stuff that huts worse that the punches. Anyways, I've told him he's only got a year and a half to fuck up my life more, and I'm out of here for good.

Jacobim Mugatu
August 13th, 2009, 03:53 AM
I see that you, Natalie, have gone through a lot. But I am curios and would like to know in a bit more detail of some of the more intense incidents with your dad. I am sorry if the Idea of thinking of one of these events is painful, but I am an awfully nosy person I'm afraid, and would really like to know.

1_21Guns
August 13th, 2009, 06:31 AM
I see that you, Natalie, have gone through a lot. But I am curios and would like to know in a bit more detail of some of the more intense incidents with your dad. I am sorry if the Idea of thinking of one of these events is painful, but I am an awfully nosy person I'm afraid, and would really like to know.

Its not painful for me, its difficult for me to remember, most of the intense stuff I cant remember very well. Most of the stuff I can clearly remember is the random stuff, apart from my 8th birthday, if you call that intense. I guess i'll explain that in detail, seeing as I didn't in the "letter". Basically id woken up on my 8th birthday, rushed downstairs to see all my presents opened them and so on, but then my dad decided we were going out somewhere, I shrugged and agreed, even though I didnt want to, there was no argueing with him. It was on the way home, when it all kicked off, we were like a minute away from home, when dad decided he wanted to go see his friend, I pulled my face, I knew how long we would be if we went up there and ofcourse I wanted to go play with my presents. He looked in the rear view mirror, saw my face and yelled at the top of his voice "ITS NOT ANY SPECIAL DAY", a tear slipped from my eye, but I didn't start crying properly.. yet. He'd completely forgotten it was my birthday, but that wasnt the worst of it. He did the sharpest turn down to our house that i've ever known in my life. When we parked up, I got out and ran to the door, when mum opened it, I litterally sprinted to my room and sat in the window. That was when I heard heavy footsteps and loud breatheing coming up the stairs, I started shaking, when I had climbed into the window, i'd calmed myself down, I wasnt crying anymore, however when he demandingly yelled "get out of the window" I started crying again while stumbleing out of the window, litterally stumbled out, when I stood upright, I was faced with his glare, the glare that brought me so much fear everytime I saw it. He started yelling, I can't remember what it was about, all I remember is being stood there, shaking like crazy and dears pouring down my face like rivers. I dunno if I was shaking out of anger because he made me so mad, or fear, or both. Either way he was shouting for a long time, until my mum finally came up and yelled "its her birthday" when he walked out, he took his anger out on something in the bathroom, instead of me - that time. My mum walked away as always, and my dad stomped down the stairs. I fell on my knees, broke down, and non stop cried for the rest of the night. That was 6 years ago now, but I still remember it perfectly clear. Thats also the first thing I remember, anything before it is a mystery. Probably isnt really that intense... but I dunno..