it hurts when we.. and he can't make me..

[hardcore-smile]

Hi :)
so when me and my boyfriend have sex or when he fingers me, afterwards it hurts really bad my vagina burns after. What's going on? also if we go to the doctors can he do/give anything that would help out with my problem.

Also, when we have sex and when he fingers me, it feels really good during, but my boyfriend can never make me orgasm, is there something wrong with me? also, can the doctor do anything to help me out with this ?

Btw. I'm fifteen,

thanks so much <3

[Hughesy]

I can't be too sure about the burning, but it's very normal for you not to reach the big O. Make sure you give him pointers to what you like, if you can make yourself have an orgasm, take notes on what you do and let him know, trust me, all he wants when he's down there is to make you feel as good as possible, experiment, there's no need to see a doctor for your orgasms, but I'm not sure about the burning.

Reaching a climax can sometimes be as easy as trying a new position, or new style, like being handcuffed or you playing a dominant role, dirty talk, there are plenty of different things that could stimulate you, you just need to figure them out. :)

[hardcore-smile]

thank you <3

[Hughesy]

No worries. :)

[Donkey]

Your best bet is to see a doctor in case there's something there that's making it especially sensitive. Unless your boyfriend is too rough on you, there shouldn't be any pain when he's fingering you.

[Θάνατος]

Your best bet is to see a doctor in case there's something there that's making it especially sensitive. Unless your boyfriend is too rough on you, there shouldn't be any pain when he's fingering you.

I agree.

The thing here is have your boyfriend go slow and finger around the clit and outer lips first before inserting his finger in the vagina.

He needs to make sure you are aroused and are ready to be fingered. Have him go slow and allow your outer and inner labia to open up on their own.

Here is an excerpt from wikipedia:

The concentration of the nerve endings that lie close to the entrance of a woman's vagina can provide pleasurable sensation during sexual activity, when stimulated in a way that the particular woman enjoys. During sexual arousal, and particularly the stimulation of the clitoris, the walls of the vagina self-lubricate. This reduces friction that can be caused as a result of various sexual activities. Research has found that portions of the clitoris extend into the vulva and vagina.

With arousal, the vagina lengthens rapidly to an average of about 4 in.(8.5 cm), but can continue to lengthen in response to pressure. As the woman becomes fully aroused, the vagina tents (last ²⁄₃ expands in length and width) while the cervix retracts. The walls of the vagina are composed of soft elastic folds of mucous membrane skin which stretch or contract (with support from pelvic muscles) to the size of the inserted penis.


I hope this will help you. Remember one thing it is important that you guide your b/f to finger you in a way that is pleasurable to you. It will benefit the both of you.

[nick]

I don't think you should have a burning feeling afterwards, it would be worth asking the doctor about that.

When you say you dont orgasm when your bf fingers you, the question I have is can you make yourself orgasm by fingering when you're on your own? If you can, you should be able to teach him what you like. Maybe he is concentrating on the inside too much and you need him to find your clit? Maybe you just don't feel relaxed enough when you're with another person? Does he give up too soon?

Have you thought about trying oral, would he be willing if it was "fair shares for all", he should be willing if he loves you.

[IAMWILL]

Try to keep it clean you guys, this is getting a bit to explicit. Good advice though, keep it up.

[bombasticdude]

hny there is nthn wrong with u...but i guess ur b/f didnt find a way in....for a girls sex is abt love...not only the physical thing...thats why u call it ''love makin'' :)... try to cuddle more often b4 the real deal...that will make u more ready for an orgasm

[Grey fox]

MIght be you're not turned on or relaxed enough. because then your body won't secrete the fluids which lubricate you "down there" which prevent friction which i'm pretty certain is causing the burning.

Also, not being turned on/relaxed enough would explain your inability to orgasm.

The Wiki article someone else posted is good.

Try exploring new things with your boyfreind, to find hat really gets you going, it should be fun anyway ;)

[kyle95]

i don't know much about the first part to your question but it does sound like you may need to see a doctor. as for the second part, it's your bf. he must learn to take it easy and pay attention to your needs, not his and to be in synch with your body reaction as you get closer.

[alex95]

i think its because your a virgin that piece of skin inside has to tear when it does it means your not a virgin so maybe he keeps hiting that piece of skin and its bruising.

[ackmedsgirl666]

could u also maybe have a yeast infection. i have had one in the past and it has been extremly painful whenever i finger myself

[Triceratops]

Due to a banned member bumping this thread when it was one month old, I'm locking this.
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