I know..I know..I'm a mom, but I need HELP

[Hockeymom]

I have an almost 11 yr old daughter who has been hiding candy and food in her room to eat after she goes to bed. Her dad has a weight problem, her dads family all has weight problems, and unfortunately she's beginning to have one. She is pretty much always allowed this kind of stuff with in reason. I've tried talking, yelling, grounding, calmly explaining...but I'm at a loss. What would get through to you?? Should I get rid of all of it and not allow it in the house? Please help me out... I'm getting desperate.
Thank you!!!!!!

[kolte]

I have an almost 11 yr old daughter who has been hiding candy and food in her room to eat after she goes to bed. Her dad has a weight problem, her dads family all has weight problems, and unfortunately she's beginning to have one. She is pretty much always allowed this kind of stuff with in reason. I've tried talking, yelling, grounding, calmly explaining...but I'm at a loss. What would get through to you?? Should I get rid of all of it and not allow it in the house? Please help me out... I'm getting desperate.
Thank you!!!!!!

I think that, instead of taking away her sweets, you should buy healthy, but good tasting foods. Fruits, jams, vitamin inriched jellos and yogarts. Also, try talking to her about activities that you could do together to get her motivated to be more healthy. Like go for walks, or go to the park on a weekly basis. and when you too are out, try getting healthy snacks, and teach her about a more healthy lifestyle in a way she will understand. If you take the candy from her, she will become angry, and resent you, but if you try and motivate her to not eat it, and to instead choose more healthy foods, she will remember your kindness.

Peace,

Kolte'

[Hockeymom]

Not that I don't appreciate all the replies, but I've done pretty much everything thats been suggested other than completely eliminating every sweet thing in the house. We ALWAYS have fruits, veggies, yogurt, juice bars, all that stuff. There are 3 other younger siblings in the house as well, half-siblings if that makes a difference. We do open skate at the local ice arena about twice a month, she is in little league basketball which is twice a week, she plays floor hockey in the garage w/ her 7 yr old brother 3/4 times a week, being thats its March and we live in Michigan outside activity is a little restricted for the time being. Both my husband and I have tried talking to her, I totally admit that on occasion we've yelled about it but that just comes from frustration. I've suggested to her that maybe talking to someone other than us might help, but she flat out refuses to do it. Her step mom is into being super healthy, nothing buy organic everything, and does tend to get on her about her weight, her biological dad has a weight problem and nearly his entire family has as well. She is far from obese, but she is overweight.

[beautifullytragic]

I used to do the same thing. In fact, I sometimes still do, of course, I cough it back up...but that's beside the point. Eating any less than three hours before going to bed (sleeping) is very bad for you, as your body slows down during the night. Be right on top of her and find out where she puts the stuff, the trash, when she gets it, where her "stash" is, if she has one, etc. Chack constantly.

[Hartstock]

I have an almost 11 yr old daughter who has been hiding candy and food in her room to eat after she goes to bed. Her dad has a weight problem, her dads family all has weight problems, and unfortunately she's beginning to have one. She is pretty much always allowed this kind of stuff with in reason. I've tried talking, yelling, grounding, calmly explaining...but I'm at a loss. What would get through to you?? Should I get rid of all of it and not allow it in the house? Please help me out... I'm getting desperate.
Thank you!!!!!!

I had the same problem with my older sister a couple of years ago. She got really depressed over our parents deaths and just started doing nothing all day. I found out(after three months) that taking her to the gym with me helped alot. You have a 1 year old daughter i would suggest taking the candy away(yea i know chocolate is good),Encourage her to eat more health,Show her you can stay away from sweets too, And dont let your other children have candy too, becuase that will make her want it alot more.




I used to do the same thing. In fact, I sometimes still do, of course, I cough it back up...but that's beside the point. Eating any less than three hours before going to bed (sleeping) is very bad for you, as your body slows down during the night. Be right on top of her and find out where she puts the stuff, the trash, when she gets it, where her "stash" is, if she has one, etc. Chack constantly. I do the same thing atleast once a week were i eat dinner with my gf and then just fall asleep at my house when i get home. I think it has to do what you said slows down, but i found out THROW UP or it becomes worse.

[Whisper]

This is like a year old...

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