Mixed Feelings?

[Beautiful Obsession]

Well i slept at my mates house a few months ago, and this lad asked me out on msn, and my mate said yeahh even though i didnt want to, so the next day i finished with him. obviously. well since then hes either been askng me out, sayin he relli likes me, or asking me if i would ever get back with him, and i havnt really thought about it, but a week ago i found out he was going out with someone, and i gt abit jealous, and i dont know why.. maybe i do like him?

but today he goes to me on msn dont say anyting but i fancy you, actually its more like i love you!! and i really didnt know how to react, its the first time anyone has ever said they loved me before.. and it was on msn.. but the thing is hes stil going out with this girl. and im not sure if i like him, because i was jealous i thought i did, but now i really dont now. i know if i said anything he would finish with this girl, as he already said. but i dont really want to be with someone who tells another girl he loves them while going out with someone else, wots stopping him from doin the same to me? and plus apparently he only keeps going back to this girl because she has sex with him, gives him blowjobs and she lets him finger her, but im not ready for any of that?

i just dont know if i have feelings for him or not? and hes telling me he loves me!!

HELP!! :confused:

[Natoja12]

ur 14, dont have sex. its my age. and i regret even letting someone finger me.

I think u should give him a try, but dont get to attached, make sure u can trust him first.

[Josh9961]

I agree with Natoja, don't have sex with someone unless youre ready. Its worth giving him a chance if you feel something for him but make sure he understands you wont be doing anything you dont want to :rolleyes:

[Allspice_la_fever]

That sounds like what happened to me.
He asked me out and I said yes but I didn't really like him too much. I went out with him for two days before breaking up with him. He kept asking for a second chance and I couldn't give it to him. Then one day, he asked out my friend, it was joke and I didn't know. I felt sooooo jealous. Then I started noticing him more. I started to wonder if I liked him. Finally, when he asked me out again I said yes. For two weeks after that we didn't see each other and we just spoke on msn, so when in the end when we went back to scool it wasn't too awkward. We became really close. We broke up two months ago but since then we are good friends.
Try it, if it works YAY! If it doesn't, you'd have given it a shot.
No, sex is not a good idea at 14. Especially to someone who you're not even sure about.

[IAMWILL]

Hmmmm... hmmmm...

Okay, 1) You felt a bit jealous when you heard he was going out with someone else because that someone else stole your attention. This boy was giving you attention, and no matter what, every person on earth likes some form of attention. He made you feel special, even if it was in a kinda creepy cyber-stalker vibe. When you heard that this other person was his boyfriend, you felt that you no longer recieved the attention you did from this boy before, which is why you are jealous, because you want that attention back.

2) I wouldn't go out with him. He either is lying or is using another girl to make you jealous which you've felt just so he can get you, which is not at all what a sincere and good person would do (in my opinion), or hes just really stupid. Either way, its a no for me. Besides, do you even know him? Have you ever met him in person? You never know anything until you do.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Thanks everyone for your advice!! and i definatly wont have sex with him. but if hes havin sex with utha people he wud expect it off me.. which i wouldnt!

and IAMWILL in answer to your question. i do know him from school but i really dont know if i like him

thanks everyone again.. xx

[IAMWILL]

Well, you've made the most basic right decision anyway. Good luck!

[Beautiful Obsession]

:) and also.. hes goin out with this girl.. i would say im good mates with her. but i do sometimes talk to her.. and i wouldnt want to be the cause of someone splitting up, im just not that type of person! x

[Aηdy]

he only keeps going back to this girl because she has sex with him, gives him blowjobs and she lets him finger her, but im not ready for any of that?

I think you pretty much answered your own question there. It very much sounds like he wants a physical relationship more than anything else, which sadly is very often the case. And saying things like 'i love you', which really wont have any meaning.

It's up to you, but I think you should stay away hun :)

[AllThatIsLeft]

Will pretty much got it.
You are jealous, but only because someone else is getting the attention you were.
It doesn't mean you like him, it just means that even if you don't want him, you still want his attention to be on you.

Sex is obviously off the charts here, barely know each other, and you WILL regret it.
Though u already said you wouldnt, which is good.

On the other hand, NEVER feel pressured to have sex because that other person is sexually active, if that person cares for you, they will wait until YOU are ready.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Thanks Guyss.. So Glad I Joined VT Theres Sumet For Everything Aint There Haha:D

Thanks Again :) xxx

[kyle95]

dont swallow one word he says. saying "i love you" is easy for a self centred player. he loves himself, period. so dont fan the flames any further by throwing yourself into the sick mix. he playing you for a fool, trying to "train" you how you ought to behave and pleasure him. keep away. wait for the right bloke to tell "i love you" and he will really mean it.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Thankss :D xx