School is Starting...

[Blazin]

Hey guys, I am starting my first year of High School, I did very bad at finding girl friends in Junior High and am hoping I can do better this new big year. I'm not sure why I did so bad, think it was because I was a little shy. Anyways, i'm looking for advice, so I am having a feeling that there is going to be A LOT of girls going to the school i'm going to. I want to make a huge first impression on a lot of them that way i'm not all lonely like Junior High. What should I do, should I just go up to a girl I think is attractive and be like "Hey, hows it going, my name is Chris"? I am really bad at this and am hoping I can do a lot better. Should I ask for her number the first day, what? Also for some reason, all of the girls I do like say "I think of you as a friend", or "You got me to the friend stage, i'm sorry". Please help me VT members, life really sucks right now and i'm hoping to make it better.

[IAMWILL]

Howd we miss this? Anyway.

Well I'm in the same position as you, I'm going into high-school, excited about all the new friendships and everything, but a little nervous and shy. This is what I've thought so far.

Just because the relationship business didn't go so well during junior high, doesn't mean you have to change yourself to make it better in high school. Theres going to be many girls there, many single, and they all will be as nervous as you, remember, they're also human. If you are a little shy, just try to think of everyone as a new beginning, new doorway, a new adventure to embark on. Its gives you energy and determination when you think of all the possibilities that are right in front of you, and all you have to do is take the first step. Now, these no guarantees that this will all work out *magically* but it should for most people you meet. Just be yourself, don't be selective and let whoever is right for you or close to it be with you. You'll find someone. And remember what they say, variety is the spice of life!

[Ender]

Looks and all that aren't important. Just try to make a bunch of friends, and if you think oner is the right one for you, try to hang out with that one and get to know her a little more, and when you think the time is right, ask her out. Make sure it's someone you actually like.

[Dead_Seeds]

I personally wouldn't walk straight over to a girl and say "hey, my names lewis" that would freak them out a little. Wait till you get into your classes and see if theres any girls in there you like, if there is then start talking to them, like "hey which school did you come from?" and "done much over the summer?", it'll take some time but it will be worth it. I had to do the same thing, but on the first day go hang around with your group of friends thats what everyone will be doing.

Hope it works out for you!

[Aneklusmos]

Its great to be friendly, but not over friendly, if you know what i mean. walking up and asking for someones number could be a little weird. Make friends, hang out with them, and have fun!

[Allspice_la_fever]

Just hang out with her. If you want to start talking to her just wait till she's in one of your classes and then start talking to her. "Hey, how's life?" "Ugh, I hate maths. What's your favourite subject?"
Eventually, when you're better friends, ask her out.

[Vaulter]

Hey, im going into my senior year, and know how your feeling. I remember my first year, and i felt like a loser because i had been invisible in jr high. Im gunna give you some advice that might or might not help.

1. Buy/checkout the books The Game, and The Rules of the Game. both by Neil Strauss. Theyre books about life, based off a guy who thought he was a nobody and started meeting people from the underground pickup artist world. Theyre amazing. I just ordered copies as gifts for my cousin whos about to turn 16. They really show you how to break out of your shell and meet people and social dynamics.

2. Dont worry about the friend stage, dont worry about getting to know them. Dating relationships dont need a basis of friendship to get started. if you want a friend, be a friend, but if you want a dating experience in high school, try to get them out, dont waste time. Most "dating" relationships start as a physical attraction anyway, then continue on with personality when you get to know the person. Make the first date something crazy and original(AND CHEAP!) Always pay for everything on the first date, it will create a good first impression. I like to take my date paddleboating or kayaking on a nearby lake, then go out to dinner and try to get to know them. Its not a dinner and a movie like the cliche.

3. You really have to learn how to talk to people. ASK questions. Don't ever let there be a lul. Girls have a tendancy not to try and continue on a conversation. Be funny and outgoing like you are with your friends, try not to be shy.

4. Talk in your classes, dont just sit there like a little emo in your chair like i did in jr high. Make sure people know who you are.

5. If you think your not "Cool" Find a cool hobby, and do original things. I played a lot of video games in jr high. Then i found longboarding, its a great thing to do for yourself, its an amazing release. Girls also think its cool to do, lots of peole think its a fad. It makes a great date activity, and if the girl has bad balance, it means you can break the touch barrier to help them stay up on the board.

6. try to Ask for a girls number the first time you meet her, unless you made a pretty bad impression you can usually get it, and youll regret not being able to talk to her.

7. Your in school, the best place to meet girls is in class. If your smart, make sure people know it. I used to love helping the occasional girl who would flirt with me so i would help her. DO NOT wander up to a girl and ask her her name, number, and relationship status. DO NOT walk up to a girl and tell her your name. If you cant meet a girl in class, find a friend of yours who knows her and have them introduce you. DO NOT get the girls number from your friend, thats creepy and stalker-tacular.

I think that might have help. I tried to break it up a little bit, but yeah. If it helped let me know so i can share that advice, if it didnt, flame me a bit so i know what not to tell people. =]