How should i tell my mom about my cutting?

[sweetxnovember]

Well, i finally decided enough is enough. I'm through with harming myself, i need to grow up and get help because i realize i can't do this by myself. Thing is..I'm not sure how to start the conversation. I don't know what to say, how to put it in a way that doesn't make it feel like its her fault. I'm so scared. Pleasssssseeeeeeeeeeeeee help.

[Cloud]

jsut sit her down
make sure shes not holding anything and jsut say
"mum ive got something i need to tell you"
and jsut tell her
rehearse what your going to say so you know exactly what youwill do and say and so you know if it sounds right or not

its good that youve made the decision to tell her this and that youve chose to try to get help
well done

[The Joker]

I'm with Calum on this, but be careful, this is a big thing, she might freak out, but hopefully, not.

[sweetxnovember]

jsut sit her down
make sure shes not holding anything and jsut say
"mum ive got something i need to tell you"
and jsut tell her
rehearse what your going to say so you know exactly what youwill do and say and so you know if it sounds right or not

its good that youve made the decision to tell her this and that youve chose to try to get help
well done

It can't be that simple can it? I mean, i don't want to just blurt it out. It seems easier than it actually is. I think i might take a day or two and try to decide what I'll say. I just needed some conversation starters from everybody here.

What I'm worried about is my brother who torments me and my mom day in and day out. His abuse makes me sick. He's made fun of people who self harm and said their such p*ssies, why cant they just deal with it like a real man? Why don't they just kill themselves already f***ing emos. But meanwhile he has friends who cut themselves. I know i shouldn't care what he thinks, but he's the real reason i started cutting. I'm just scared about what he'll say when he finds out.

[Triceratops]

No, it can't be that simple.
Although it is firmly the right choice to make.

Your mom is going to be a lot less outraged by the fact you have plucked up the courage to tell her face-to-face about the self-harming instead of her finding out for herself (due to the appearance of scars or catching you in the act etc).

Explain to your mom about how you feel towards your brother making cruel comments and how it affects you since you self-harm yourself. Tell her that this upsets you. If he was the real reason why you began cutting than that definitely needs to be brought up when confessing to your mom about self-harming.

I wish you luck with this. Your mom may actually understand and be supportive, try and take that chance. :)

[Requin]

I would give rep to Marcie but it won't let me, so this will have to do. :)

They're right as usual, its not simple or easy as that. But you can make it easier, as you say. Rehearsing what your going to say is fine. Do it in front of a mirror when you've decided how to approach the matter. More self confidence and belief that way.
I wish you good luck. Your half way there already just by telling yourself that you've had enough.

Go for it, take your time, and it'll all go well I hope. :)

[Project Delta]

And if you dont feel you can do it face to face do it by text, and explain that it is hard to talk about it, You can do this and it will help you so much. Trust us as we are all very knowledgable on the subject. As most of us have been through it. Its great to hear that you want to talk to your mum about it and we obviously fully recommend that you do.

Good Luck
~Aaron

[BuryYourFlame]

If you really feel that you can't tell her face to face, I suggest doing it via note or something, it will take the initial shock out of the conversation, and give both you and her time to think of what to say. Although it is a useful tool, the note should only really be a last resort, as there is more of a connection when saying it face to face, and allows for more emotion, that could quite easily give you two a far stronger relationship.

hope it all goes well :)

[Triceratops]

As Declan has stated, it's highly recommended that you use writing a note or texting her this confession as an ultimate last resort. Telling her straight to her face is solely the more applicable and pertinent option.

[OnlyByTheNight.]

When I told my dads girlfriend about my cutting I just started by telling her that I was doing something that I shouldn't be. When she asked me what it is was I told her I was too embarrassed to say it out loud so I wrote it to her in a text.
Maybe you could do that? You should tell her that it is your brother that is driving you to doing it, maybe she could do something about that then if she knew.
Good luck tell, your very brave to do it.

[YesterdaysNews]

when you do tell her, if you're afraid that your brother will torment you, why dont you ask her to keep it to herself, or just not tell your brother. tell her that it took you alot of courage to just come forward to her and you arent ready for your entire family to know just yet. it might take some stress off your shoulders.

best of luck :]

[kt2369]

like other people said, go and tell her. and just tell her that you want some help. im sure she will understand

[sweetxnovember]

When I told my dads girlfriend about my cutting I just started by telling her that I was doing something that I shouldn't be. When she asked me what it is was I told her I was too embarrassed to say it out loud so I wrote it to her in a text.
Maybe you could do that? You should tell her that it is your brother that is driving you to doing it, maybe she could do something about that then if she knew.
Good luck tell, your very brave to do it.

I love the idea, i think i might tell her this way. I also can't thank all of you enough, you have no idea how much it means to me that you're all helping me. It's gonna be hard, but I'm hoping to take a few days and think about how I'm going to word everything. I'll be sure to let you guys know how it goes. Again thanks sooo much to everyone who responded.

[Project Delta]

All i can say now is good luck and all the best :)

[Beautiful Obsession]

It's not going to be easy but well done for finding the courage to tell her bbe:D

but i wudnt reherse what your going to say casue it will make you more nervous and you will find it more hard to tell her and also theres more chance you will back out of it,

but you need to make sure shes in a good mood, then wen your ready just say mum, this is really difficult for me, but please dont go mad.. etc etc

good luck bbe tel us how it goes! xx

[OnlyByTheNight.]

I love the idea, i think i might tell her this way. I also can't thank all of you enough, you have no idea how much it means to me that you're all helping me. It's gonna be hard, but I'm hoping to take a few days and think about how I'm going to word everything. I'll be sure to let you guys know how it goes. Again thanks sooo much to everyone who responded.

I'm glad you've figured out how your going to tell her.
Good luck and let us know how you get on! :D

[DecemberRain]

Maybe bring up what your brother has said about people who self harm and then lead into telling her that you do it. And if you don't want your brother finding out tell her that. I told my mom. It wasn't easy but I did it. I have a brother and a sister and they still don't know what I did. I got help and they never knew a thing. Good luck with talking to your mom.

[sweetxnovember]

I don't know if i can do this anymore..Sometimes i feel like i can tell her and just not give a sh*t, but other times i feel stupid for even posting this wasting everybody's time. I felt like superman posting this the other day, nothing could stop me from telling her. Even now while I'm typing this I'm having mixed feelings about telling her. I'm going between feeling invincible to just wanting to break down, start crying, and wanting to die. I've never felt so helpless in my entire life.

I'm sorry.

[MadManWithaBox]

it is hard telling people but once its done you will feel like a massive weight has been lifted off your shoulders, trust me. write her a letter, sned her an email. or sit her down and just say, dont even think about it, just say it. once its said its said.

[OnlyByTheNight.]

I don't know if i can do this anymore..Sometimes i feel like i can tell her and just not give a sh*t, but other times i feel stupid for even posting this wasting everybody's time. I felt like superman posting this the other day, nothing could stop me from telling her. Even now while I'm typing this I'm having mixed feelings about telling her. I'm going between feeling invincible to just wanting to break down, start crying, and wanting to die. I've never felt so helpless in my entire life.

I'm sorry.

I know how you feel, I felt this way about telling for ages before I finally just went for it and said it.
Just do it when you are in a good mood. The next time you feel "invincible" just go for it. Don't even think about it, just go and tell her.
And there's no reason to say sorry to us, it is a really hard thing to do and you are very brave to do it, it's only natural you will get second thoughts about it.

Good luck. X