Coming out

[Jacobim Mugatu]

First of all I would like to address that I am Bisexual. Since I know none of you personally I don't mind telling all of you. However I have an urge to tell my best friend about my sexuality. I have also thought about telling my mother, but that would be incredibly stupid. I have not told one other person ever. I guess its one of those things that if you get it off your chest you feel better. The more logical side of me knows I shouldn't tell anyone, but I have a horrible urge to tell him. I also would like to add that I am not sexually attracted to my friend at all.

[YourFriend]

I have that urge too, but unfortunetly, i can't afford coming out where i live. If you completly trust your friend, if you think he wont mind, if you think he wont tell anyone, then go ahead.

[BeautifulSilence]

Ok.I was in the same situation.

I came out to my mum after being inspired by Brighton Pride :P

She didn't really react, but I've heard a lot of coming out stories, and nine times outta ten, parents already kinda knew.

Everyone's story is unique and no matter what happens, at some point, they will have to accept you for who you are. A lot of the time, people felt like a weight had been lifted, so that might be encouraging for you :)

[Jacobim Mugatu]

thank you both for you opinions, I have not yet told my friend because the only way I could talk to him today was by phone, and I don't want to tell him over the phone. I am going to tell him tomorrow. I don't think I would ever tell my parents, and I'm sure they don't know. My dad works all the time and my mom lives in Hawaii.



I just told him now over the phone. I don't think I should have come out. he hung up immediately. I now feel worse and more anxious than before.

[tommycg95]

I have that urge too, but unfortunetly, i can't afford coming out where i live. If you completly trust your friend, if you think he wont mind, if you think he wont tell anyone, then go ahead.

of course hes gonna tell some one but think of that as a good thing. instead of talking to everyone u know one at a time, u only have to talk to one person and deal with the pressure once. Then when people ask u if its true just say yes. I dont know about where u live but where i live alot of people respect that gays or bi's have the courage to come out, maybe they'll like u even more.

[meaghanlovesu]

do it if you feel confrtable

[yesitsmeren]

my coming out was horable someone at my school saw a pice of paper slip out of my notebook and a bitch picked it up and said "RENS GAY" my face was beet red

[Zero Beat]

^ Notes are the worst almost happened to me, i push over a girl so she wouldnt read it, and she was a bitch too ^

I came out to my friends at my old school, they were great. I came to my new school... maybe i was to fast to come out but they were still cool. Go with ur gut.

[The Harlequin]

thank you both for you opinions, I have not yet told my friend because the only way I could talk to him today was by phone, and I don't want to tell him over the phone. I am going to tell him tomorrow. I don't think I would ever tell my parents, and I'm sure they don't know. My dad works all the time and my mom lives in Hawaii.



I just told him now over the phone. I don't think I should have come out. he hung up immediately. I now feel worse and more anxious than before.

Dude, bad call...
If you knew it was really not a good idea to tell him over the phone and that you could wait a day ~ why the sudden change of heart?!
Besides, it might've been better to tell a female friend about it first, as (at least where I come from) girls are much more accepting of gay/bisexual dudes than guys are... (X^.

[Fourth Dimension]

I have also thought about telling my mother, but that would be incredibly stupidIm Had No Problems Telling My Friends That Im Bi 85% Of Them Know Telling My Female Friends Was Easy They Are More Understanding And When It Came To My Guy Friends I Told Them In Person And Clearly Let Them Know I Am Not Attracted To Them Ironically When I Told One Of My Best Guy Friends He Came Out To Me As Being Bi Too Lol And So That Was Kinda Cool But I Did Have One Guy Friend Who Reacted They Way Yours Did He Came Around Pretty Quick Though Im Sure Yours Will Too If Hes Your True Friend He Will Come Around And Also Telling My Mom Would Be Bad I Wanna Tell My Mom But She Has A Big Mouth I Only Wanna Tell Her And Keep It From The Rest Of My Family But She Would Blab So IDK When I Will Tell My Mom

[Jacobim Mugatu]

Thanks for all of your support everyone. my friend seems alright now, he actually didn't really believe what I said at first, but he is okay with it I guess. It doesn't seem to affect our friendship.

[Fourth Dimension]

told you if he was your true friend he would accept it

[bizarre]

you should only tell your closest friends and your parents i technichly told everyone at my school but now my perents are fine withit and liet my bf come over anytime he wants even when they are gone