I know it's been asked a thousand times...

[BehindBlueEyes]

Alright, I'm 15, and I have a humiliation fetish, and one of my favorite fantasies is getting raped by a guy (Usually while a girl is watching). I still jerk off to girls, but the gay/bi fantasies are a lot funner.

DOES THIS MAKE ME GAY? I have never been attracted to any man I've met, but I've been attracted to many girls. In fact, in these fantasies, I always try not to imagine the guy's face because I've never met a man that has looked good. Still, I jerk off to this particular one a lot more than all my straight fantasies. Does this mean I am gay?

[MoveAlong]

HOW CAN YOU BE GAY IF YOU LIKE WOMEN????

...is my question to you. As a gay man myself, I can cite myself as a reference that says that gay men don't like the pussy.
Do you like the pussy? Do you like the boobies? You are probably NOT gay then.

But in this case this may be a particular fetish while you're going through puberty, or you might be bisexual and not know it yet.

[BehindBlueEyes]

TBH, I did a google search of vagina, and the pictures I saw made me want to gag. I did a search of penis, and I found myself aroused. GAH. I'm so confused, I feel like I'm gonna cry. I remember reading online that to truly be gay, you had to feel an emotional attachment to men, not just sexual, but I've also read that you only need to be sexual to do it. But if that's true, then how come I've never met a guy in real life that I thought was hot? I've met girls that I thought were hot...JESUS FUCK I HATE THIS SHIT.

[Θάνατος]

You are not gay just because you fantasize about being raped by a guy.

[MoveAlong]

TBH, I did a google search of vagina, and the pictures I saw made me want to gag.

It's true, they look pretty gnarly. Why do you think us gays dislike them? :P
Someone new to the whole sexual thing might find them unappealing and then later warm up to it.

I did a search of penis, and I found myself aroused.

This could be because either you're bi, or because penis=something sexual, so you get a boner.

I remember reading online that to truly be gay, you had to feel an emotional attachment to men, not just sexual, but I've also read that you only need to be sexual to do it.

That's still a debate on our forums right now. A lot of people are undecided about just what classifies you as gay or straight or bisexual. It's also especially confusing with hormones from puberty are mixed into it.

I believe that the whole "emotional" aspect to it comes a little later than the physical aspect. See, learning how to love or learning what love is, is complicated. It's difficult to figure this "emotional/mental" attraction out.

But the physical aspect is sometimes obvious. The way I found out was because I even though I know a woman can be beautiful, I still have this...huge attraction to men. I always enjoyed the boy-boy porn, not the girl-girl or girl-boy porn.

JESUS FUCK I HATE THIS SHIT.

Just calm down. It's not the end of the world. Puberty is a complicated, winding road, and sexuality is just a lane in that road. At least you're pondering this now, not in your thirties when you don't know whether to look for someone to father a child with or adopt, or marriage or if you're gonna stay single all your life, blah blah blah....it seems easier to just figure it out in your teens.

[BehindBlueEyes]

Alright...I only jerk off to gay erotica, actually. With porn, it's got to be lesbians, or else it's not hot. I've looked at gay porn, and it's actually disgusted me. Still, vagina doesn't look good, but every other part of the female body does. See, this is what confuses me. I think I must be the most unique person on earth when it comes to this.

[MoveAlong]

Alright...I only jerk off to gay erotica, actually. With porn, it's got to be lesbians, or else it's not hot. I've looked at gay porn, and it's actually disgusted me. Still, vagina doesn't look good, but every other part of the female body does. See, this is what confuses me. I think I must be the most unique person on earth when it comes to this.

no no no don't worry you're not alone on that.
Many men like to watch lesbian porn because they don't like watching the guy in guy-girl porn.

To tell you the truth a lot of gay porn is a little ehhhh. Like the whole rimming thing. I mean a lot of it is just...eeehh

And like I said, pussy looks gnarly. Maybe you don't enjoy it now, maybe you'll enjoy it later. But we're not focusing on that :P

anyways I'll let some other people reply too...

[pontiacdriver]

Alright, I'm 15, and I have a humiliation fetish, and one of my favorite fantasies is getting raped by a guy (Usually while a girl is watching). I still jerk off to girls, but the gay/bi fantasies are a lot funner.

DOES THIS MAKE ME GAY? I have never been attracted to any man I've met, but I've been attracted to many girls. In fact, in these fantasies, I always try not to imagine the guy's face because I've never met a man that has looked good. Still, I jerk off to this particular one a lot more than all my straight fantasies. Does this mean I am gay?

