in love with all the wrong people

[ArtistInNeed]

ok so i have a bf and i can honestly say that i am in love with him, hes my everything but lately ive been hanging out with my other friend and ive known hiim for almost a year now and i think that i might be falling in love with him too...is it possible to be in love with numerous people? im afraid to tell him because of what hell say, i kno that he likes me tho. do you think he would laugh at me? wat should i do? if i tell him idk wat will happen to our relationship but if i dont i will feel like i missed out on something important. i wont break up with my bf for him but i would like him to kno how i felt. u kno?

[hereitgoes]

it is possible to be in love with two people, although experiencing real, true love is an occurence that happens rarely and some people never get to feel that kind of attraction. i've actually been in this situation, and you quite obviously can't have both, and don't want to put them in a love triangle as you might lose them both as well as hurt them both. if you tell him how you feel, you take the chance of him feeling the same way back and then not knowing which one you want, and in that case you'd have to choose one and let one go so they can get on with their lives. also, if you tell him how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way back and your current boyfriend finds out he might break up with you too and you'll be left alone.
just a few possible outcomes? you might want to think about it and if it's worth it.

[Gumleaf]

the last thing you said answers your question for me. you say you won't break up with your bf for the other guy. by telling the other guy how you feel you open a can of worms that would be very hard to close again, especially since you know that guy is interested. if you love your bf so much and are committed to him, telling the other guy how you feel would only lead to trouble. the other thing is, it may be just a crush on the other guy and if it is, the crush will probably pass in time anyways and hopefully then your problem may be solved.

[Sapphire]

the last thing you said answers your question for me. you say you won't break up with your bf for the other guy. by telling the other guy how you feel you open a can of worms that would be very hard to close again, especially since you know that guy is interested. if you love your bf so much and are committed to him, telling the other guy how you feel would only lead to trouble.
I completely agree with this.

I would only advise telling him how you feel if you were willing to end your current relationship to start one with him.
But seeing as you have explicitly stated that this is precisely what you won't do then I see very little good that can come out of telling him that you love him.

[ArtistInNeed]

thanks :) i just feel like..im going to explode if i dont tell him..but maybe it is just a crush.

[Aves]

I say you just stick as the other guys friend, and keep going out with your boyfriend.

[Vaulter]

I would say what everyone else has said, i just want you to get as much of this as possible. Dont tell you friend. if he likes you you get the big ol can of worms, and then you have two angry guys. Guys have a tendancy to be violent in arguments, and in the end you might end up with neither guy because of wanting to please both of them. Stick with what you know.

[ArtistInNeed]

:) thanks

[The Ninja]

i would stay with your boyfriend and (wat im about to say may sound cruel) if sumthin happens you still got a friend that u could possibly hook up with