I think your issue is not whether or not you are gay or bi-sexual but it is the fact that you would enjoy getting hurt while having sex. Personally, I think your focus on having a male in your fantasy is misguided, and you need to really ask yourself why you feel the need to get raped as part of your sexual fantasies. After all, there might be some underlying self esteem issues here, and you could feel that you are inadequete in some way. Perhaps you are seeking love and attention from an older male figure in your life be it your Father or older brother and that this fantasy is someone a reflection of your inner pain? Well, whatever your issue may be I think you really need to get this humiliation fetish handled as you don't want to get older have have such a thing as it can really hurt future relationships. It is one thing to have a foot fetish or other physical fetishes, but to have a fetish that is negative towards your very being is not a good thing. Again, the issue here is not your fantasizing about sex with men but rather that you would even want to be raped and get off on that.

My guess is that you are straight, but no one can say that with certainty as well cannot get in your mind. Being gay is so much more than a physical act with a man, and being gay means that you actually want to have a relationship with another man, too. If you find that you want to have a relationship with another man as well as women, then you are basically bi-sexual. Obvious, if your focus is on men only, then you could be gay.

Basically, deal with your fetish first, and don't really worry about the other things as you need to have a basic sense of self worth.

[geniusrocksoutloud]

Doesnt seem like your gay to me. Its normal to watch gay and bi!

[YourFriend]

No it doesn't make you gay!!! Read other threads about this! You are only gay if you have attraction to only guys!!!

[Donkey]

Puberty gets you some weird feelings from all the hormones that are coming in o your body and can make you attracted to guys even if you aren't gay. Fetishes are just that, nothing wrong with them as long as they just stay in your head.

It's fine to be aroused by penises. It doesn't make you gay if you are still sexually attracted to women. (bi-sexual, but) During puberty, deciding your sexuality is stupid because you get rid of these weird feelings caused by hormones that make you feel like this towards genders you won't be attracted to after puberty. So don't decide your sexuality yet.

[BehindBlueEyes]

I think your issue is not whether or not you are gay or bi-sexual but it is the fact that you would enjoy getting hurt while having sex. Personally, I think your focus on having a male in your fantasy is misguided, and you need to really ask yourself why you feel the need to get raped as part of your sexual fantasies. After all, there might be some underlying self esteem issues here, and you could feel that you are inadequete in some way. Perhaps you are seeking love and attention from an older male figure in your life be it your Father or older brother and that this fantasy is someone a reflection of your inner pain? Well, whatever your issue may be I think you really need to get this humiliation fetish handled as you don't want to get older have have such a thing as it can really hurt future relationships. It is one thing to have a foot fetish or other physical fetishes, but to have a fetish that is negative towards your very being is not a good thing. Again, the issue here is not your fantasizing about sex with men but rather that you would even want to be raped and get off on that.

My guess is that you are straight, but no one can say that with certainty as well cannot get in your mind. Being gay is so much more than a physical act with a man, and being gay means that you actually want to have a relationship with another man, too. If you find that you want to have a relationship with another man as well as women, then you are basically bi-sexual. Obvious, if your focus is on men only, then you could be gay.

Basically, deal with your fetish first, and don't really worry about the other things as you need to have a basic sense of self worth.

You know, I think you're right. I've never really been turned on by the fact that it's a guy, but by the fact that I'm being forced to do something I don't want (That's why a girl is usually there). I don't know why this is. I do have self-esteem problems, not many friends, so maybe these things leak over into my sexual interests or something. I'm not sure.

Thanks for the responses though guys. It really helped.

[CestDan]

You are not gay. Now, remember that those are just fantasies and they're not real. Secondly, we are teenagers, It's normal that we can have those kind of fantasies about the same sex so, don't worry.

[BehindBlueEyes]

You are not gay. Now, remember that those are just fantasies and they're not real. Secondly, we are teenagers, It's normal that we can have those kind of fantasies about the same sex so, don't worry.

Yeah, but it's my favorite fantasy. I mean, are they just supposed to be occasional, or what?

[tommycg95]

I agree with Zach o lantern. Im gay and i like penises i do not like women to me they just dont satisfy me. If you think the same way i do than ur gay if not than ur st8

[bowlheadhere]

This does not make you "gay", for this is simply a fantasy and in order to be "gay" you must be emotionally and physically attracted to males. From what I have read, you are nor emotionally or physically attracted to males. As I have said in my other posts on VT (which concern the "gay/bi/straight/straight curious" situation, a national study was conducted during which males were asked "You have two television screens in front of you. One screen shows a video of the male genitalia, and the other shows female genitalia, but you can only watch one! Which one would you watch?" After asking males from all over the United States, the choice to masterbate/pay attention to the male genitalia was clearly dominant. You may simply find the male genitalia more attractive than that of the females.

Hope this helps.

[iceyfresh]

Its raging hormones dosen't meen your gay it basically means your going through a phase where certain thing arouse you that may not be so atractive later. If you don't think your gay then you probobally aren't.